Is it easier to get girls if you already have a girlfriend?

There was an episode of California Dreams about this.

When you have a g/f, other girls will talk to you that bit more friendlylike, as they feel they aren't going to be misinterpreted as 'flirting' as much.

1. if you think you can have something, you think of reasons not to. if you think you can't have something you think of reasons to.
2. "all the hot guys are either gay or taken lol!"
3. girls are competitive.
4. good for no strings game
5. they know you're not one of them clingy ones
6. girls like a player
7. ego boost for the girl

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8. the golden one: it proves you have options

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-- 696, Friday, 29 June 2007 08:40 (10 minutes ago) Link

lol 8080

i think the answer to this question hinges on what the word "get" means

have sex with them

then, no

but if it means "walk right up to the brink of what would in normal life be a prelude to sex and then feel guilty about it" then hell yes

lol @ myself calling singledom "normal life"

So 696 is the symbol for some kind of three-way action.

I guess maybe if you're already taken there's no signals of desperation that girls can pick up on! That might make you more attractive, I suppose. Can't say I've noticed much difference myself though.

your name is "colonel poo"

I don't usually introduce myself by that name :)

This is not true.

Yes but you are not a girl.

is it easier to get girls if they already have a girlfriend?

I was saying that it was not true that colonel poo does not introduce himself as colonel poo. He introduced himself to me as colonel poo and Emsk and I laughed.

Anyway, how do you know I am not a girl, the internets is anonymous.

To be fair, I wasn't trying to pull you :)

There you go. A lack of ambition is almost as unattractive as desperation. It's your own fault.

Ed the beard kind of gives it away, unless you work in a circus or something, like.

Ed is *so* a girl.

He's the biggest girl in our band, proven by science.

it's easy enough as it is.

Is it easier to get girls if you already are ken c?

but if it means "walk right up to the brink of what would in normal life be a prelude to sex and then feel guilty about it" then hell yes

otm.

pretty much the same level of difficulty

hello!

haha / J. D.

How hard are you trying, Blueski?

is it easier to get their attention? for a lot of guys, yes. why? duh, guy who otherwise might seem like he's undateable/commitment-phobic/trying too hard/game-playing/nervous/depressed/aloof may now seem dateable/interested in a relationship/not trying at all/normal/relaxed/happy/affectionate.

but it may have less to do with girlfriend's effect on guy than girlfriend's effect on girl's perception of guy, through girl's self-comparison with girlfriend, i.e.....
1. girl who otherwise would think guy must prove himself sees that guy has already proved himself to girlfriend, who seems like a good judge of guy's worthiness
2. girl who otherwise would think guy probably wouldn't be interested in sees guy is interested in girlfriend, who seems similar to (or less attractive/interesting than) her
3. girl who otherwise might be content to simply imagine being with guy, and would rather be girl than girlfriend, sees a live-action demonstration of being-with-guy, and would like to be in girlfriend's place
4. girl who otherwise would assume guy would be more interested in girl than girlfriend discovers that guy may be more interested in girlfriend than girl, and must now repair offense to self-esteem

you have put some thought into this.

That post is too confusing. Please provide sexual Venn diagram.

pretty much the same level of trying

Please provide sexual Venn diagram

You mean Prof. Eriksson's famous S-Venn diagram

i think theres merit in that post.

i think the main two things though are a) opportunity. if something is available easily, maybe you've got time to think on it. if something is not so easily available, and suddenly a window pops up where it might be, you have to seize it then and there, or risk losing it. time for thinking isnt now

like that time when you really wanted a beer right on closing time, but if the bar had been open another two hours you might have just gone home

b) demeanour, more relaxed, anything that happens - not forced. its not you, its not i, the moment has overtaken us both

This thread makes me realise I will never, ever, understand human relationships in a million years.

If you are not happy in a relationship, why not end it before leaping on to the next one? Why hang around in a relationship if your eye is on the door, or the next better thing around the corner?

Do you people never actually think about the emotions of that person you call your "girlfriend"?

Sorry, "you people" there is in the abstract. My anger is being inspired by an IRL situation.

http://www.deviantdesires.com/map/mappics/map81002.gif

I do always wonder whether this effect results from the guy having more confidence and being more natural and casual or because of the girl's perception of the guy changes. How bout it, science?

That fetish roadmap is one of my all-time favourite internet thingz

If you are not happy in a relationship, why not end it before leaping on to the next one? Why hang around in a relationship if your eye is on the door, or the next better thing around the corner?

Do you people never actually think about the emotions of that person you call your "girlfriend"?

people don't know how happy they are or if they could be happier and sometimes they are happy with *this* but not happy with *that* blah blah blah but but also people are cowards too.

the answer to this question is yes.

next question: does the girlfriend have to be real? lol

NOW its a titchyschneider thread

at first it was looking quite 'peep show': how do i get girls? i know, i'll get a girlfriend. but now the game has done been changed...

i feel more comfortable talking to taken guys, not because i wanna steal them, but because i dont get nervous and say something dumb. i get nervous and say something dumb a LOT around single guys because i am so terrified they will think i am flirting with them.

Actually, Mandee has a very good point. Most of my good male friends are married or in serious relationships. Not that I want them in any way shape or form, but there's not that "oh no, he might think I'm flirting" brainfart that happens if the guy is single, which utterly wrecks my confidence.

Well, as far as I know most guys like being flirted with, so you shouldn't have that brainfart.

They don't like being flirted with by me. Trust me.