you can have smart, hot, or not crazy...but only two out of three.

u_u

gimme crazy

yeah I like crazy as a rule so...

otm

thread title = truth bomb?

At some point or other I'm probably going to drive them crazy...

Not crazy is beginning to look better and better

it is not a real thing, i am sure of it

I've had it with crazy and I can't stand dumb

I seem english lit grad student in your future

Crazy sux so much and smart is overvalued. If you aren't allergic to crazy by now then you have some serious life lessons on the way. No shit, truth bomb.

fuck crazy.

I once dated a girl who asked if she could put her penis inside me right in the middle of when mine was inside her and I was like WHAT DOES THAT MEAN???? Right then I decided crazy was not worth it, big boobs

or no.

I seem english lit grad student in your future

lol I said I can't stand dumb

BLAMMO

daaaaaaaaaamn

I'm ok with crazy as I am somewhat of a nutter myself.

so I'm to understand smart and not crazy = uggo?

You crazy people need to start a nation of yr own or something separated by water from all other nations, with no water or air traffic to yr United States of Nutballica.

libcrypt that girl sounds like she was both dumb AND crazy

how does the joke go? "when I was in high school, I dated a girl just because she had big boobs. ...< 10 years' worth of caustic one-liners about different types of women > ...now I just want a girl with big boobs!

Dating "alt porn" model - c/d?

(dom to thread)

Maybe she was dumb, but I picked her up in calc II class by helping do her homework. So yeah, kinda dumb.

"not crazy" == "boring"

there are plenty of smart, attractive people who are completely dead inside.

yep

tho for the purposes of this poll are we to assume that if one is smart and hot they are crazy by default

cause that has been my exp

i guess narcissism is a psychological disorder, so ok

I think I am "dead inside" because I can't remember the last time I saw someone I would describe as "hot".

Are you a eunuch?

i think there should be a rule that guys should not be allowed to hate on a girl for "crazy" if they are crazy themselves, which is usually the case.

capn-save-a-self: i mean actual crazy

like bipolar, deeply sad fucked-up past crazy

trick question, all women are crazy

xxxpost
No. Maybe my hormones are out of wack, but I mean, I've seen "cute", purty, and stuff, but "hot"-- I don't even know what that means anymore

http://i26.tinypic.com/jfx92p.jpg

I guess the term "hot" is for me loaded with caricature of Pamela Anderson stuff or some such nonsense. Not to denigrate her, but I guess I'm indicting the whole concept of "hot".

Would rather talk "beautiful".

"beautiful" is fraught with all kinds of emotional weight though. even if referring to a stranger. 'beautiful' = i'd like to get to know you.

"hot" is useful in denoting the pure physicality of the attraction. 'hot' = i'd like to bone you.

"Hot" means that yr loins rise in temp a few degrees and you start imagining the different ways yr loins both could be touching or whatevs.

xpost?
Yeah, I guess it comes down to personal idiosyncrasies or something...but even in the case of intense pure physicality of attraction I would not label said person as being "hot". Rather, I'd be like, "oh, we have some intense connection going on"?

If I'm walking down the street and see some random person that catches my fancy, I invariably think, wow, she's really cute, or wow, some people are so beautiful.

What about cute? HERE WE GO AGAIN

yeah 'hot' has an unsavoryness to it, i prefer cute. but THE DISCOURSE IS SET.

ha xp

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When I saw the thread title I thought it meant I could have two for myself, not for a girlfriend.

I'm smart and not crazy, and it seems like a good way to be.

lol it's for partner

well then I pick "smart" and "hot" because everyone is already crazy

just realizing how horrible that makes my initial answer look lol. xxpost

I don't require my partner to be an intellectual but "not being a cinderblockhead" is a prerequisite. the penultimate girl I dated was however both smart and crazy and a terrible person, whereas the last one was attractive but kind of dumb and that didn't work out.

otm man can't dodge crazy xp

tho it was more due to just organically not being a good fit than anything (you'd think someone who posts memes saying they want a man who loves them but "loves God more" wouldn't want to date a guy with a Baphomet-pentagram tattoo but ymmv). xpost

I guess my answer would be pretty much the same for myself as it is for a partner. My days of worrying about whether people find me 'hot' are in the past. As long as I'm hovering somewhere just over the median on the Smart-o-Meter and just under the median on the Crazy-o-Meter, I'm cool.

As someone certifiably crazy I can say with confidence that going out with me is a terrible idea.

