C/D: His-and-her e-mail addresses

I completely agree with this sentiment, but after dealing with some recent planning issues in which one of the two of us was not included on vital e-mails - I can see the potential reason for having one. Still not about to create one though.

What are they called, like mrsurname and mrssurname @ emailprovider.something?

my in-laws have one of these. it's weird.

We've got our separate addresses as well as a dual one that gets pizza coupons and dog advice.

I do have two out-of-town married friends that share one address. It's like, hey, these things are free now. You can have more than one.

Is it a hetero thing? I don't know any gay couples with these.

no one has ever done this.

sure they have

My mum and dad have one of these, but no-one ever emails them except me and my brother anyway.

My mum's got a separate one just for herself too, but no-one at all uses that except me.

i have 2 of these (but only one wife)
i also have my own

i'm a moran, i don't understand the fuck you mean. like alt addresses that arrive in the same inbox?

billandsa✧✧✧@a✧✧.c✧✧

ass.com?

two people, one address (so you couldn't write your friend about how her husband is a jerk unless you wanted him to read it too)

Don't say fuck, you're the mother of two small children. xxxpost

No, like "ABSm✧✧✧@x✧✧.x✧✧" where the husband and wife's names start with A and B. My parents have this, and a bunch of advertisers I deal with do also.

no one has ever done this.

RONG. I end up having to email a lot of people, mostly complete strangers, on their non-work email addresses as part of my job and there are fuckloads of people of a certain age who do this (usually somewhere in the late 30s/early 40s).

I usually take 'timandjennymartin at hotmail.com' or whatever as shorthand for 'we just got our first ever computer last year and don't really know how to work the internet'.

sure they have

i'm an optimist

I just found out this girl at my work has registered her own his and hers domain name so her email is e.g.
henrietta at hugoandhenrietta dot com

gross

It's sort of awesome to have your own domain, or maybe I just think so because I have no idea how you do that, but MAN, she just had to call it that, huh?

I can't believe none of you have ever encountered the bobandlouise AT henderson DOT org shit before

it is execrable

I hate this, it also shows that people don't know how to operate the Reply to All button on their email client.

I don't have married friends. Or hardly any. Or only ones who are ILXors and would never do this.

Also good: you are writing Mr at the Mr.and.Ms address, but Ms opens it and Mr never sees it.

If you write my father-in-law, it's pretty much guaranteed that his wife will be the one to read it and send a reply generously sprinkled with :o)s. Even at his @ usda.gov address.

Hey kids, ;O)

So glad to see you wrote Ken. :o) I'll ask him that question for you. :o)

May angels watch over you,

:o) John's stepmother

my parents share an email address, but it seems normal to me for ppl like them to do so: they're not 'internet ppl' and whoever is emailing them is emailing both of them anyway (eg. me).

this is completely lame, I agree, although just recently I thought about setting one up because you have to use an email address as your username on netflix and it seemed lame to use my own when my wife does half the movie planning. Also, other joint accounts (phone/electricity/cable, etc)....

^^^ those reasons and ruby's too.

I think there are two slightly different things in question here:

1) people (couples) who share an email account
2) people whose shared account = both their names: 'hugo&henrietta' or whatever.

I think the first set is a little bigger than the latter - well, naturally, it's a subset. But now I think of it, more examples of the latter are coming to mind.

I do find it slightly disconcerting, I think, replying to such an address; but I suppose I must assume that it works for them.

back in 2001 or something, we set up:

grimlyandmrsfiend✧✧✧@I✧✧.e✧✧
gri✧✧✧@I✧✧.e✧✧
mrsfiend✧✧✧@I✧✧.e✧✧

the first was for stuff that we both wanted to know about, eg ... i dunno, financial shit or tedious bill crap, or e-mails from my folks to both of us. the others were our individual e-mail accounts.

and fundamentally this is the system we still use. it isn't difficult. very, very few people have ever misunderstood it. it's incredibly rare we ever use the joint account, so to speak, but it's useful to have.

oh for fuck's sake with the e-mail munging. like they were fucking real. anyway, you get the idea. one shared account, two individual ones.

once, we set one of these up, to invite people to a party. we couldn't agree on who should send the email, so we both did. we haven't used it since.

email addresses are so expensive these days, it pays to economize.

is "jon /via/ chi 2.0" jon williams?

I usually take 'timandjennymartin at hotmail.com' or whatever as shorthand for 'we just got our first ever computer last year and don't really know how to work the internet'.

yes.

the other thing that happens is you email, say, bill, the husband, and you get a reply from the wife, edna, at e✧✧✧@blahblahb✧✧✧.c✧✧ which reads:

"my husband got your message. here's his response:

[insert here: response from husband which is nominally addressed to his wife, e.g., "tell him that i will such-and-such"]"

this doesn't irritate me, but it's amusing. happens a lot in publishing.

i know a couple that has a his-and-her myspace account

My grandparents had one of these. My grandfather died in 2004, but my grandmother still uses it.

aww

does your grandfather still check the account from wherever he is?

Not as often as you'd think. Plus, cremation makes it really hard to operate the mouse.

One of my close friends set up a his n hers Facebook account not long before they got married.

