She's 24 and getting married to her boyfriend of six years. She was my first best friend, my oldest friend, but at this point, we're not in touch on a regular basis. The only thing about the engagement party is, it's a few hours away and I don't have a car. I'm already broke, borrowing money to cover rent and I really can't afford to borrow another 140 to get up there and take part.
Do ppl even have engagement parties anymore? I didn't think weddings needed an introduction like that.
Should I feel like a terrible person? Or is going to the wedding with a great gift enough?
― Surmounter, Friday, 17 August 2007 04:08 (eighteen years ago)
Claim you're not going for political reasons.
― Eric H., Friday, 17 August 2007 05:24 (eighteen years ago)
=)
― Surmounter, Friday, 17 August 2007 05:25 (eighteen years ago)
Two of my really close female friends - who dont really know each other - have somehow magically planned their weddings each on THE SAME DAMN DAY NEXT YEAR. WTF, how am I going to choose!??! :/
― Trayce, Friday, 17 August 2007 05:31 (eighteen years ago)
that's terrible!!
― Surmounter, Friday, 17 August 2007 05:32 (eighteen years ago)
trayce, are they in the same city?
― Rubyredd, Friday, 17 August 2007 05:36 (eighteen years ago)
Yeah both here in Melb, so I suppose (if it really does turn out theyre on the same day I need to recheck) I can wedding hop. But thats going to be tricky. Graaargh.
― Trayce, Friday, 17 August 2007 05:38 (eighteen years ago)
If I absolutely *have* to, I can make a choice. But I dont want to, if I can help it :/
if i was you, i would go to the service of one and the reception of the other.
― Rubyredd, Friday, 17 August 2007 05:41 (eighteen years ago)
Aw, Miss Manners would say you do not need to go, Surmounter, and she would say to Trayce that if you have already accepted an invite, stick with that one.
She also says you don't need to bring gifts, but a friend of mine who just got married is still being all passive-aggressive jerkwad bcz I could not give him one back in October w/my brokeassed brokeassedness as the main factor. I made him a lovely card and acted as his best man, oil well.
― Abbott, Friday, 17 August 2007 05:44 (eighteen years ago)
Sorry to usurp yr thread btw Sur, just seemed a good place for me to vent my argh. I havent had official invtes to either wedding yet as both are still in planning stages and I believe both women are aware of the clashing date... but I am not sure if anyone other than me and Nick are mutual friends, and we're hardly a reason for either lass to change their plans.
― Trayce, Friday, 17 August 2007 06:07 (eighteen years ago)
Stay home from both?
― stevienixed, Friday, 17 August 2007 07:04 (eighteen years ago)
Hahaha well theres that option!
But no - Ive had a history of having real trouble forming close female friendships, and one of the 2 women I have been dear friends with despite distance for many many years (ive known her since she was about 15), and she means the world to me, so if I had to choose, she'd be it.
But the other friend is lovely and a local always there friend and is close friends with my (ex?) bf so... hum, argh. My life is a soap! Dammit.
― Trayce, Friday, 17 August 2007 07:24 (eighteen years ago)
pls trayce, usurp away! thx for the miss manners tip, abbott, it does make me feel somewhat better. i WILL make it up to her.
― Surmounter, Friday, 17 August 2007 07:44 (eighteen years ago)