how many times have you been in love forrealz

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OptionVotes
2 31
1 30
0 16
3 15
4 7
6+ = i have turned my face into a heart4
5 1


mookieproof, Monday, 12 November 2007 16:47 (eighteen years ago)

1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1

sunny successor, Monday, 12 November 2007 16:49 (eighteen years ago)

A true serial monogamist is Sunny

Ned Raggett, Monday, 12 November 2007 16:50 (eighteen years ago)

never the cheater but always the breaker

sunny successor, Monday, 12 November 2007 16:51 (eighteen years ago)

http://mustory.com/attach/22/1311770859.jpg

Dom Passantino, Monday, 12 November 2007 16:52 (eighteen years ago)

i know it's twice, i just can't decide which two.

darraghmac, Monday, 12 November 2007 16:52 (eighteen years ago)

not conditioned on the object knowing about it, right?

Dr Morbius, Monday, 12 November 2007 16:54 (eighteen years ago)

it's not real love if you're selfish enough to involve them.

darraghmac, Monday, 12 November 2007 16:57 (eighteen years ago)

Furrealz? Nevah.

StanM, Monday, 12 November 2007 16:57 (eighteen years ago)

2.5

s1ocki, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:05 (eighteen years ago)

thread has potential to be the saddest thing ever on the internet

J0hn D., Monday, 12 November 2007 17:07 (eighteen years ago)

Obvious sleeve up next!

Mark G, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:08 (eighteen years ago)

now that I think about it they were all just silly irrational crushes.

wanko ergo sum, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:10 (eighteen years ago)

http://s.yottamusic.com/i/aNXt.275m/110x110

Mark G, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:11 (eighteen years ago)

Three, I'd say. Maybe just two, though.

kenan, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:12 (eighteen years ago)

whore

sunny successor, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:13 (eighteen years ago)

I'll get back to you if I know whether it's one or two by January.

Will M., Monday, 12 November 2007 17:22 (eighteen years ago)

i honestly do not know the answer to this question.

Just got offed, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:22 (eighteen years ago)

3 but this time is by far the best in many ways.

ENBB, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:26 (eighteen years ago)

uno

rizzx, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:44 (eighteen years ago)

actually, if you don't know, the answer's probably 0

Just got offed, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:48 (eighteen years ago)

Just once, but it's still going quite well.

joygoat, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:58 (eighteen years ago)

booooooo love sucks boooooooooo

El Tomboto, Monday, 12 November 2007 17:59 (eighteen years ago)

i'm going to say 2, but that's including a .5 for my first serious girlfriend (i was too young to know any better) and .5 for a current crush

Jordan, Monday, 12 November 2007 18:01 (eighteen years ago)

no, it's 2

a short but intense one

rizzx, Monday, 12 November 2007 18:01 (eighteen years ago)

one.

J0rdan S., Monday, 12 November 2007 18:06 (eighteen years ago)

i can't decide between never and five times. if u know what i mean.

pisces, Monday, 12 November 2007 18:08 (eighteen years ago)

i'm going to say 2, but that's including a .5 for my first serious girlfriend (i was too young to know any better) and .5 for a current crush

-- Jordan, Monday, November 12, 2007 1:01 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark Link

One and two halves

Will M., Monday, 12 November 2007 18:08 (eighteen years ago)

I am not certain if it is two or three or one. All my past love gets polluted and obscured by the pain of the breakup and then realizing or acknowledging the things I strongly disliked about the person. And if I am in some "Eternal Sunshine" scenario, lord knows the number.

Abbott, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:33 (eighteen years ago)

if you're in some "eternal sunshine" scenario, the number is one, right?

horseshoe, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:37 (eighteen years ago)

yeah

El Tomboto, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:37 (eighteen years ago)

But what if I got all skanky and had to re-erase all of my dozens of "loves" innumerable times. How would you know if it was just one? I am not sure one would.