I mean yeesh. Why? She constantly has to make updates like "L&J is L and is baking scones", like, clarify its her posting and not him, WHY DID THEY DO THIS. Theyre internet savvy peeps! I dont understand.

My mum and dad have a shared email but dad hates interwebs so only mum uses it anyway.

it's pretty amusing that this irritates people

I can see where it'd be irritating to not know who is reading the e-mail, but really, if the couple are that joined at the hip where they can't have separate addresses, one's probably going to tell the other one what you said anyway.

I mean, it's not like this is like finding out your on speaker-phone after you've mentioned something totally inappropriate/secret.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070417103613AAUbkkP

perhaps L&J are actually the same person with a split personality

Total dud. I get so red-faced when I send sordid e-mails to married women only to see their irate husband reply.

lol, same woman
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtZzyik8scRW5fIj1sR_KHXty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080428183255AANA21h

i don't know anyone who does this but i'm rarely if ever equally friends with both halves of a couple so it would feel more than strange to send email correspondence to both of them unless it was an invite or something

perhaps L&J are actually the same person with a split personality

LOL, its possible!

RONG. I end up having to email a lot of people, mostly complete strangers, on their non-work email addresses as part of my job and there are fuckloads of people of a certain age who do this (usually somewhere in the late 30s/early 40s).

I usually take 'timandjennymartin at hotmail.com' or whatever as shorthand for 'we just got our first ever computer last year and don't really know how to work the internet'

Matt totally OTM here - it's a late 30s/40-something phenom, maybe a type of smug married symptom. It's sorta like when you get those photocopied Christmas cards with 'family news'. It's like the person has just given in being an individual with their own friends and own interests and just turned into a mush. Ugh.

It's something that's always sort of irritated me, possibly irrationally, but y'know if I email a friend, then I am in most cases deliberately choosing to email JUST THEM and NOT their partner as well. It's not as if, in most cases, there's anything in the email that would cause a problem if read by their other half, but it just feels weird. It's like if you phoned them and their other half was listening in...it's just...WRONG!

I got a mail from JDarn one time, that was 'from' both. I thought it was quite nice! Particularly as presumably he has his own for 'professional' matters, why shouldn't his 'home' one be about his home life?

Are email addresses 'about' anything?

Naw, Dr. C is *way* OTM on this thread. I'm glad to see somebody come out and say these things. Cheers.

Often I'll have this kind of email address for someone AS WELL AS an individual address. Then when I write them I think - "yes, better use the individual one. Heh heh."

Don't say fuck, you're the mother of two small children. xxxpost

She doesn't speak English. (Truthfully, I said it in her presence and of course she mimicked it. OUCH!)

But to answer the question: yep, most probably but only to clients. My parents nor I (and my husband) have this. Jesus, that'd be weird. That said, my parents do get both the d...@clae...com email (directed to my mom) whichi means I can't post private stuff in there that's not intended for my mom. I forget sometimes. :-(

My old email address was hissisterpam to my male roommate's meanmrmustard, but it was completely unintentional and we only had sex.. twice..

Christian Couples Staying Faithful on Facebook, Twitter

Lance Maggiacomo was out of work, bored and lonely when he started hiding his online relationships from his wife.

There was no affair, only chatting through e-mail, yet it felt like cheating just the same.
A few years later, a reformed Maggiacomo has an in-house check on his impulses. He and his wife Lori, like other Christian couples around the country, share one e-mail account as a safeguard against the ever-expanding temptations of the Internet.

"There's not a Gestapo, KGB quality to it, like I have to check in with mother before I do anything," said Lance Maggiacomo, a 40-year-old surgical nurse from Beverly, Mass. "It's what we believe as Christians: We are our brothers' keepers. It's about biblical accountability."

The e-mail addresses — "tim—shawna" and "christyandbrian" — broadcast the couples' commitment to all correspondents. If one spouse has a Twitter or Facebook account, the other is usually given the password. Often, spouses have separate work accounts where bad behavior could go undetected. However, the goal isn't policing each other every minute, they say. Instead, they are doing whatever is possible to avoid keeping secrets.

"It's not a matter of distrust," said Ronda Hodge, 53, of Amesbury, Mass., an ice-cream maker who shares an e-mail address with her husband Tom, 60, a landscaper. "We really don't have anything to hide from one another. We were friends first before we even dated so we've got that level of openness there."

It's impossible to know how widespread the practice has become.

Couples with a joint account said they never heard preaching about it and didn't read it in an advice book. Some said they initially created their account for bills and other household business then later realized the personal benefits. A 2003 article published by the conservative Christian group Focus on the Family urged husbands and wives to share one e-mail address, but it was one of many suggestions on preventing infidelity.

Still, the phenomenon has become common enough to merit a post on "Stuff Christians Like," a popular blog in which creator Jonathan Acuff, an evangelical and son of a pastor, good-naturedly mocks Christian culture and himself.

Acuff shares one account with his wife of eight years, Jenny, and estimates that one-third of their married friends also use one e-mail address. He joked on the blog that he and his wife "cleaved our separate e-mail addresses and lit a unity candle on Yahoo! that burns brightly throughout the virtual landscape."

"We offset the whole thing by not dressing alike," he wrote.

We made one of these, but just used it for wedding correspondence.