What do you do when your partner's out of town?

I play video games and look forward to an upcoming 3-or-4-week spell. a lot of video games. i don't really know anyone else in this city.

A respite for a day maybe, and then lonely.

I play guitar hero, go online, watch harry potter movies, etc.

I make a (mental) list of things I'll do but mostly end up on ILX posting. :-(

Not exactly what you need the thread to be about - but you guys sleep in separate rooms?

Watch what I want on TV, sleep all over the bed, stay out as late as I want and get bored within about 2 days.

great question. we're generally so close, that when he's gone for a little bit, even tho i have that yearning/anxiety thing, i kind of look at it as my time to get work done and slow down with myself.

You have separate bedrooms? Anyway, in my experience it's generally okay. What do you usually do when he's around? Do that. I know you say he's your main social outlet, but do you have people to go out for beers with? Or a book to read?

Abbott apparently screams and punches people in her sleep.

That was not a joke. That's the reason they don't sleep together.

Oh, okay. I think I remember reading something like that in a sleep thread.

I'd assume one's a snorer - but my parents had separate rooms due to their deep all-consuming loathing of one another.

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:o

hahaha wow and I thought MY sleepwalking/talking/breaking things was bad!

anyway otherwise my experience = M. White's

Jesus, what's so weird about having seperate bedrooms? *shrug* Focus on the question, people! :-)

I'd assume one's a snorer - but my parents had separate rooms due to their deep all-consuming loathing of one another.

:-(

If it's more than one day, well, then I can't really say. We've only once been "apart" for several days. My parents were here, so I went out with them most nights. (They usually live in Japan, so it was nice having them around for that.)

I catch up on my reading.

I play a LOT of video games and watch prtentious movies that she can't stand. Also a couple of times I bought myself a cigar haha!

Go out with or phone friends that my partner doesn't like, mostly.

Yeah, the separate bedrooms is we both have really different sleep schedules & are extreme introverts, not socially awkward by any means, but in the sense that we both prefer to have time to ourselves & our own space. It's not like we never sleep together: we have "slumber parties" about once a week, take showers together sometimes, etc.

With a certain subset of questioners, it's easiest to explain, "We're both Geminis," and they're like, "Oh man, that totally makes sense." Not that the statement really means anything to me.

We eat, watch TV or whatevs together, AIM each other (haha), share things we've been writing, have cleaning parties, and having been playing the Pokemon card game a lot (teehee).

No one really else in town to hang with, which is fine...I'm quite expert at entertaining myself. Maybe call some pals on the phone & write letters. I'm just gonna miss the guy!

the answers is SMELL YOUR FACE

Oh and haha, yeah TOTALLY sleep madness. Just last night I had a dream there was a bomb going off in front of my window and I had to jump out of the way to avoid shards of glass. I woke up on the floor yelling "OWWW! FUCK!! OW!!" I'd done some crocodile death spin out of the bed, cocooned in my own sheets, and now I have one huge ass bruise on my upper thingh/hip bone.

geez i can't imagine... one of my favorite things is cuddling at night. obv whatever works for you, just relaying

i never did find that damn penis

-- benito mussolinington (dubplatestyle), Tuesday, June 29, 2004

That thread is great, strongo!
HAHA I just was going to quote that.

i was smelling my face last night actually

We always have a sweet, sometimes brief, cuddle session before sleeping in separate beds...I can't snuggle next to someone IN MY SLEEP. It's too warm and one of my arms always ends up going to sleep.

it smells aged

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HOW THE HELL do you smell your own face? I don't have a sense of smell o this especially vexing. Faces have a scent?

If it's too strong there's a vibrating halo around the face as well.

Dude this has entered Coast to Coast A.M. territory.

i will reveal the face smelling technique for $5

Dude I don't have a sense of smell so I don't think it would matter anyway, plus I only have a bunch of Canadian quarters that vending machines won't accept.

This has entered Hugh Grant/Drew Barrymore film territory.

OH SHIT I HATE HER SO VERY MUCH SO SO VERY MUCH.

Go down the stairs headfirst in a sleeping bag, on your front.

