when you see someone REALLY CUTE on the street/some random place and don't know what to do about it

Is that a fisheye in your pocket or are you just pleased to meet me?

and then sometimes you make that prolonged eye contact in passing -- the odd, why-are-you-looking-at-me moment. do you break out into a big grin? wave? stop them and give them your business card?

also i feel it's a different ball game for same-sex-flirtations. is it OK to risk humiliating your homosexual self?

I have no idea for same-sex stuff, but as a general rule, a straightforward approach seems best. "Hi. So you're out taking pictures today. Is it a hobby of yours? What kind of camera is that?" and so on. It's probably going to go nowhere, but that's the nature of random flirtations. Better to have an awkward conversation and walk away then obsess about it for the rest of the day. Who really cares, right? And who knows, maybe you'll actually hit it off.

BTW, I used to suck at this, but I'm now married and don't do it anymore.

then=than

yah i'm thinking you're right

(easier said than done)

Oh and the camera thing is a much better opening than most. If you've got no obvious topic to broach, then it's harder. Bottom line is that you want to express interest in the person and start a conversation without being creepy. That's hard to do sometimes, but you just have to go for it.

Haha, I totally sucked at this and almost never did it.

xpost

"Hope you've saved some of that turkey for me."

i know, the camera was my opening. blast it.

Yeah, that's the the thing. It's not that you'll probably ever actually pick someone up this way, it's more about not kicking yourself for the rest of the day.

truth

my friend advises a casual "hey there" if in passing. this never occurred to me. all this time i've been trying to communicate with the oh-so-subtle smile.

(which i'm not sure if it ends up looking like i have a sinus cold or something)

If the "hey there" is deliverd with breezy confidence and is uttered from a chilsed countenance, the maybe. Otherwise probably not.

so many things to consider

chiseled countenance, I meant.

got it

this is e.g., springtime

ugh i know. it's the time.

season of the hey-there-u-r-cute smile but not nec any follow thru

but follow thru and man oh man

this thread OTM

i had this friend in junior high who once decided to challenge herself to do things like this on a regular basis to boost her boldness

she would just start talking to random guys. it really worked for her but i think she became kind of a slut.

season of the hey-there-u-r-cute smile but not nec any follow thru

-- rrrobyn, Sunday, April 27, 2008 10:42 PM (46 seconds ago) Bookmark Link

but is that really so bad? xpost

i don't think so

surmounter you are a hottie so just go up and say hi - dude will stunned that such a babe is talking to him.

my only answer right now is something like 'nice bike/camera/dog/etc' + fingers crossed

rubes i need you like the little angel on my shoulder when i'm out and about

http://www.bargainfancydress.co.uk/media/images/product_category/21757.jpg

aaaahahaha

ask if he was the dude taking pics at the bar/club/party/opening you were at last month cause it was way fun and you wished you knew where you could get those pics cause you're a fun guy who's out and about all the time. oh that wasnt you? he kind of looked like you. so what kind of photog work do you do then? etc.

if a guy wearing lip gloss came up to me w/a new zealander perched on his shoulder and complimented me I would be extremely happy, though possibly not for "I wanna bang u" reasons

see i've thought about this too, the fabricate-a-white-lie thing. it really doesn't seem like a bad idea

yeah its not like there's only a handful of photographers in NYC

that suggestion sounds a bit :-)ish, grady

ask if he was the dude taking pics at the bar/club/party/opening you were at last month cause it was way fun and you wished you knew where you could get those pics cause you're a fun guy who's out and about all the time. oh that wasnt you? he kind of looked like you. so do you know my friend hopper? etc.

gr8080's idea is pretty awesome. that could totally work.

surmounter is he still out there, even??

sooo i was just discussing the best way to approach you with some friends on the internet and uh anyway plz vote in this online poll here yah just click vote there u go

HAHAHA YES

this is what the iphone wireless handset device was invented for

no he's totally gone. xcept now there's a concert happening so i'm sure there'll be like 20 more of these on my walk home. wish me luck

you'd better come back with all 20.

eww

the more the merrier

ok i said hi to 20 boys and no one came home with me

lol justine! gettin raunchy

lol surm - yeah, the only way seeing a beautiful girl ruins my day completely is if she is obviously the gf/wife of totally hot guy

hahaha yes

or even a not totally hot guy - like the guy could be really cute in an idiosyncratic way that you feel you may be unique in appreciating & think "wait, this one might actually be in my league" - but he is obviously attached to this totally hot chick

yeah in-your-league guys pairin up with total hotties is like a slap in the face

makes you question what league you're actually in tbh

Whenever I see a hot guy I observe he is: a) with his girlfriend and b) pushing a stroller. :\

srsly h8 my nabe

lamp - i live right near a Whole foods - it's a hot guy w/gf pushing a stroller mecca

nothing like a hot dad tho tbf

these baby stroller pushers, when i picture them they do not seem cute like at all

not if you don't want kids, or feel like entertaining the thought that maybe the kid will be hot and maybe you'll still be single by the time said kid grows up ...

xp - they tend to be cute in a preppyish kinda way, and some are aging hipsters that are more cleaned up than when they were younger - if that's not what you're into, then ...

for whatever reasons, they almost all wear glasses

or pale blue shirts

business blue, weekend edition

where have all the funny trolls gone?