Abbott, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:39 (eighteen years ago)

zwei

HI DERE, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:40 (eighteen years ago)

i was all like "fuck this, love doesn't exist" cynical for a long time after i got played by a serious gf years ago, but now i think it does on account of my current situation.

omar little, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:40 (eighteen years ago)

aw

El Tomboto, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:40 (eighteen years ago)

an "eternal sunshine" scenario just means all subsequent loves are attempts to recreate the original, no? that movie is kind of bleak.

horseshoe, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:41 (eighteen years ago)

That is interesting: it is curious when people say they don't believe in things, like love or gun control or things. Like "they do not exist" or "I disagree with them"? So I am glad you were quite clear! yay

xxp

Abbott, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:41 (eighteen years ago)

I don't think the movie is clear on # of loves. I don't believe in "one true love," and in this case I mean "does not exist."

Abbott, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:42 (eighteen years ago)

one and cosign on the etenral sunshine scenario

max, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:44 (eighteen years ago)

http://www.stonesthrow.com/records/covers/lovesareal-400.jpg

rrrobyn, Monday, 12 November 2007 19:53 (eighteen years ago)

2x

homosexual II, Monday, 12 November 2007 20:37 (eighteen years ago)

two, maybe three

electricsound, Monday, 12 November 2007 20:45 (eighteen years ago)

3

Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Monday, 12 November 2007 22:10 (eighteen years ago)

3 but this time is by far the best in many ways.

-- ENBB

same for me

Rubyredd, Monday, 12 November 2007 22:16 (eighteen years ago)

"Love's A Real Thing," says Angela Davis.

kenan, Monday, 12 November 2007 22:19 (eighteen years ago)

(knee) jerkin' answer: fukk kno's

t**t, Monday, 12 November 2007 22:24 (eighteen years ago)

4th time around

sexyDancer, Monday, 12 November 2007 22:31 (eighteen years ago)

the summer after we graduated high school i was in a car with a dude who had recently broken up with his h.s. girlfriend. roxette came on the radio, and he said, very earnestly, "yeah, i was in love once--but it's over now."

my first beer tonight goes out to you, jay s0b0+ka

mookieproof, Monday, 12 November 2007 22:47 (eighteen years ago)

http://www.hbo.com/thewire/img/castcrew/character_season03/theport/franksobotka.jpg

Jordan, Monday, 12 November 2007 22:49 (eighteen years ago)

i think his car was a fiero

mookieproof, Monday, 12 November 2007 22:51 (eighteen years ago)

wow. we *are* in the same boat.

Ste, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 13:45 (eighteen years ago)

2ice

Oilyrags, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 13:48 (eighteen years ago)

i've only been in love with girls i've "got with". but they didn't last long and I essentially ended up in the same angsty (or is that presumptious?) state as Ste and LJ.

Upt0eleven, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 14:30 (eighteen years ago)

it isn't angst, it's statement of fact. of course, it could all change tomorrow. at least i'm still backing myself. the day i give up is the day it really does become nihilistic angst.

Just got offed, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 14:41 (eighteen years ago)

In reference to what Tuomas was talking about upthread, "love" is a very bullshit word in English-- it means far too many things, as humans run a gamut of emotions, and pretty much anything intense has to fall into one of two bins-- love or hate. Now, hate has as many words as the Inuit have for snow; dislike, distaste, disdain, repulsion, revulsion, whatever the noun for despise is, hate, abhorrence, the noun for detest, disapproval... and they all communicate something slightly different. For example, "disdain" implies that you look down on something, AFAIK.. like, a king looks at peasants in disdain, because they're dirt. Or to abhor is to hate something so much that you kind of hate the idea of it, or even thinking about it. Some of them even imply "unrequited" hate, as it were: when someone says they are "repulsed" by someone, it carries an implication that it's one-way hate, whereas if they "hate" someone, there's more of a balance there.

