Personality being reduced due to hours spent at work?

drinking at lunch!

what about the morning?

wake and bake?

yelling at sports

wake and bake?

this plus working long hours actually sounds like a good regimen for turning you into a complete pod person

yelling at sports seems to help yeah. I've been to a few sports games since I started this job.

I suppose this is what happens. I don't think we should be working in offices. Ronan has made me see the light. I had forgotten all about the light. I am tedious. I fear Ronan becoming tedious too.

Oh, this is awful.

aside from passive aggressive workplace laziness i recommend having xtreme/adventurous weekends where you do dumb things you can think about for the rest of the week

Tombot OTM about the poditude.

drinking and dancing once or twice during the week, and pursuing whatever artistic interests or whatever you naturally gravitate towards will help, plus just well-spent non-work solitude and quality time spent with friends, etc...but i've never been able to find a proper balance with all of that, so

It is awful.

The worst is when you make a joke your friends would laugh at and someone at work is like "oh right?" and doesn't get it.

Then you throw another mound of earth onto your "self" and get back to work!

I'm lucky that even when I have to work long hours (and sometimes with this schedule all hours seem long, since I get home so late) I'm at least working with other off-kilter dorks who generally get my sense of humor, so I'm not forced to fold up my freak flag, such as it is

ronan why are all of your threads about such depressing topics

I guess cos I often feel miserable, it's not my fault.

I have consciously made the choice to have time with friends instead of sleep.

I hate sleep. It's such a waste of life

This one is only mildly, sort of depressing, I think. (As a depressio.)

i like this thread topic because im hoping someone has insight into it also :-/

yeah it's not that depressing, I just wondered if other people feel this way. my job is pretty good but very work intensive and kind of a bottom rung of the ladder type scenario.

It's the worst when you go home and the only thing you can think to discuss is work, and then at night you have dreams about work.

most of the office is cool and funny ( of course it's mostly a sales office so turnover will be complete by year's end) now but in the field i have a pretty thick wall between my "real" personality and my idea of presenting a 'professional' facade, even when i meet clients with cool taste or good sense of humor i resist the urge to 'unmask' or whatever, and i'm probably missing out that way. It has gotten better since I've felt more competent and semi-comfortable with what I'm doing, which is to be expected.

I wish there was no coworker chumminess. It makes it harder to be professional.

I mean faux-buddy-buddy shit and work 'parties' and such.

being "poor" is depressing. and faltering at "growing up" is depressing.

otherwise, my life is fine and weird good things seem to fall into my hands. except for money. and maturity.

I think being without work equally 'reduces' your personality, they just take different directions.
That being said, if you mean you have an existential problem with work and it's system the world revolves around, and this insight pains you but comes back every year like the seasons or the 'twelve' on a clock: yes, I can totally relate.

Work sucks, but I can say I can pretty much do whatever the fuck I want when not in the office - I can afford it and I'm an adult.

but fortunately if you have a part-time job, you will fully realize your personality xp

> being "poor" is depressing. and faltering at "growing up" is depressing.

This is so correct

I was working 12-14 hour days, generally 6 days a week and sometimes 7 for nearly a year, living in a hotel a 3-hour flight away from home. Yes, I got to see Ned and JBR and Remy and strgn and rogermexico a few times, but most times I was just too burned out to do anything in my off-hours besides feed myself and get some laundry done. Having to work like that puts your "self" on hold, and sometimes it's okay, if there's an end in sight to the insanity. But when there's no end in sight and all you can see is the endless treadmill of day after day after day of the same same same same.....well. That's a big part of why I don't work for that place anymore. 5 months later and I've regained a lot of what I put aside.

Jaq, that can take a turn for the worse though. In the past I've been all 'Oblomovian' on my ass. At that point the "besides feed myself and get some laundry done" are also things that can look like something beyond your reach. In other words: I couldn't get it done, cooking or cleaning (clothes). It was so bleak it scared the hell out of me, but I'm afraid I can't say for sure that it wont happen again.

I think perhaps the point is that either end of the "amount of work" bell curve is non-optimal for human folk.

If you dislike or merely tolerate your job, the original poster is correct. The lucky ones who do what they love -- they're the ones who are getting more out of it than just a paycheck.

Do what you love non-stop for all your waking hours, and eventually you won't love it. People need their work and they need their life. I love what I do; I still do it as a matter of fact, just for an amount of the day that allows me a life as well.

Say, I've heard of this little book which might have the answers to all your problems. Its about a bearded guy who had a lot of strange ideas about the world and life but they really all make sense once you think about it, he has a wide following and is massively respected the books name is;
The Communist Manifesto by Karl Marx.
I'm just putting it out there....
I think you really need to use your breaks more proactively as opportunities where you might do something you really enjoy or you know will lift your spirits whether that be taking a quick walk, reading a little bit or having a small nap.Its something to look forward to but I'd be careful about 'living' for those moments as it can make you even more anxious when you have to get back to work.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7417359.stm

http://www.greenwood.com/_net.templates/showImage.aspx?imgName=9780275942717.jpg&s=434

^^^^ this book is pretty good

I've been in an exceedingly dull job for four years - so dull that even law school sounds exciting now. And there's REALLY no one to talk to.

i got job right after school. japanese corporation. Half the people there spoke no English, the other half were 40+. Lonely, boring, lame. I became a shell of a human being.

Stay creative - by any means necessary.

Even if this requires you to become a practical joker at work. Even if it requires building popsicle-stick-and-white-glue houses. Even if it requires writing mash notes and leaving them on the windscreens of someone's car. Even if this requires thinking about what you wear when you get dressed in the morning.

^ last point is u+k

part time jobs are gifts from god, or whoever.

and aye, not everyone can do 'em.