A sequel song to this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UnB3CHwPipU

So next time you're thinking of making a thread about how to rescue the princess from the castle, Mario, keep this in mind: there really aren't any shortcuts when it comes to socialization and women. If you're awkward you're making it hard on yourself, if you don't know a girl well enough to add her or message her on Facebook don't do it. So much of what relationship threads amount to is ignoring these basic social rules. This doesn't just go for this board, this also applies to all the other places where guys ask for online help in the realm of women.

I think the reason this hits so close to home is that if you're an introspective, shy, or intellectual type, the tendency is to think you can rationalize or (over)think your way past social difficulties.

A dim person will at least understand that there's no risk-free way to approach people and ask them out, but somebody who's a bit too smart for their own good (in this situation) will overthink things like breaking the ice, flirting, dating rules etc.

It's much like how great actors are, quite usually, dolts. An intelligent or bookish person is more likely to be self-conscious and over-analytical, while a simpleton just listens and takes direction.

sometimes you see a beautiful girl and it just ruins your day completely.
-- jess

― fiddo centington (dubplatestyle), Saturday, December 13, 2003 7:06 PM (6 years ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

― i maybe does drugs (rip van wanko), Sunday, July 18, 2010 8:24 PM (34 minutes ago) Bookmark

― janice (surm), Sunday, July 18, 2010 8:00 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

Whenever I see a hot woman, I assume I'm a lousy conversationalist with nothing to offer.

― goth (crüt), Sunday, July 18, 2010 7:03 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

etc

Whenever I see a hot woman I AM LOOKING IN THE MIRROR

oh come on someone had to.

o, this thread

not if you don't want kids, or feel like entertaining the thought that maybe the kid will be hot and maybe you'll still be single by the time said kid grows up ...

I loled

but trayce isn't it winter in oz?

still too hot for goths

Goths In Hot Weather to thread

Always too hot for goths.

Until they finally get their wish & the sun disappears.

guy and his dog on a bench outside the market. perfect guy, perfect dog, perfect london-weather-like day.

i came up with, "excuse me do u know what time it is by any chance?"

"12 30"

then i gave his dog, who could sense my fondness and nuzzled up against my arm, a quick pet and a smile, and walked away in the wistful august mist

damn. girl in the corner at big bear, i couldn't help but glance at her about 1000000x times, just left.

:-/ she's like the synthesis of every possible thing that really attracts me

i did everything in my disposal to try to get a glance back from her - i put my arms on top of my head, i put my jacket on, i took my jacket off, i walked by her to get water a few times, i got up to get napkins, i got up to put my plate away, i got up to get one more napkin, i tied my shoes in her direction. dammit.

stomp over after forty five minutes DID YOU THINK I WAS PUTTING MY LIPBALM ON FOR MYSELF what are you lady blind

just use the Kramer method, slap the table and start yelping

she is already gone. and of course she had to walk down the street looking all REALLY CUTE and stuff

sigh

sometimes you see someone that is so cute the it kinda hurts

That's how I've always felt about Rhett Miller.

sometimes? puh-lease girl, talk about every day

i felt like doing a logroll across her feet just to get a reaction

LOOK AT ME

dogs have the right idea dude

just walk up and start humping?

i have a ltd. understanding of dogs tbh

they do the logroll!

my grandpa's dog continued to hump my leg even after he was neutered. those are my main memories of the ideas that dogs have

I know this sounds crazy but I'm thinking of trying to maybe ... smile at people once in a while? I'll report back if I get the nerve.

smile/hi is a real winner of a combination

i tried to smile but i'm pretty sure it came out like this

http://rickscottsucks.us/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/480px-Rickscotthead.jpg

haaaay

Are you waiting for her to talk to you? Look at you? What are you waiting for?

any girl who doesnt notice ZS is a fool for def

at least it didn't come out like this

http://meltingbutter.files.wordpress.com/2009/01/lawyer3.jpg

she left a long time ago. there was also the problem that she had some sort of ring on but i couldn't tell which finger it was on because i can't see and i was already staring like a lunatic

:)

she left a long time ago. there was also the problem that she had some sort of ring on but i couldn't tell which finger it was on because i can't see and i was already staring like a lunatic

― do it, Rockapella! (Z S), Friday, 20 January 2012 17:27 (3 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

i sometime just make an unnecessary trip across the room, say to get napkins, but with an incredibly powerful magnet, see which finger raises