Desperate Emo Question

Just be honest & tell the truth. The reply will probably hurt, but at least you'll both know and you'll be able to cope with the truth instead of acting as if it doesn't exist.

you have to tell him

Shit.

Oh shit.

no doubt, you'll really regret it if you don't

Did you really expect us to tell you to keep it to yourself and lie to you both?

it's hard, stan

but really, no one ever dies saying "i wish i had done less in pursuit of love"

I know, I've been there. But at least we're still friends and I'm even friends with her boyfriend. I'm @ peace with it & glad we talked about it.

Yeah a good friendship will usuall endure such a declaration. As long as, if you get the answer you DONT want, you dont then mess shit up by pursuing it any further/being clingy. I wish I'd worked THAT one out years ago heh. Tho in fairness Ive never fallen in love with male friends. My male friends are friends BECAUSE I am not attracted to them.

Also lfam OTM. Love is always worth pursuing.

FOR THE RECORD THIS THRED WAS NOT STARTED BY ME INCOGNITO

/king emo

<i>If you get the answer you DONT want, you dont then mess shit up by pursuing it any further/being clingy. </i>

I feel that I have already gotten the answer I don't want, subtly, but nothing has ever been said so directly. I don't entirely trust myself not to mess shit up by pursuing it further, short of completely cutting off all communication, and wonder if this statement would amount to exactly that; but a) I've never actually said it or anything like it to him, and b) no matter what happens I really want him to know how much I love him, AND BUT c) again, I would do and give anything not to ruin the friendship. He seems not to have been particularly rattled by anything that has gone down so far, and I think really wants for us to be friends.

i think you should tell him, but just lay it all out, like you've done here: tell him that you love him in a romantic kinda way, but that it's the friendship from which this love has sprung that is more important than anything else, and that you just wanted to make your feelings clear because you're such good friends. yes, it may cause awkwardness, but i think if you emphasise that the friendship is so dear to you it will ease that awkwardness.

and you never know - it's always possible your friend has similar feelings.

Postscript: I finally told him, just recently, and it is working out in surprising and very nice ways. My very best wishes to all who posted above.

:)

(In other words, Rubyred's last sentence OTM.)

:)

Aw! Thanks for the postscript!

ooh that makes me very happy :)

Still going strong 2 1/2 years later. <3.

awwwwww shucks

this story made me kinda happy

awesome thread, thanks.

Damn, I thought this said Desperate Elmo Question.

wow.

ctrl-sock ;)

No sockpuppet. this is on the real.

:)

I love you stan

oh! okay, no sock here, this is the table is the table speaking.

so....

i'm in a weirdly similar boat right now. i'm in love with this person. he also clearly has feelings for me, as when we haven't seen each other for a few days (we're both kind of busy in different ways), he calls or we ignore our work and chat on the gmail or fbook for hours. we lend each other books and clothes. we make out every so often.

on valentine's day, when i was blacked-out drunk at this punk show, i told his best friend (and a good friend of mine) that i was in love with him. i dunno if he (transitionin ftm btw) would tell my beloved, but i assume that beloved already knows.... to make matters worse, about 20 minutes after i told his best friend, i started making out in a hardcore way with another boy whom i've had a friend-crush on for ages. and the next night at the show, the beloved was making out with this cute german boy who just moved to the area, in front of me, as what i took to be a little bit of a fuck you. as he probably took what i did the night before, tho in both of our defenses, everyone was obliterated on whiskey and beer and dancing.

um. i know i'm a fuck-up, but i think about him night and day. and i really love him. i haven't felt this strongly about someone for a while. so do i just be direct and hope for the best, like the poster above? or do i just keep it in until things start to go my way, maybe?

if it makes any difference, he just finished college, i'm a couple of years older, we're both kind of sleeping around with people at the moment, but also have talked about how those sorts of relationships aren't really what we're looking for, in the long run.

Dude there is clearly something there. I mean there are some complications but nothing you can't work out afaict. You make it sound worth it.

I found the web of making out very complicated.

i think about him night and day. and i really love him. i haven't felt this strongly about someone for a while. so do i just be direct and hope for the best

Yes.

yeah srsly, pull the trigger!

thx for advice... if i don't see him today, i certainly will tomorrow. uh.. so, who knows. depends a little on the atmosphere we're in. but soon..

:(

:)

I haven't felt this way in years. :(

:))))

...Yeah, fuck that motherfucker. FIN

:(

but :) for the bits between the first and last post.

2 years pass...

:(

― *sad hug eomticon* (Control Z), Saturday, June 2, 2012 8:37 AM (10 months ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

4 months pass...

:)

― *rad hug eomticon* (Control Z), Sunday, October 21, 2012 9:54 AM (6 months ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

:))))

― *rad hug eomticon* (Control Z), Saturday, December 29, 2012 2:53 PM (3 months ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

3 months pass...

...Yeah, fuck that motherfucker. FIN

― *rad hug eomticon* (Control Z), Sunday, April 28, 2013 7:38 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this puts that hemingway baby shoes shit in a headlock