e-crushes - C or D

yea it's kinda pathetic unless u actually get to know the person. i mean if you're in love with a typeface, u have some self-discovery ahead of you. but i don't think the internet is a bad way to meet ppl at all.

Well it's way easier to be charming,confident and almost enigmatic if you want to be on the internet than in real life. So that could be a contributing factor. Still, you'd want a bit of personal contact for confirmation I think. I know some people who are totally different on the internet than in real life.

totally! that's the problem tho -- you can't rely on your typing to get you through relationships. i think you can learn from your internet personality though. you seem like someone who isn't so different in real life, I know, right.

ilx 2007 revealed that it's a dud for a few people.

http://i19.photobucket.com/albums/b151/Dino-kun/1183064455517.gif

xpost

i be tellin it like it is yo

(you see!)

haha

ive done the complimenting (but without being wet about it) and flirting thing, to see if my crush reciprocates. but she doesnt really. or if she does compliment back, i get the feeling its just polite or compliments that youd give a friend ('youre funny' etc).

as far as net vs real life differences, we have spoken on the phone twice (a couple of hours last time) but no, i dont think this is going to move up from being an e-crush. plus she lives about 2 hours away.

luna?

Well it's way easier to be charming,confident and almost enigmatic if you want to be on the internet than in real life.

I am far more comfortable and self-assured IRL than on the computer, but that's not saying a lot.

Hey did Tombot and Ally break up or something, he mentioned something about not getting his Christmas lay.

is it in the FAQ?

the line that must not be crossed

"you're funny" = not a good sign :(

- "i think you're amazing and pledge to you my undying love"
- "you're funny"

"you're funny" = not a good sign :("

well no, but she keeps telling me i look like famous people she fancies. which ok, might mean nothing. but still. and, AND, AND she says things like how she likes that im good at intellectual sparring and things like that.

ok, none of this means anything. i know.

well no, but she keeps telling me i look like famous people she fancies.

NEUTRAL

she likes that im good at intellectual sparring and things like that.

NEUTRAL TO BAD

"you're funny"

CHAOTIC EVIL

she likes that im good at intellectual sparring and things like that.

good at intellectual sparring => probably bad at barbaric shagging.

i'm so sorry :(

you guys.

i'm sure he feels SO much better about his e-crush now

you are not refuting our expert analysis

lol @ 'expert'

ken-doll is my e-crush

his intellectual sparring makes up for his lack of barbaric shagging

no wait

his barbaric shagging makes up for his lack of intellectual sparring

good at intellectual sparring => probably bad at barbaric shagging.

maybe the truest thing ever written

that people tend to make this assertion is maybe the truest thing ever written but the assertion itself is bunk.

that first 'assertion' shd be 'assumption'

debunking my bunk

http://members.aol.com/TheWireHBO/images/thewirebarroom.jpg

(l to r: ken c, wanko, veryloggedout)

i don't wear pinstripes

thats just your cool guy internet personality talking

lolol xxp

im actually pretty good at intellectual sparring WHILE shagging barbarically.

that's quite a talent

I barbarically spar while shagging intellectually.

whatever you say

i don't think i want to know how one shags 'intellectually'

i don't think i want to know how one shags 'intellectually'

its a headfuck.

*bows*

thank you, ill be here all week.

nice one ;)

i have decided there are only three options for this. either i say a) 'lets meet up!' and then we do (perhaps) and i see what happens. or b) i just say 'i think i have a crush on you' and get it out in the open. im going to do c) which is not do either.

nicely done lucas

i'm bad at both intellectual spars and barbaric shags.

i don't really know what rubyredd sees in me sometimes.

it's true - love is blind ;_;

It doesn't smell so well, either

it's a terrible driver

"Veryloggedout", my god! At best be a little grown and tell the us the world your own name.

"let her go"

i am, i just feel bad not replying to her txts (not that theres been loads, just 1 or 2) properly. and i generally just feel like an arsehole! both for leading her on and for the fact that i dont fancy her (which i knew in the beginning, i just thought i would/should get over it, but it didnt happen being that im a superficial git).

anyway, hope this thread is instructive to anyone with an e-crush. dont do it it kids!

Dude, I can understand some neurosis in life, but this is neither epochal nor "instructive" -- you were interested in someone, went out with her, realized she wasn't a good fit for you. This is the part where you say that maybe it's not the best match / "chemistry" but you'd very much like to hang out and be friends, if she's interested. And then the sun rises tomorrow, as per usual.

but whoa it would kinda suck if it didn't

and like the rest of your life was spent appeasing the sun gods and you never got to go out with any girls again ever

i don't know, that would give your life a sense of purpose dating might not.

who needs girls when you're shoveling fire all day!

Then you might have problems.

CONTROL F

"ME" NOT FOUND

veryloggedout, are YOU pretty?

veryloggedout i think homosexual II has an e-crush on u

MY HART BELONGS TO JON WILLUMS

Oh dear.

