how many times have you been in love forrealz

1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1

A true serial monogamist is Sunny

never the cheater but always the breaker

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i know it's twice, i just can't decide which two.

not conditioned on the object knowing about it, right?

it's not real love if you're selfish enough to involve them.

Furrealz? Nevah.

2.5

thread has potential to be the saddest thing ever on the internet

Obvious sleeve up next!

now that I think about it they were all just silly irrational crushes.

http://s.yottamusic.com/i/aNXt.275m/110x110

Three, I'd say. Maybe just two, though.

whore

I'll get back to you if I know whether it's one or two by January.

i honestly do not know the answer to this question.

3 but this time is by far the best in many ways.

uno

actually, if you don't know, the answer's probably 0

Just once, but it's still going quite well.

booooooo love sucks boooooooooo

i'm going to say 2, but that's including a .5 for my first serious girlfriend (i was too young to know any better) and .5 for a current crush

no, it's 2

a short but intense one

one.

i can't decide between never and five times. if u know what i mean.

i'm going to say 2, but that's including a .5 for my first serious girlfriend (i was too young to know any better) and .5 for a current crush

-- Jordan, Monday, November 12, 2007 1:01 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark Link

One and two halves

I am not certain if it is two or three or one. All my past love gets polluted and obscured by the pain of the breakup and then realizing or acknowledging the things I strongly disliked about the person. And if I am in some "Eternal Sunshine" scenario, lord knows the number.

if you're in some "eternal sunshine" scenario, the number is one, right?

yeah

But what if I got all skanky and had to re-erase all of my dozens of "loves" innumerable times. How would you know if it was just one? I am not sure one would.

zwei

i was all like "fuck this, love doesn't exist" cynical for a long time after i got played by a serious gf years ago, but now i think it does on account of my current situation.

aw

an "eternal sunshine" scenario just means all subsequent loves are attempts to recreate the original, no? that movie is kind of bleak.

That is interesting: it is curious when people say they don't believe in things, like love or gun control or things. Like "they do not exist" or "I disagree with them"? So I am glad you were quite clear! yay

xxp

I don't think the movie is clear on # of loves. I don't believe in "one true love," and in this case I mean "does not exist."

one and cosign on the etenral sunshine scenario

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2x

two, maybe three

3

3 but this time is by far the best in many ways.

-- ENBB

same for me

"Love's A Real Thing," says Angela Davis.

(knee) jerkin' answer: fukk kno's

4th time around

the summer after we graduated high school i was in a car with a dude who had recently broken up with his h.s. girlfriend. roxette came on the radio, and he said, very earnestly, "yeah, i was in love once--but it's over now."

my first beer tonight goes out to you, jay s0b0+ka

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i think his car was a fiero

wow. we *are* in the same boat.

2ice

i've only been in love with girls i've "got with". but they didn't last long and I essentially ended up in the same angsty (or is that presumptious?) state as Ste and LJ.

it isn't angst, it's statement of fact. of course, it could all change tomorrow. at least i'm still backing myself. the day i give up is the day it really does become nihilistic angst.

In reference to what Tuomas was talking about upthread, "love" is a very bullshit word in English-- it means far too many things, as humans run a gamut of emotions, and pretty much anything intense has to fall into one of two bins-- love or hate. Now, hate has as many words as the Inuit have for snow; dislike, distaste, disdain, repulsion, revulsion, whatever the noun for despise is, hate, abhorrence, the noun for detest, disapproval... and they all communicate something slightly different. For example, "disdain" implies that you look down on something, AFAIK.. like, a king looks at peasants in disdain, because they're dirt. Or to abhor is to hate something so much that you kind of hate the idea of it, or even thinking about it. Some of them even imply "unrequited" hate, as it were: when someone says they are "repulsed" by someone, it carries an implication that it's one-way hate, whereas if they "hate" someone, there's more of a balance there.

So where are these words for love? Well, we have "like," which is my friends, some acquaintances... and a multitude of inanimate/semi-animate objects (I like beaches, and Xbox, for example). There's "love," which is anything stronger than liking. I love Montreal, I love my family, I love my best friends. Then there's this weird "in love" that seems to be reserved for people who you are romantically/sexually interested in (it seems to need to be both; I have a problem with that too, but that's another argument for another day), and some people consider mutual feelings prerequisite and some don't.