-- alix (alix), Monday, October 7, 2002

i've still yet to try this

q: can things ultimately work out between a cuddler and a personal-spacer? :/

a: no

a: yes, as long as you have separate apartments.

me and j are both part-time cuddlers, so it works out. Balance, danielsan.

Go down the stairs headfirst in a sleeping bag, on your front.

Best argument for home ownership I've ever heard?

i don't really have a good answer for this question :/

Dude, yeah, that is hella fun. My brothers & sisters did that all summer long growing up once we had a house with stairs. Before that, we'd do it at our cousins' house, who had stairs. So so classic.

We all used to hold our youngest brother over the balcony, sometimes in a sleeping bag, when he was a toddler. That was pretty mean & I regret it. I apologized to him about it a few months ago (like seven years after the fact) and he forgave me, which was a relief. He was mostly upset he didn't have any younger siblings or cousins to play that trick on.

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One time we told our sister that kittens were being born in the barn next door, and when she ran to the barn in glee, my brother jumped out at her with an unloaded b-b gun, which made a scary shooting sound. That was pretty mean, too. however, we all did that stuff to one another.

Another time, around the time of the Lewinsky case, I told my mom & dad my brother (two years younger than me) had a huge thing for Monica Lewinsky. I'd placed a whole bunch of pictures of her in his underwear drawer and showed my parents. They lectured him about having no self-respect and hinted he shouldn't be masturbating to photos of anyone, but her in particular.

okay, that is some pretty funny shit

I had about ten people over to watch boxing one night that she was gone. I don't really remember what I did the rest of the time.

HA ah ha haa aaaa!

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I was looking for the face-smelling thread but found the emo version instead :(

I usually eat the foods he doesn't like, watch lots of movies (esp. ones I know he won't have any interest in), read a ton, and take walks and stuff. Sometimes I'll take a camera and just take pictures of everything that seems even vaguely interesting. Last time he was gone, all of our friends were out of town as well, so I can relate.

I'd suggest doing something that feels like a treat--not necessarily something expensive, but the kind of thing that you like and don't normally have time for.

I STILL GOT YOU ICE CREAM

wank myself into a coma

I'll tell you what I don't do...

THE DISHES.

Ha! I've stopped NOT doing the dishes/picking up laundry/etc., 'cause then it just means I have to do a boatload of cleaning at the last moment.

spend a bit more time moping about and a lot more going to the pub with friends i've neglected.

look forward to phone calls.

http://imagecache2.allposters.com/images/pic/CMAG/938-022~Marijuana-Posters.jpg

so how do you get yr fantastic licksmacking sex, coleman?

say what [insert married-for-17-years joek here]

I do more housework and eat mackerel.

xpost Sorry, I meant more out of a personal point of view, I never smoke alone. Music and sex are the main things I enjoy when smoking.

Eat humous in vast quantities (he has a could-be-fatal chickpea allergy.)

Abbott, so what have you done?

And Nath, please explain "Licksmacking"

I can't. My brain has been rewired this night cause of multiple "awakenings." :-) I probably meant divine but wanted to sound, like, original and shit. ;-)

It does sound interesting. :)

Dawn and the kids are up nrth staying w/Grandma/grandad/mam/dad (depending on your perspective. Not Your perspective, obv).

House is empty.

So do I get down to funkeh and set up the laptop with a ministudio and record them damn tracks that have been buzzin my head for the past (up to) three years?

Or do I sit and sigh.

I hate it when Mister M is away. I'll usually sleep with the dogs on the bed because I am scared in the house on my own.

well.

I did set up the laptop with a mini studio. There are loads of presets so I faffed around making tracks that sound generic...

It's OK if you want to block tracks out where your song has a ready structure. But it's too easy to just do stuff that sounds OK, rather than having a vision of what you want to do.

i.e. mic up your guitar/pianner/vocal and do something new...

I'm looking forward to my husband going out of town overnight in September. I will get to spend hours and hours playing with my internet friends and get to do voice chat without someone griping about it disrupting his TV watching/sleeping/etc.

AM, I usually let our doggie sleep on the bed as well. What I hate it waking up/staying up very late because then I realize what a big ass house I live in. It's just creepy.

This is a good question, and timely for me. My girl is in grad school right now in Massachusetts, in a program which holds classes during the summer and then has you do an internship in the city of your choice during the rest of the year. So I've had the apartment to myself since the beginning of the summer.

