The grass is always greener......

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do you ever find yrself thinking that other people have got a better deal than you? if so, how? and do you generally *go on* thinking it or actually check yrself by thinking that actually, yr analysis is illusory and you are selectively thinking about the good bits and ignoring the bad?

Grandpont Genie, Tuesday, 25 September 2007 09:16 (eighteen years ago)

one side effect of working in a large open plan office is that I quite often catch little snatches of ppl talking about their jobs and quite often I find myself thinking "cor, that sounds more interesting than what I'm doing!" but I pretty much always go through the self-correction process afterwards, revising my thoughts to say no, it's only the novelty of what I'm hearing that makes me think that; if I was actually doing that job then the novelty would soon wear off and I am totally ignoring the trials and tribulations these ppl go through, suffering in silence maybe, cursing their computer screens as the ppl they have to work with get stuff wrong, do things late or just generally come back to them with answers they don't want to hear.

Grandpont Genie, Tuesday, 25 September 2007 09:20 (eighteen years ago)

Yes, I do. Probably much of my particular brand of doing this centers around thinking that other people have had it easier in the past; their families were not as "crazy" as mine, they grew up in particularly interesting or beautiful locales...and therefore they had distinct advantages which may have led to them currently having a more sane and balanced outlook on life; they feel more comfortable and confident in the world, etc...

But then I quickly remember all of the people who had/have it much worse than I do, as well as the fact that everything's always changing, and the fortunes of people whose lot in life I currently envy could change at the drop of a hat...also, I realize how my envy is focused narrowly on isolated parts of people's lives, and consequently I don't think about the entirety of their life situation...not to mention their subjective feelings regarding what I see as being so wonderful.

So, yeah, I catch myself and realize that my analysis is faulty in many ways. Plus, I'm thankful to be "me" and to continue to discover what "me" is all about and to be able to share myself with others.

dell, Tuesday, 25 September 2007 10:26 (eighteen years ago)


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