Realtionship deal breakers

Deal breakers are: infidelity and thongs. Which sounds like C21 comedy of manners.

Anyway - relationship deal breaker is cheating, and being with me when you don't really want me anymore. Don't want either of those since they destroy me. Most other things fine.

lol only straight white guys can like rap without being "borderline racist" a+ you guys keep it up

raspy voice, talks like juno, quasi-racist love of hood shit

-- and what, Wednesday, March 26, 2008 3:49 PM

every gay guy i know who likes rap is like this

-- BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Wednesday, March 26, 2008 4:22 PM (5 minutes ago) Bookmark Link

don't you kick people like this out of hotels?

I had so many, but they all seem to have gone now. It's so easy to have ideals when you're not in a relationship.

-- Kate the Saint, Monday, 23 July 2001 00:00 (6 years ago) Bookmark Link

Oh, you idiot. You should have cut and run at every dealbreaker. They were there for a reason.

What is with these thread revivals today. :-(

I approve of this banned-from-the-NB revive.

most straight white guys who like rap are borderline racist too

most straight white guys who like rap are borderline racist too

-- deej, Wednesday, March 26, 2008 11:35 AM (0 seconds ago) Bookmark Link

if you're 'one of the good ones' feel free to bitch about that date you had with jamie kennedy

i hate rap so no racist me

no homo too

'Realtionship' is when the other person is not imaginary

bell labs is banned from the nb??

Is there some kind of rolling scorecard place where we can see who is banned from the NB?

you mean like an admin log? no

No, I mean like a point and laugh circus game type thing.

the NB point and laugh circus games usually involve you.

The difference is, they clearly carry on reading me, but I never read them. I win!

bell labs otm. please tell me more about how i should be listening to rap, dudes!

less racist-ly, obviously

once a dude i knew accused me of being sexist while listening to a song we BOTH LIKED..."the what." i guess it's only sexist when women listen to it.

for a grad student youre not very smart, hs

the what is a pretty great song tho

FUCK THE WORLD DONT ASK ME FOR SHIT

BITCHES I LIKE 'EM BRAINLESS

Take my girlfriend who listens to rap. PLEASE!!

http://www.clipartlab.com/promo/guns.gif i like em http://www.theruststore.com/images/articles/stainless_no-rust.jpg

Having to like, take showers and not pick my nose and eat it and stuff.

Ball and chain, brothers. Ball and chain!

The difference is, they clearly carry on reading me, but I never read them. I win!

-- Masonic Boom, Wednesday, March 26, 2008 1:02 PM (59 minutes ago) Bookmark Link

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let's keep bringing this fucking petty nonsense over on the main boards because it's a WINNER EVERY TIME.

want the muthafuckin fortune like the wheel

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/30/books/review/Donadio-t.html

Some years ago, I was awakened early one morning by a phone call from a friend. She had just broken up with a boyfriend she still loved and was desperate to justify her decision. “Can you believe it!” she shouted into the phone. “He hadn’t even heard of Pushkin!”

lol @ kenan's ex being quoted

lol who?

Nora Ephron

indie rock listeners.
vegans.

http://thedatingoptimist.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/Dealbreakers-234x300.jpg

wait, what's indie rock, because sometimes you're on the border

conner oberst, vampire weekend, clap your hands and say yes.

are any indie bands ok?

i am just being snarky & generalizing of course.

For me....

*Already have a child. I'm not against it, I'm just not at the point of my life where I can deal with (or afford) raising a kid, so even if it's not an obstacle early on, it will be in the long run if we're trying to be serious.

*Racism/homohobia -- can't tolerate it, and if they displayed these qualities to where it was obviously a trait, they'd be gone

*Intolerant of my music -- nuff said.

*Won't let me watch football on Sundays. I'm down with making sacrifices on this once in a while to spend time with my woman (and have frequently), but if every Sunday you're bitching at me to quit watching the game, I either get to interrupt your ladies nights, or you're out.

*Frequently disrespects me in front of friends. Fighting/quarreling is for private, dirty laundry should not be aired frequently.

*Forces religion on me. Honestly I don't see how this would slip past me in the introductory phase, but it has happened to friends and relatives before....

*Cheating. Obviously.

* Boring

*

*Won't let me watch football on Sundays. I'm down with making sacrifices on this once in a while to spend time with my woman (and have frequently), but if every Sunday you're bitching at me to quit watching the game, I either get to interrupt your ladies nights, or you're out.

*Frequently disrespects me in front of friends. Fighting/quarreling is for private, dirty laundry should not be aired frequently.

*Forces religion on me. Honestly I don't see how this would slip past me in the introductory phase, but it has happened to friends and relatives before....

sweet jesus. who the hell have you been dating??

pro-tip: if any of these terms - 'forces', 'wont let', 'disrespects' or 'sacrifice' - apply to anything RUN

Ex- told me today about the medium who reached her dead brother and predicted her life was going to have a massive change every twelve years which is totally happening right now!!!!
Made me miss her a lot less.

