Did you ever got your feelings hurt on the internet

i called this loser a fucking moron once on an indieband listserv and the twink unsubbed. it was pretty great.

i'm sorry, what was your question?

I have never found people on the internet to be anything but charming and polite.

Not to mention courteous, helpful and handsome.

"500 posts" meme to thread

If it was someone I'd met and liked IRL, it might hurt.

Hmm, maybe. I've been brutally attacked online on a few occasions. But I try to be thick-skinned and brush it off since said attackers have pitiful self-esteem and are generally very small people.

I did. When I was writing mainstream comic books, before I learned to resist looking at message boards.

"brush your shoulders off"

-"The Brush" can be used in many different occasions. Basically any occasion where you feel like "It aint no thing".

1)"I got action from 4 different girls this weekend!" * Brushes shoulder *

2)"Yo I Just broke up with my girlfriend last night" * Brushes shoulders off *

by S-Dub Jun 2, 2004 email it

Not really, I'm quite thick skinned anyway but especially where the internet is concerned. There's maybe one occasion when I got into a big fite with a friend of mine and he got very upset after misinterpreting something I said - I felt terrible after that. Otherwise, no.

I think Dr. C has a very good point, but I'd even extend that to someone that you haven't necessarily met IRL but have a close online relationship with. ILX, for instance, creates subcultures and mini-communities that allow people to get to know each other and become friendly, and if someone you like suddenly turned on you, I don't see how the fact that it's happening on the Internet would make it any less hurtful.

That said, I think I've become more immune to attacks by people I don't really know, although I'm still invested in the idea of ILX as a place where I can hang out and get along with most people that that sort of antagonism still bothers me.

goddamn all the time. Online I'm as thin-skinned as tissue paper, which I'm not IRL.

i'm really just hurting myself, on the internet.

I'm kind of the same way, Stet... more easily offended online than IRL. Not sure how to account for that.

My feelings usually do not get hurt so much as my ire raised. Like just now with the ITS moron who denied my request for a third-level domain saying they were for colleges/departments only. My request was for a department.

One time someone addressed me as "Chief" on an ILM thread and my shoes flew off and I hit my head and I sued everybody.

I've been baited countless times, but I've never felt hurt. Sometimes hugely irritated, but not hurt.

i kinda agree w. stet

People only have the power to hurt you if you respect them in any way whatsoever.

I would think being beaten up/shot by strange thugs would hurt pretty bad.

I knew I opened myself up to snark attack on that one.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt,

Every time I am ignored, I cry a little. *weeps*

I cry a little every time you are ignored, as well.

I ignore you every time you cry.

ZING

With killfiles, no one can hear you cry.

People only have the power to hurt you if you respect them in any way whatsoever.

OTM. On the rare occasion that someone lays into me online, it upsets me for a moment and then I consider the source.

When really miffed, I sometimes check out their posting history to find out if they have admitted to various psychiatric problems, or anger management problems, and/or been called a nob end or fuckwit on numerous occasions by others - and usually they have, and that generally mollifies me. 'Yes', I say to myself, 'of course they'd have to be mentally ill or socially inept to criticize me'.

lolololololol I kind of assume this!

I'm not quite sure why anyone would care what some tool said about them on an internet board.

You didn't read all these posts?

Do I stutter?

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Being called a moron doesn't hurt nearly as much as being called a moran.

Do I stutter?

Uh,dude, ILX can do a great many things - like zing and lolz - but we haven't been able to check hearing of other members.

I think stet is correct - the potential to be hurt is greater because you can't hear the tone of voice in what people say so you are left to imagine. Sometimes people have been unnecessarily offended by things I've said myself for the same reason. But I also think it comes down to the source - plain and simple, the people who have (or are most likely to) hurt my feelings here are also the ones I have no respect for as people - I don't respect their music tastes, their music knowledge, their integrity, intelligence, anything. They're just stupid and it's a waste of my time to be even bothered by them. They weren't brought up the way I was, they're not my kind of people and frankly if they don't like me, who gives a shit? There are plenty of other friendly people out there who have more in common with me.

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Wait, WAHT? That looks like unsolicited boob-gropage to me.

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I get mildly irritated sometimes, but that's about it.

Obviously this is totally dependent on who the offensive person is. When Blount had his weird vendetta against me, it wasn't that bad because it was totally random and irrational, and I hadn't even interacted with the guy before. But if someone with whom I've been on friendly terms online would attack me, I guess I might get hurt. That said, this has never happened to me.

One of the things that made me sort myself out were when posters I liked and respected revealed they thought I was a twat, not in an aggressive, provocative way but just as a statement of how things are.

But you haven't changed, you're STILL a pedantic assholish twat, Mark! ;-)

I think the key is to know when to close your browser and walk away. Staying involved and interacting with people who do this will just drag you down further.

there was one time when people all conspired to not invite me to AIM chats, that hurt.

I suppose the big difference is that IRL people usually bitch behind your back, or one-to-one, but online's more like standing with a big group with one piping up against you.