Though I'm also ugly and surprisingly stupid for someone with a post-grad education. So basically a bad deal all round.

i have an ex that was smart and hot (and a sociopath), an ex that was smart and not-crazy (but not hot), and an ex that was hot and not-crazy (not stupid, but not as smart as the other two, or me tbrr) -- the smart and not-crazy one is the one I have the most regrets about and think, "hey, the next time I feel like dating, I should look for a guy like him."

important question: is "good in bed" kind of folded into "hot" or is that separate

smart and not crazy is like a really daring combination.

As someone certifiably crazy I can say with confidence that going out with me is a terrible idea.

― emil.y, Thursday, April 6, 2017 5:50 PM (twenty-five minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i will cosign this xx

dumb, ugly, crazy, bad in bed = you could be president

important question: is "good in bed" kind of folded into "hot" or is that separate

― k3vin k., Thursday, April 6, 2017 10:11 AM (ten minutes ago)

totally separate, though being good in bed can go a long way to making up for not being "hot" per se -- at least that's what a lot of guys I've had sex with have told me

xpost when did you have sex with The Donald?

Though I'm also ugly and surprisingly stupid for someone with a post-grad education. So basically a bad deal all round.

― emil.y, Thursday, April 6, 2017 11:51 AM (twenty-nine minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I know you're not fishing but my perception is that his post is the opposite of true.

I've thought for some time that my not-crazy levels were low enough to disqualify me from participation in relationships and yet I persist. I am at least upfront about it.

wrt partners, I'm at the point where Iall three of the criteria itt are subordinate to adaptability, acceptance, and conflict resolution skills.

in other words, willingness to put up with you?

Can you even imagine the effort involved in that endeavor?

But nah, it's a two-way street, and it's as much about one's willingness to put up with oneself.

*sigh* so true

"mad, bad, dangerous to know": compliment or insult?

Is the question stating that people only come in two of these three flavours (patently not so) or is the crucial aspect here the "you can have" limitation and therefore really a question about the respondent

true triple constraint means you can only have certain amounts of all three
like cost, schedule, performance trade-off, vs "fast cheap or easy pick two"

Should be a hot and crazy option IMO

Thread irrelevant to me. Only care about the pattern of markings on their exo-skeleton.

how was this not "hot, not crazy" in a walk

Kiss me u fool

"smart" is the only one of these that has any drawbacks. (higher expectations, difficult to relate to others, more prone to certain mood disorders, etc)

plus you end up with books all over your apartment. attracts dust.

"smart" is the only one of these that has any drawbacks. (higher expectations, difficult to relate to others, more prone to certain mood disorders, etc)

― Treeship, Thursday, 6 April 2017 21:35 (one minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

True for hot ppl ime

Books would be a plus for me. I'd break down the paper using my mandibles and excretions and use the pulp to build a hive.

well, i started dating my smart + not crazy partner a year after my last post in this thread, and things have been going pretty great ever since.

I think about this silly little theory from time to time and honesty I still don't know what I'd pick. How do people feel now that most of us are well above 30?

Is this about what we look for in a line manager?

Not to be that guy but I think one thing that's changed is referring to people as "crazy" is something I now avoid.

True. Reading back through the thread there is also a discussion about unpacking the semantics of the word "hot" too. But yeah, reading through it again makes me realise how we've moved on since people were comfortable using words like "dumb" to describe others

Smart, hot, and mellow, then?

Mellow does increase in importance as you get older I think.

counting the ways this thread is crazy, dumb and munting would be way too much effort tbh

But if we're to stick to "not crazy" for the sake of the thread starter, I wonder how far these go. Is "not hot" just 'not classically attractive' or 'physically repulsive'?

Is 'crazy' defined as "suffers from depression and/or other mental health issues but overall a good person", or "abusive/controlling/awful person etc"

Is "smart" booksmart or streetsmart?

Fair! All three can be read in myriad ways.

I think about this silly little theory from time to time and honesty I still don't know what I'd pick. How do people feel now that most of us are well above 30?

otm

Smart. Hot. Crazy. Wonderful. I Love Everything. (TM)

All I think of when ppl talk about crazy is this:

Boys often like crazy girls when they first meet them but then later the boys gets tired of all the craziness and shout jeeringly at the girls that they are crazy.
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A meal can be two of cheap, easy to make and healthy! Which two? Also you are fucking the meal

Is this poll not about what we settle for when reading ILX posts?

Hang on, just getting word that my algorithm hasn't considered whether the meal is tasty or not....or whether it's non-allergenic....or the ethical implications of the ingredients' sources.....or whether it's appropriate for the time of day........or some other things......better let the supercomputer handle it and give us a full Top Trumps readout, that meal isn't gonna bang itself!