FRIDAY AFTERNOOON

i have an e-crush on teh sun gods they send me msg abt lottery winnings i aam a winnar!

SOMETHING SMELLS LIKE BROWN SUGAR AND CINNAMON IN THIS OFFICE AND I HAVE A CRUSH ON IT. assuming it's a foodstuff and not an actual person.

veryloggedout whatever you do don't click on the ariane thread

I am having a love affair with this box of cheez-its.

I HAVE CRUSH on that CORRECTIVE TAPE ROLLER DISPENSER THING as its providing entertainment for me right now!

xpost - saying 'lets be friends' is a big fat DUD. just ending up 'being friends' however is much better. im going to look into sun worshipping.... ;)

homo, i dont know if i am pretty. its quite possible that i am not. although various people (not my mother, honest) think i am quite handsome. i myself swing from 'fuck im good looking!' to 'dear god i am repulsive'. depends if the sun is shining, if the birds are chirping... anyway, this isnt about me thinking 'im out of her league' if that is what youre thinking, its more just about that 'i fancy you' impulse not kicking in. but yes, maybe i have an over inflated sense of self importance and need to take it down a few notches and shrink my ego a bit. i know some people who havent realised that they are not adonis and have ended up alone.

omg dude you just weren't into her it's okay. relax.

okay heres a better thing to tell her - say something douchey like 'I DONT THINK THERE'S CHEMISTRY!"

better than "not pretty enuf" yanno?

I think I could be good friends with this bottle of Baileys but I don't think I really love it.

If this thread keeps going along like this, I'm definitely going to post my colonoscopy pictures.

i have had a fair amount of e-crushes
but they are kinda twee huh

aaw

PP DO IT

hopefully no polyps

if there's one thing i learned from sex and the city it's that 'he's just not that into you' is a simplistic sound bite that will make you a lot of money if you turn it into a book

POLYPS yes

well no

God this is so Internet Drama 101. How many times does the quadratic have to be solved, peeps?

I kinda think that some of my GFs had me shoveling fire, tho.

Seventy times seven, apparently. xp

Saying "let's be friends" feels weird but check out this blinding logic: if you have gone out on a date with someone started off in a romantical direction you do in fact actually have to say something along these lines, you can't just keep hanging out with her and not touching her and then eventually go "oh, did I forget to mention that I'd re-classified you as friends-only?"

Christ on a bike

And the voice of the blindingly obvious spake unto us and it said: if you go on a date with someone and then intend to hang out with her soon afterward and not have it be another date, you have to mention that

Oh is that right?

P.S. I am eating cheez-its too! but a bag, not a box :(

I led a girl on for a long time whom I liked as a friend but I really didn't want to make sweet love to her. Eventually I got married to someone else and she got really angry at me and wrote a "book" of sorts wherein I was the evil antagonist who kills her lover, etc.

These boundary kinds of things do need to be made clear, I have learned.

is that how you came up with your username?

I don't get it.

But no, I was just looking through all the libraries on a unix computer and chose it at random.

i have a crush on everyone whos posted on this thread

and on my peanut m&ms

seeing eastern promises gave me a little crush on naomi watts too

"And the voice of the blindingly obvious spake unto us and it said: if you go on a date with someone and then intend to hang out with her soon afterward and not have it be another date, you have to mention that"

this is hard to do this without insulting someone. but hopefully she wont care and will insult me for making that assumption.

omg dude you just weren't into her it's okay. relax.

im alright now. (must be all the 'christ!'s) but its still crap to be the person someone isnt into.

well gosh, it's so magnanimous of you to leave her twisting in the wind and imagining all kinds of horrible scenarios in which you hate her and no longer even want to speak to her, rather than just telling her how you feel

stay out of this bernard

yeah, sorry, that was probably unnecessarily harsh; just sayin' that in my experience the "oh god why has this person stopped talking to me, what did I do wrong?" feeling is much worse than the "aw man, someone I kinda like just wants to be friends with me" one.

My least unsuccessful relationship to date is the one where I wasn't that into him but figured I would go with it for a while and see what happened. It was the only one where after the initial day of "oh my god so awesome" I didn't start worrying about how I thought I was into him but is this really right oh noes until I didn't enjoy it any more. I became that into him, eventually. Maybe even over-dependent. But. You know.

...wait, that is not so much any meaningful advice as an admission of how lousy and to be honest short my relationship history has been. Never mind. Tell her nicely, then.

you will never get 100% of what you want from a person. so 70% isnt so so bad, you just take a loss on the physical front.

something quite bad has happened. the site we both met on, i posted under a new log in, and what i thought was a different posting style, but clearly not diff enough, and my former e-crushette has somehow found me out! now this wouldnt be a problem ordinarily if i was just posting random stuff, but i posted some comments which she has spotted were about her/me and her. now i could pretend its not really me (but this would probably be pointless) or i could just own up to the fact im a dickhead. or i could not say anything, thereby confirming the latter. i think we all know the best option.

god i hope she doesnt know about ilx.

... LJ?