Opposites Attract?

But for example. Something Isabel and I don't share - a love of music. Something Isabel and I do share - a sentimental liking for animals. Anyone who knew me would have probably said that the former was more important to me than the latter, but it seems not to have much bearing on my relationship. My Mum once said to me that she and Dad had nothing in common at all except their "values" and that's stuck with me.

(Of course, Isabel and I also share a nationality, an ethnicity, and a socio-economic background, against which the examples I've given are very trivial. Aren't they?)

(This thread is about your romantic choices, though, not mine.)

Oh, that old chestnut. I can. Do you mean in the narrow sense of knowing about records and artists and generally being a candidate for ILM membership? Or just loving music in whatever way?

But if there was more than one?

*thinks* I like friendliness, humor and intelligence. Beyond that, anything is possible.

There would probably be a FITE...

I like people who can bring the things to the relationship that I lack: stupidity, ugliness, poverty, happiness.

When I think of romantic interest I think often you can be really similar to the person. Currently I guess the person I'm considerably romantically attached to, is extremely like me. Big mouth. I think, bearing in mind my limited experience and youth, that there probably is always alot of similarity between two people who are involved. But maybe it's not always so obvious to others. It's a real pain when it is though, because there's this constant pressure from people who see this perfect fuckin couple.

I don't think I see interest in music as being essential, however I might suggest that if there's a parallel general outlook between myself and whoever, then there's a chance that they would or could appreciate music.

Indubitably.

currently going out with a girl who is basically my opposite. we dont like the same films or music, we have some shared values, but our personalities arent really similar at all. before we were just antagonising each other all the time as she likes to talk non stop and i dont and we could just never seem to make the other feel at ease as a result (apparently our horoscopes say we are set to clash). only thing we have in common is strong mutual attraction. i hope i get surprised about how this is going to pan out.

did have a breakthrough yesterday which makes me think were going to be less antagonistic now and more open/nice though so hey, who knows.

I like people who can bring the things to the relationship that I lack: stupidity, ugliness, poverty, happiness.

― maryann, Sunday, March 3, 2002 8:00 PM (8 years ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

L O L

we dont like the same films or music, we have some shared values, but our personalities arent really similar at all. before we were just antagonising each other all the time as she likes to talk non stop and i dont and we could just never seem to make the other feel at ease as a result

experienced this and as an eventual result..

only thing we have in common is strong mutual attraction. i

this went away completely

Baby seems we never ever agree You like the movies And I like T.V. I take things serious And you take 'em light I go to bed early And I party all night
― MC Skat Kat, Monday, March 4, 2002 5:00 PM (twenty-one years ago) bookmarkflaglink

otm

though I would also like to add that Paula Abdul telling us she doesn't like cigarettes before an anthropomorphic cat in suspenders cries "I LIKE TO SMOKE" is my favorite thing about opposites attracting presently