So where are these words for love? Well, we have "like," which is my friends, some acquaintances... and a multitude of inanimate/semi-animate objects (I like beaches, and Xbox, for example). There's "love," which is anything stronger than liking. I love Montreal, I love my family, I love my best friends. Then there's this weird "in love" that seems to be reserved for people who you are romantically/sexually interested in (it seems to need to be both; I have a problem with that too, but that's another argument for another day), and some people consider mutual feelings prerequisite and some don't.

It seems that using words other than love is "cheesy" and restricted to Old English poems and stuff like that; however, it ends up with people dumbing down their feelings because there just aren't words to express them. It's like kids who don't learn how to positively discuss something without "cool." It's fucking newspeak for our hearts and it's bullshit. NABSICO JR OUT.

Will M., Wednesday, 14 November 2007 16:07 (eighteen years ago)

I don't think I've ever said any girl I've dated "I love you" until we've been together for a while, and I've really meant it.

Tuomas, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 16:12 (eighteen years ago)

wait: you can be romantically interested without wanting to have sex with someone? i mean i know the other way around is all good but i didnt know this was possible. isnt it just plutonic then?

xpost

sunny successor, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 16:12 (eighteen years ago)

I've been romantically interested in people and not wanted to have sex with them. Whether that's because I have the sex drive of a catatonic apple, or because I have some strange madonna/whore complex variant, I may never know. It's very hard to explain and even harder without sounding like an eight-year old about it.

Will M., Wednesday, 14 November 2007 16:16 (eighteen years ago)

People here seem to have such differing definitions of "love" that I call the whole scientific validity of this poll into question.

if you think it's love, then count it.

i suspect that if you have to check your feelings scientifically, then you're not in love -- i think it should be kind of self-evident. but tally however you'd like.

mookieproof, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 16:34 (eighteen years ago)

It's fair to say that love's whatever you think it is, but why even bother quantifying it, then? The results won't show anything. A poll that may have been better would have been something like "what is love to you?"

Will M., Wednesday, 14 November 2007 16:42 (eighteen years ago)

0, and I never should have clicked on this thread.

The Reverend, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 16:49 (eighteen years ago)

will m. you make an interesting case. maybe it's the 'for realz' in this thread title which 'quantifies' love to some degree. eg. i have been, i think, genuinely in love twice before, but this third time is way different: it's the kind of unconditional love i have for my best friends, combined with a romantic love, and also that kind of love where you feel no longer alone in the world (which i would call maybe a kind of 'family' type of love). so i would characterise this is as 'for realz', but only because i have other experiences to compare and contrast it with.

Rubyredd, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 18:07 (eighteen years ago)

twice but right now it feels like this is the only time (i am very sad tonight)

emsk, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 19:38 (eighteen years ago)

i am getting teary at the fucking lolcats ffs

emsk, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 20:04 (eighteen years ago)

0. I'm pretty easy going with my emotional attachments. One day, though, I might know the violent love so many experience...... !!!!!!!

burt_stanton, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 20:13 (eighteen years ago)

That's not to imply 3 loves, if you think that.

I voted 2.

nickalicious, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 20:21 (eighteen years ago)

Because there have been 2 of them.

nickalicious, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 20:21 (eighteen years ago)

My last girlfriend and I got a complaint about playing that song too much from the neighbors

Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 20:22 (eighteen years ago)

once, got drunk with her last night for the first time in years

milo z, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 20:48 (eighteen years ago)

if love makes you teary at lolcats i want nothing to do with it

rrrobyn, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 22:11 (eighteen years ago)

When i was around 7 i thought I was in love with this chubby girl but I was prepubescent at that time so I'm voting 0.