It seems that using words other than love is "cheesy" and restricted to Old English poems and stuff like that; however, it ends up with people dumbing down their feelings because there just aren't words to express them. It's like kids who don't learn how to positively discuss something without "cool." It's fucking newspeak for our hearts and it's bullshit. NABSICO JR OUT.

I don't think I've ever said any girl I've dated "I love you" until we've been together for a while, and I've really meant it.

wait: you can be romantically interested without wanting to have sex with someone? i mean i know the other way around is all good but i didnt know this was possible. isnt it just plutonic then?

xpost

I've been romantically interested in people and not wanted to have sex with them. Whether that's because I have the sex drive of a catatonic apple, or because I have some strange madonna/whore complex variant, I may never know. It's very hard to explain and even harder without sounding like an eight-year old about it.

People here seem to have such differing definitions of "love" that I call the whole scientific validity of this poll into question.

if you think it's love, then count it.

i suspect that if you have to check your feelings scientifically, then you're not in love -- i think it should be kind of self-evident. but tally however you'd like.

It's fair to say that love's whatever you think it is, but why even bother quantifying it, then? The results won't show anything. A poll that may have been better would have been something like "what is love to you?"

0, and I never should have clicked on this thread.

will m. you make an interesting case. maybe it's the 'for realz' in this thread title which 'quantifies' love to some degree. eg. i have been, i think, genuinely in love twice before, but this third time is way different: it's the kind of unconditional love i have for my best friends, combined with a romantic love, and also that kind of love where you feel no longer alone in the world (which i would call maybe a kind of 'family' type of love). so i would characterise this is as 'for realz', but only because i have other experiences to compare and contrast it with.

twice but right now it feels like this is the only time (i am very sad tonight)

i am getting teary at the fucking lolcats ffs

0. I'm pretty easy going with my emotional attachments. One day, though, I might know the violent love so many experience...... !!!!!!!

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That's not to imply 3 loves, if you think that.

I voted 2.

Because there have been 2 of them.

My last girlfriend and I got a complaint about playing that song too much from the neighbors

once, got drunk with her last night for the first time in years

if love makes you teary at lolcats i want nothing to do with it

When i was around 7 i thought I was in love with this chubby girl but I was prepubescent at that time so I'm voting 0.

will, your love for the senators doesn't count

in love every day. ew.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=xaYqOrgE70Y

http://youtube.com/watch?v=KN7HccAKbgs

"HEY, RRROBYN IS THAT PRINCE? HUH UH"

http://youtube.com/watch?v=N5yNpmW2cMA

Somewhere between 0 and 2 and tonight 0 seems the right answer but that is kind of depressing and the poll ends in 40 minutes so I'm going for 1.

(I wonder if my totally different not-quites combined together encompass all the different things you're supposed to have in your 1 real forrealz or if there are more aspects out there waiting to be discovered? Will I ever do so if so? Eh.)

I really want to make a Sheila E / Faust mashup now.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=-C7FrZh1QEI

zero

http://i88.photobucket.com/albums/k192/sirweeze/woods_tiger050410.jpg

Automatic thread bump. This poll's results are now in.

Three. Once so I could save him, once so I could worship him, and this time...apparently so he can annoy the crap out of me.

http://www.gapingvoid.com/lovebegets25.jpg

I believe the correct answer won.

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the correct answer won = legalize bigamy!!!

threal question is how many times did you said to yrself :"i'm not in love,it's because..."

A year and a half ago my answer to this question would have been "About five," but now my answer -- the true answer -- is "Once. Now. Never before." Incredibly good fortune in love came my way this year, at long last. So do not lose hope. :)

the one who got away and the one i got away from

wow biggest turn out ever ?

How on earth is a person to answer this? I have cared a hell of a lot for 2 people, but there have been others that I think the world of but I know I could never be with.

Is love the thing that keeps you awake when they’re not there, makes you jealous, causes you to be unreasonable and made you grumpy when they’re off with you for no reason!

No, that one's called "pride"

A very nice Nigerian woman once told me love was stronger than it

Ah well, on the bright side I'm learning to love someone at the same time I want to stab them with forks -- a v useful life skill for the long-run, I guess.

Sorry, hyphens get-ting away from me -there.

Okay I am in love with those GIFs that bell_labs posted so my answer is now 4.

i think the second one might only exist in that GIF, dan