It's a great opportunity to catch up on music and movies that she would hate. So, I've been listening to Merzbow, Carlos Giffoni (lots of noise), early Sonic Youth, Maja Ratkje, doom metal, black metal, Burial, Peter Brotzmann, Sunn O))), Wolf Eyes, Boris, Om, Glenn Branca -- all things either loud, dark, abrasive, gloomy, brooding, or else just weird, etc. I've seen some great violent/dark movies, too, when she's been out of town: Sin City, Zodiac, Oldboy.

That said, I miss her a lot and the place is pretty empty and lonely without her. She'll be back in three weeks, and I look forward to the brighter music/movies we enjoy together.

That petition is laughable btw.

gah wrong thread!

Anyone singing the intro to the TomTom club for the thread title?

Hahaha awesome!

I had total fun natural fun except when this person I barely know dropped by at random and tried to force me to adopt her four-month-old German Shepherd puppy. Watched DVD, cleaned, had guinea pig time, 'cetra. Man called me up on the phone, too, which was nice. We'd had a fight the night before he left so it was nice to hear him happy and missing me.

He'll be back late tonight. Yay!

i already smelled my face. now what?

Work on down?

Or to invert: I travel a few times / month for work. Maybe gone 2 days / week. From my end, work-paid food and drink and hotel is fine, but it feels a bit hollow. When turn on the hotel TV even more so. I find myself in the midst of channels I never normally see. Traveling for work is a good way of saving money, at least. Although it seems weird to say it. I often go a week and discover I've spent $0.

But it can be nice: I'm in Charleston SC for work, and about to spend the weekend here. I'm about to eat some seafood, bought a Broken Social Scene CD at the only remaining record store cos it'd be nice if it survived (CD itself sounds OK). Tomorrow I'll sleep in, go for an extra long run, read more than I otherwise would. I'll call a lot, and we fins ourselves talking for 2 hours on the phone, like teenagers. Sure, it's driven by boredom, but it feels nice, of sweet longing. You don't get that everyday living with someone. We flirt more when I'm away, whatever that means.

I drag my friend to see some dodgy hardcore punk band. FUIFYD cos if you don't dig then you ain't no friend of mine fuckface. Also I will deny all knowledge of this tomorrow.

I'm moving outta my gf's place on Sunday AND she's going outta town for a few days so it's like double whammy what do I do + where am I action.

my girl is on another continent for a couple months. i swear if she was, like, within a couple thousand kilometers of me, i'd be fighting the urge to just cruise out and see her and forget about going to school or anything.

things i do:

-- listen to sheek louch and cormega 24/7
-- call her on the phone
-- send her e-mails
-- argue with her on instant messenger
-- try to think of reasons to call her
-- burst into tears while shopping alone in safeway for diet coke and bran muffins
-- stop shaving
-- spend 2-3 hours a day at the gym
-- masturbate mechanically until i lose the ability to get hard for 3 days
-- post on ilx

you know, life straight up sucks. this is exaggerating slightly but, yo, things aren't the same without her. no matter how angry at the world i was, or depressed or whatever, i knew i could lay beside her at night and i'd feel better. now all i've got is the Add a Post text entry box.

Mrs Trifle is away for two weeks in HK and it's the longest time we've been apart in our 22 years of marriage. And I just want to say it sucks.

My wife went to Russia for two weeks earlier this year and I used the time to watch the fuck out of my Netflix instant queue.

Schwarzenegger marathon

Listen to lite jazz all day

smelling my face is still a big part of it

In my head: Writing many album's worth of quality music, doing the gardening, catching up on films.
In reality: Lazing about on the internet and staying out on the weekends until far too late to compensate for not seeing anyone during the week.

Lazing around is unfortunately not an option until after 10pm but which time I'm too knackered to do anything except what I am doing right now, slumped over the laptop. One thing I have noticed, I have become somewhat oversensitive. Both more intolerant of the kids naughtiness and at the same time prone to getting mushy at the most ridiculous things. I most surely be one of the few people to have teared up at the end of Paul?

Going to listen to some Grover Washington now (quietly).

I didn't mention before:

Lots of last minute housework a day or two before she gets back.