Conversation, cigarettes and sex

nicotine is an appetite suppressant

Sex frequently leaves me annoyed that there's someone in my bed who will snore and rumple the covers. I tend to sleep badly when not alone. Cigarettes, on the other hand, are very relaxing.

i'm not very chatty but sign me up for the other two.

i don't know how much i get out of sex. i mean i get the physical gratification thing but i guess i look for other stuff in it.

but i guess i look for other stuff in it.

jesus christ.

huh?

http://whoisthisjesus.googlepages.com/goodshepherd.jpg/goodshepherd-full.jpg

yeah so i think i look for some kind of emotional thing from sex. i always get emotional. and then let down. hmmm

ok ok not always let down but i mean on that level, it doesn't always fulfill.

wait i thought you were the one who wanted an open relationship so you could run off and have fun/meaningless sex with other people...

http://gloriabrame.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/chocolatebetter2_1.jpg

umm, yuh. we delude ourselves if we think that sex automatically comes with some sense of emotional fulfilment.

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maybe you should stop having sex with strangers

hmm

yeah teh that is true, but i also don't think it's ever completely meaningless.

ok i'm not like a big slut, btw

yeah I didn't mean for that to sound as mean as it did lol

it's okay to have sex with strangers, just don't kid yourself that you're gonna wake up and be glad that they're there.

sorry if that sounds in ANY way like it's personally directed. really nothing more than an expression of personal frustrations.

no no, i completely see

lol i like how people are worried they're offending me

i wasn't worried, i just didn't like my own tone of voice.

it's okay to have sex with strangers, just don't kid yourself that you're gonna wake up and be glad that they're there.

Unless you feel intimate with strangers, like waitresses and neighbors.

add a bunch of adult swim toons to the thread title and you have my last weekend

that sounds fun.

to merely agree would be seriously understating things

What KIND of cigarettes are we talking?

dunhills

drum, jazz

After last night I could do without the cigarettes.

Oh okay, I meant what TYPE of cigarettes. Like as in...cigarettes.
I think you are one of those people (sweeping generalisation)that really get into someone even if it passes, for that time you're with them and the conversations you're having you really are into that moment and that time but then you want more of it so you find someone else and the other is forgotten. You could term that a lust for experiences or a reason to seek some 'help' but I just think you seem very passionate yet its not enough and maybe the sex you're having needs to be with someone who continues to excite you. The stranger stuff is fun but then it gets old fast and I'm in no way advocating long term monogamy maybe things are just getting repetitive, try dating someone or waiting or even having sex somewhere else than the usual...I'm not very articulate, these are just off the top of my head..

This thread is odd.

Oh okay, I meant what TYPE of cigarettes. Like as in...cigarettes.

Um . . . what?

i think like tobacco/grass... verona not so offtm?

Yeah! I think the hungriness factor could also depend on your cigs. What did you think of my answer? WAY OFF? or OTM?

lol

no i'm telling you, it was good!

i suppose i do look for a lot in people. one of the most bizarre things is feeling like there are a 100 people to talk to, but no one that could make a difference, that could change you. i don't think i ever really believe this, but at my worst, i wonder: what are the limitations of what we can do for each other?

i mean like here. we ask all these questions. we're looking for answers and at the end of the day, what can we really do for each other? entertainment? i suspect much more, but i'm not sure.

DEEP and I guess existential (?!). I hope I don't sound like some cod psychologist *DR PHIL/JEREMY KYLE* and this is probably an oversimplification but you sound really unfulfilled and I think this can manifest itself in trying to find meaning in things where you know there isn't any just so you can feel really connected with something. You're better off looking at the root instead of the symptom. Also, don't underestimate the value of entertainment.

i can always depend on you

I'm not sure if you mean that, if I am being crap please say so.

no really, you indulge me which is fun ; )