Do men like being called cute?

no.

"You're so cute." They hate that, right?

"You look really cute today."

What do you want to be called? Handsome? Beautiful? Sexy?

they also hate being called "sweet". they think it means you are calling them a pussy.

don't like cute but i'll take 'cutey'

xp uh not like as a 1st choice tho

if I'm deemed cute enough to get naked with then I can deal

I'll take any of those adjectives and treat them as compliments, why not?

Cute/sweet are great to hear

just as long as they call me

I'd rather someone made me a sandwich.

Ha! I would hate, hate, hate to be called 'cute'. My sperm count would drop by 50%. I would interpret it as code for 'you are not remotely sexy, but I do think you're funny, like a goofy brother'.

Fave compliment from a woman for me would probably be 'You handsome devil, you make me think bad, wrong thoughts'. I'm getting myself worked up just thinking about it.

i would be fine with bein cute especially if its a precursor to gettin laid--do people really find it that threatening to their masculinity?

i guess it depends on how the girl means it--"cute" as in "lets bone" vs. "cute" as in "youre like a 3rd-grader"

most girls i know use "cute" to mean the former but ill accept that others might mean the latter

"you're funny" = ok
"you look funny" = not ok

Here's the context with which I associate the word 'cute':

'Erm, sorry, Jane, for my behaviour last night.'

'You mean the way you said you'd had a crush on me for seven years and could I ever look at you in a sexual way? Don't worry about it. You were so cute!'

I wouldn't mind being called 'swell'. Do Americans still say that?

I used to hate being called cute until I thought about the girls to whom I applied the word "cute." They were all girls I wanted to bone.

At the lake.

yeah i mean "cute" when it means "goofy/childish/earnest" is a sort of cutting compliment, but i know a ton of girls who mean "cute" as "hot" or even "goofy/childish/earnest/hot"

Ah, well fair enough then. Ultimately I don't care what a girl calls me as long as she calls me.

yeah w/ guys it seems to be used more in reference to behavior/personality than looks. i don't mind being called cute by my girlfriend but if a stranger or acquaintance said i looked cute, i wouldn't be insulted so much as confused, because i'm not.

Being neurotic about receiving compliments is most definitely NOT cute.

Do guys really not like being called sweet?!

There is something infantilizing, and therefore desexualizing, about being called "cute"...

http://www.lrb.co.uk/v26/n08/haus01_.html

Mike's "milk" is like the sweetest thing ever. You should totally try it.

No. (xp)

There is something infantilizing, and therefore desexualizing, about being called "cute"...

Hahahahhahha. Funny, that's more or less how I feel about it, too!

"How does this look?"
"Cute!"
"Fuck, I gotta change."

God forbid anyone should mess with a man's image of his sexuality! Women, on the other hand....

AskMen

It has feminine and infantile overtones, and so can be read as half-assed or dismissive, even if you don't mean it that way - I probably don't feel strongly about people I think are 'cute', and being thought of that way may not do it for me. If you mean something more by it, and don't want to use a stronger word, you could use stronger intonation that makes clear that the word is somewhat euphemistic. 'Sweet' is stronger, but can be even more dismissive if you don't really mean it.

Xps

askmen... otm???

best compliment i ever got was when a girl said i was an 'amazing piece of ass' at a party, guys dont get objectified enough in my experience

really, who cares what men "like"

I enjoyed that article.

i see you take to the HRC model of negotiation

xp

I also agree that it's better for behavior than appearance, but I might not like it for behavior, and I could take it as complimentary re looks if from someone with much greater aesthetic sense.

lol bell_labs
dont h8 men

I don't mind having a cute ass, but being a cute person? Not so much.

what do women mean when they call a guy 'cute'

"women"

womyn?

Though I think you can be infantilized and still sexualized, as long as you are objectified. Men, particularly str8s, are less into that for obv cultural reasons

That's weird, because str8 women are totally into it.

I fucking hate being called "cute" because I am not 11.

they also hate being called "sweet". they think it means you are calling them a pussy.

No, that's not the issue with "sweet" -- I think "sweet" more often cuts back to the near-universal young-man moment where you make some big gesture of adoration to someone you're pining for and she says "oh, that's so ... that's really ... really sweet of you."

A puppy is cute; I am hot.

I'm with morbs!