Heave Ho, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 22:14 (eighteen years ago)

will, your love for the senators doesn't count

mookieproof, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 22:14 (eighteen years ago)

in love every day. ew.

whatever, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 22:38 (eighteen years ago)

http://youtube.com/watch?v=xaYqOrgE70Y

rrrobyn, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 22:48 (eighteen years ago)

http://youtube.com/watch?v=KN7HccAKbgs

"HEY, RRROBYN IS THAT PRINCE? HUH UH"

Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 22:57 (eighteen years ago)

http://youtube.com/watch?v=N5yNpmW2cMA

rrrobyn, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 23:09 (eighteen years ago)

Somewhere between 0 and 2 and tonight 0 seems the right answer but that is kind of depressing and the poll ends in 40 minutes so I'm going for 1.

(I wonder if my totally different not-quites combined together encompass all the different things you're supposed to have in your 1 real forrealz or if there are more aspects out there waiting to be discovered? Will I ever do so if so? Eh.)

a passing spacecadet, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 23:23 (eighteen years ago)

I really want to make a Sheila E / Faust mashup now.

Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 23:33 (eighteen years ago)

http://youtube.com/watch?v=-C7FrZh1QEI

Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 23:35 (eighteen years ago)

zero

http://i88.photobucket.com/albums/k192/sirweeze/woods_tiger050410.jpg

the sir weeze, Wednesday, 14 November 2007 23:44 (eighteen years ago)

Automatic thread bump. This poll's results are now in.

ILX System, Thursday, 15 November 2007 00:01 (eighteen years ago)

Three. Once so I could save him, once so I could worship him, and this time...apparently so he can annoy the crap out of me.

Laurel, Thursday, 15 November 2007 00:18 (eighteen years ago)

http://www.gapingvoid.com/lovebegets25.jpg

ian, Thursday, 15 November 2007 00:22 (eighteen years ago)

I believe the correct answer won.

Casuistry, Thursday, 15 November 2007 00:24 (eighteen years ago)

http://aimgit.net/images/thanksAvtrDollGlitter.gif

bell_labs, Thursday, 15 November 2007 00:25 (eighteen years ago)

http://www.123glitter.com/comments-graphics/file/3211.gif

bell_labs, Thursday, 15 November 2007 00:28 (eighteen years ago)

the correct answer won = legalize bigamy!!!

Heave Ho, Thursday, 15 November 2007 00:29 (eighteen years ago)

threal question is how many times did you said to yrself :"i'm not in love,it's because..."

Zeno, Thursday, 15 November 2007 01:18 (eighteen years ago)

A year and a half ago my answer to this question would have been "About five," but now my answer -- the true answer -- is "Once. Now. Never before." Incredibly good fortune in love came my way this year, at long last. So do not lose hope. :)

xero, Thursday, 15 November 2007 03:14 (eighteen years ago)

the one who got away and the one i got away from

jergïns, Thursday, 15 November 2007 05:26 (eighteen years ago)

wow biggest turn out ever ?

Ste, Thursday, 15 November 2007 09:14 (eighteen years ago)

How on earth is a person to answer this? I have cared a hell of a lot for 2 people, but there have been others that I think the world of but I know I could never be with.

Is love the thing that keeps you awake when they’re not there, makes you jealous, causes you to be unreasonable and made you grumpy when they’re off with you for no reason!

not_goodwin, Thursday, 15 November 2007 14:59 (eighteen years ago)

No, that one's called "pride"

nabisco, Thursday, 15 November 2007 18:07 (eighteen years ago)

A very nice Nigerian woman once told me love was stronger than it

nabisco, Thursday, 15 November 2007 18:10 (eighteen years ago)

Ah well, on the bright side I'm learning to love someone at the same time I want to stab them with forks -- a v useful life skill for the long-run, I guess.

Laurel, Thursday, 15 November 2007 18:23 (eighteen years ago)

Sorry, hyphens get-ting away from me -there.

Laurel, Thursday, 15 November 2007 18:24 (eighteen years ago)

Okay I am in love with those GIFs that bell_labs posted so my answer is now 4.

HI DERE, Thursday, 15 November 2007 18:25 (eighteen years ago)

i think the second one might only exist in that GIF, dan

omar little, Thursday, 15 November 2007 18:41 (eighteen years ago)


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