The notion of a soul mate: C or D?

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What do you think about the idea of a soul mate? Is there such a thing or do you think it's just a fantasy? Do you think you've found your soul mate and if so why are they your soul mate? Alternatively, did you once have a soul mate who you've let go and why did you let them go?

― Penny Lane, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

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― Penny Lane, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Let go or got let go by? For instance.

― Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Fantasy. There's nothing more euphoric than first discovering someone who seems like every bit of your soul mate at the time, but that's usually a really brutal comedown when cold hard reality sets in. Thankfully, I could get along for an extended period of time with someone who may not be the girl of my dreams but is close enough.

― Brian MacDonald, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Pure Bullshit. I think it betrays how much effort real reationships ars

― anthony, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I think having friends who only like one kind of music is unfortunate but inevitable. I must admit I prefer my soul mate to my rock mate and the David Grey mate (who I have completely cut out of my life).

― Pete, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

DO YOU SEE?

― Emma, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Hanging out with Emma and Pete makes me think soul mates are overrated.

― Tom, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

FUCK OFF EWING.

― Emma, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Sorry to be so shouty today. I am in quite a good mood really.

― Emma, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I will agree that the notion is daft. Some people will find any excuse to call someone a soulmate though.

"You like Guided By Voices too? Oh wow, we're, like, soulmates!!!"

I wouldn't say my gf is my soulmate by any stretch of the imagination. But we do co-exist very well and very happily and that's far more important IMO.

― electric sound of jim, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Mrs k-rad is my soulmate. We are both complete cranx. Nobody else would put up with me, and to be honest the same goes for her I think sometimes (looks over shoulder) the notion of Soulmate" "somebody out theeyer just right 4 u " = complete classic IMO, especially if yer not much of a "pick", so to speak. This has been a k-l0\/\/s3lf 35t33|\/| br04dk45t u fux0rz!@#!@#~

― Norman Phay, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I thought I found my soulmate, and the feeling continued unabated until he broke up with me. I still feel like we really were, and that he made a big mistake.

― Sean, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

yeah, what anthony said. relationships are a shitload of work, and people who think they shouldn't be a lot of work are fukkin dumm. the concept of soul-mate is a bigass sham, i rekkin. sure, some people might meet someone that they feel they want to be with for the rest of their life, but i don't think that means they are a soul-mate. and where do platonic friends come into this? i am as close to some of my platonic friends as i have been to partners - the notion of soulmate degrades platonic friendship and turns sex into more of a big deal than it really is or should be.

― di, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

my self-declared soulmate is not my and has never been my lovah (she's someone's else's lovah who is not her soulmate: to be honest i am a bit shaky on the math there); my best confidante is not and has never been my lovah nor really my soulmate i wouldn't say (we're v.close because we're so different inside maybe)

neither of these relationships is at all hard to sustain except distancewise: i think sex wd haf exploded them both like stinkbombs

― mark s, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

i used to belive in them until she ripped out my soul via a phone line from buenos aires to a psychiatric clinic in Brisbane.

― Queen G, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

could be possible, but...

someone being your 'soulmate' doesn't necessarily mean that they're the kind of person you could have a good relationship with.

― Justyn Dillingham, Tuesday, 26 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Kinda hard to answer, what would be your definition for soulmate...or would it be different for everyone? If this is about the whole "one true love" thing, then, no, I don't think anyone has a predestined pair. And even if they did, what are the chances of them meeting that person in the short decades we humans live? There are just so many people out there in this world now, that it'd be really hard to locate and meet this person...unless of course you are constantly meeting everyone you see...but that would be hard too.

I don't think I've found my soul mate then...nope.

― kimera, Wednesday, 27 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

yes, but if they're tailor made by destiny especially for you, then you *will* find them. dinnae be feart. the hand of lady luck will lead you into her lair of love.

― nickie, Wednesday, 27 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Fuck lady luck and the horse she rode in on.

― N., Wednesday, 27 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Always thought you were Lady Luck's soulmate, N., but I can see now you are the horse's.

― Tim, Wednesday, 27 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

is it granite or slate, nick?

― nickie, Wednesday, 27 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Some kind of cheap composite.

― N., Wednesday, 27 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

some sort of manmuck

― nickie, Wednesday, 27 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Shut up.