I always say my bf is a dead set spunk. He says he prefers 'handsome' but they mean the same thing to me. I don't think he'd like to be called cute if it referred to his appearance... it wouldn't fit with his bloke-y self-image. He IS cute though.

emily d thinks you are a crepe for that stunt you pulled on youtube!

xpost

haha you finally found it!

I found it as soon as you did it, it was my video!

I like "rakish," even though I imagine in the intended meaning of the word, you could start a fight with it. It has a feeling about it of "handsome devil," but I think it was once supposed to mean something more like, "You are the kind of disgusting monkey who would violate the elderly and not even wash up afterwards."

M White OTM about "scoundrel."

haha i didn't know it notifies you!

i was just trying to make her feel better

is stubble cute

or rakish

If you can use your beard as a rake, it's probably not cute.

that's some kind of AAD lol isn't it

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/portal/graphics/2007/10/02/beard.jpg

Looks pretty convenient for holding napkins.

he hides the microfilm in it

You would say that, wouldn't you?

are boners cute?

I like being called cute, mainly because I ain't.

Asking this because I've just seen the Stuart Leevid of him performing in scotland and him called the crowd 'scotch' and it being a big deal, is it like called an American a 'yank', or an English person a 'limey' (ie its dehumanising and vaguely offensive, but possible to use it in banter between friends) or is it really offensive and not cool, like referring to a German person as a 'Kraut' or worse (don't really want to type quasi racial nationalistic slurs on here, even in the context of meta question about such terms)

Thoughts!

Yes. But mostly in reference looks. Sometimes for what you do.

TO looks

I called a guy I know/like cute a while back and he went off at me! He said "dont ever call me that, it's so INSULTING". I'm like... uhhh.. okayyy. :|

i told a fwb "you are so precocious, it's adorable" - but that was to deter him from being a dick to a mutual friend.

he did not realize he was being a dick and got mad at me, and then screwed up an 80s pop culture reference.

woof absent context my post abt HRC upthread seems like a total dick post. maybe it wasnt great w/ context but it seems worse w/ time

love being called cute

this was a guy who bragged about his first instrument being hammered dulcimer at age 5.

yah i like being called cuet now

if my first instrument had been hammered dulcimer at age 5 i would brag my life away tbh, that is way cool. i mean, ok, all that really says is 'my parents are obnoxiously indulgent' but when i was a small child i was totally fascinated by the cimbalom and that would have been my absolute dream.

i told a male friend he was adorable last week, he seemed to take it well.

Totally down with being called cute. Handsome is for old men.

i am fine w/ anything that the person considers a compliment tbh

being called cute makes me go swoony and bashful and bat my eyelashes

Haha I cannot imagine you being like that at ALL.

i take the safe route and tell people i find them attractive

Handsome is something you say to someone who needs a compliment but you can't bring yourself to lie and say cute or hot or sexy or good-looking or attractive. Cute is great.

Cute can be used in many ways, from enthusiastically swoony, to dismissive or infantilizing.

yeah to me there's a difference between "cute" and "sexy"- "cute" is for, I dunno, kittens or puppies. Not potential sexual partners.

girls around the office use either "cute" or "hot", nearly interchangeably. as in "omg who's the new cute/hot guy?!???!". i'd say the only difference is "hot" guy is 1 degree of attractiveness about "cute" guy.

I accept all compliments

"cute" will get you laid iirc

I don't recall ever being called cute (and I looked uncannily like Donny Osmond most of my social life). It would have been nice.

:(

i think tbh the diff between 'cute' & 'hot' is 10lbs or so

I am going to start telling guys they look neotenous.

i think tbh the diff between 'cute' & 'hot' is 10lbs or so

i get both from my gf so i must have some major weight oscillations

they look neotenous

As Stephen J. Gould famously pointed out, Mickey Mouse displayed ever more neotony as he aged. nagl imo.

haha, better be careful!

I say that because "haha, better be careful" is the only phrase Mickey Mouse says, in my imagination.

I've actually been called neotenic!

!!!
I have only seen pics of you but you have way too angle-y a face* to be considered neotenic imo. You do have crazy huge eyes, tho, maybe that's why that was said?

*trying to think of a non-weird way to say this & failing, it is agl tho do not worry

Me, I basically look the same now as I did at age eight. This is not a thread about chubby cheek chicks tho.