Birther, teabagger, has voted GOP straight ticket at any point - dealbreakers.

birther?

One of the loons who thinks Obama was born in Kenya.

<my real name> became a fan of Not Dating Republicans

Man people were really opposed to men in thong underwear 8 years ago. How times change.

If you have bad breath, fuck you. I know it's not right, maybe you cant even help it because of something medical or genetic, but I can't help being irrevocably and acutely put off.

Are there people who tolerate halitosis? Can you maintain romantic/sexual attraction to a person with bad breath? How does that work?

n.b. I probably have bad breath, how do you tell

I think ketosis causes bad breath? If you want to know how bad your own is, lick the back of your hand, let it dry s few seconds then smell it

I do know this trick and use it occassionally. I don't think I have bad breath, but it really is almost impossible to assess your own situation. I know I pprbably sound paranoid at this point! But really I don't do everything one can do to ensure fresh breath. I brush my tongue but I don't use an actual tongue scraper, which are far more effective. I don't use a rinse or mouthwash. And I usually only brush once per day! I probably reek.

Flossing a concern of others, I’m guessing

I floss. Teeth are good.

Flossing is probably key to maintaining good breath, too

rip - you can tell if you have bad breath by blowing on your hand close to your face.

I tried very hard to think back to my 20s, when seeking a relationship was an achingly active concern of mine, but to the best of my memory I had so few relationships that the concept of having one, then flinging it aside on the basis of one unacceptable shortcoming, never arose. If it had, I expect it would have centered around a loss of trust. But that is most often a slow, iterative erosion rather than a sudden realization.

aimless OTM

Visible grime on teeth tho

I have a friend who has chronic terrible breath. I think it's from dental/gum problems. I have wondered how his partner works around it. I assume they both just aren't into a lot of kissing, which is totally fine.

Can you maintain romantic/sexual attraction to a person with bad breath? How does that work?

― rip van wanko, Sunday, May 27, 2018 7:55 PM (two hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

For sure, but that's recognising the other has "bad" breath at times but you don't perceive it as such/find it annoying, because chemistry/love. I firmly believe this is the case.

xp If you already have a relationship with that person, you talk with them about it and find out what's up with that. If you are merely contemplating a relationship, I guess that could stop you from starting one.

The only hard rule in relationships I have is "no cocaine"

I think it's a given of no Trumpsters, which covers a huge range of evils.

Lol fgti what are you saying

My ex was a huge coke addict. It’s a total dud

Even when she met her fiance and claimed to quit she would do it when he was out of town. It ducks

quack is whack

If you do coke our relationship is over, that’s my only rule. Politically socially economically unconsciounable, terrifying to create paranoia in your friends and partner that you’re hiding it, divisions in social activity, just the worst thing. I’ve never done it and never will. It’s my one super-control freak thing and I make it clear to anyone I date that it’s a dealbreaker. The fact that it would be perceived as grouchy or party-pooper or manipulative to have this rule just reenforces for me that coke is evil and people who do it. My zealousness has caused social circles who experience a collective upswing in coke usage to stop including me as much, or not invite me to this party or that. Keep your invite, I’d rather moisturize my limbs and drink tea and rewatch Willow for the 100th time by myself than hang out with anyone when they’re doing it

I’ve never done it largely because I know I’d love it and become a cokehead overnight, and do I really need to take a drug that makes me more condescending and arrogant? I’m coked-out on life

imo a relationship wherein just one member uses cocaine is just... unfathomable

otoh fgti, many members of this board would love to see you put out 6 albums in the next year

Addiction of any kind makes being in a relationship fairly impossible

the couple that drinks together stays together tho as they say, addiction "works" in relationships where two people have a crutch whether it's the same drug or something else

xpost to fgti, i'm not evil tho man :p

honestly man not all users (i use occasionally) would consider it a dealbreaker to not do a drug, i've willingly stopped many things for partners because it made them uncomfortable, drugs being one

fwiw i went out with someone for a long time and i very occasionally noticed their bad breath and mentioned it, then when we split up people said "how could you have gone out with him, his breath stank". LBI otm.

albv otfm, I have just dragged myself out of a 25 year relationship in which an eating / control disorder held court. It’s incredible how one becomes an enabler while solemnly avowing the opposite and raging against it.

I used to work with for this Walter Mitty/lothario type boss whose drunken boast once was: "I'm fat, I'm ugly, I sweat a lot, I've got a small knob... but women love me because I can fuck for hours!". He never mentioned the bad breath!

control issues are a deal breaker for me

People who cannot compromise or ditch their routine to make a partnership work are duds to me. I put up with so much power lording from past partners for god knows why but now it’s a red flag