― N., Wednesday, 27 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

one year passes...

classic

― Mary (Mary), Friday, 25 July 2003 04:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Classic, but perhaps not uniquely so. I.e. I believe there are quite a few potential soulmates and you have to be ready for it.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Friday, 25 July 2003 05:23 (twenty-two years ago)

I think the idea of a soulmate is a great idea. I know that I have found mine. That said, you don't find your soulmate & that's it, you just kick back & the relationship happens without your participation. Oh no! It's still fucking hard work, but you will be more understanding & more understood, more supportive & more supported, (you get the genreral idea!) than ever before. If this person truly is your soulmate you connect on lots of levels. I am lucky to have found mine.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 25 July 2003 07:20 (twenty-two years ago)

I also believe you can find soulmates in friends, although this may be something slightly different. hmm who knows? NB. I havent had any tea yet!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 25 July 2003 07:21 (twenty-two years ago)

I wouldn't say classic/dud but i would say I think the idea is a bunch of crap that puts unreleastic expecatations on people. So no, I don't not believe in "The One".

― Texas Sam (thatgirl), Friday, 25 July 2003 07:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Spencer & Sam OTM. Nothing more damaging than the idea that once you find "The One", you have to make it work or else it's cold and darkness forever.

Well, maybe a tank.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Friday, 25 July 2003 08:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I think so, too, but wouldn't it be nice?

(in some ways...)

― luna (luna.c), Friday, 25 July 2003 08:55 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think people should put pressure on themselves to find 'the one'. If you happen to meet up with someone whom you are compatible with, great. Don't sweat over it. If you want it to last then strive to keep it, if you feel it's too much of a struggle, then it's prob not right anyway.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 25 July 2003 09:06 (twenty-two years ago)

you can be great with someone. then it's time to move on. I don't believe in forever really. (although obv. I did at one point enough to marry). And there's no pressure to find the next "One for the time being." I quite enjoy being unattached.

― Texas Sam (thatgirl), Friday, 25 July 2003 09:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh yeah of course, if you haven't found the person you'd like to spend your life with (i like to believe in forever) then be happy with the mr right now. cliched as it sounds!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 25 July 2003 09:10 (twenty-two years ago)

complete fantasy. total + utter rubbish. no such thing as a soul mate.

and anyway she went off with someone else so balls to the both of em.

― piscesboy, Friday, 25 July 2003 12:24 (twenty-two years ago)

dud until i find one.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:27 (twenty-two years ago)

I am beginning to think you are a bot, Julio.

― Ally (mlescaut), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:33 (twenty-two years ago)

I am a kraft bot ally.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Does a soulmate necessarily have to be romantic, though? Because I really do think I have two soulmates! My sister and my boyfriend.

― Mandee, Friday, 25 July 2003 13:20 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm sort of opposed to this notion. I think some people suit us better than others, and we try to get with someone who fits us very well. I don't think it's a binary thing at all.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 25 July 2003 20:22 (twenty-two years ago)

It's not about finding a soulmate. It's about finding someone whose neuroses are compatible with yours.

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Friday, 25 July 2003 20:31 (twenty-two years ago)

i completely agree.

― Texas Sam (thatgirl), Friday, 25 July 2003 20:33 (twenty-two years ago)

it's more about finding someone who will hold your head while you vomit up yr booze

― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Friday, 25 July 2003 20:44 (twenty-two years ago)

that too.

― Texas Sam (thatgirl), Friday, 25 July 2003 20:48 (twenty-two years ago)

I could just use someone to tell me when I've had enough.

― Mr. Diamond (diamond), Friday, 25 July 2003 20:53 (twenty-two years ago)

it's more about finding someone who will hold your head while you vomit up yr booze

But you can't BOTH be vomiting up booze. Those are incompatible neuroses. In the long term, anyway.

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Friday, 25 July 2003 20:57 (twenty-two years ago)

You have to take turns, as in all good relationships.

― Texas Sam (thatgirl), Friday, 25 July 2003 20:59 (twenty-two years ago)

what about the 69?

― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Friday, 25 July 2003 21:01 (twenty-two years ago)

boy that was a disturbing question in context

― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Friday, 25 July 2003 21:01 (twenty-two years ago)

it crossed my mind too, though

― oops (Oops), Friday, 25 July 2003 21:05 (twenty-two years ago)

"but she probably lives in Tahiti..."

andy

― koogs (koogs), Friday, 25 July 2003 21:20 (twenty-two years ago)

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