being more comfortable dating people youre not really that attracted to - C or D

can the mods please exercise their inalienable rights to lock thread and possibly ban the "mr. x" troll account

Mr X was less annoying when he was Titchyschneider and starting multiple threads all variants on the same question about grime. And that's really saying something.

mr. x being titchyschneider explains quite a lot. the need to start about five threads a day on pathetic sex-angst issues, however, will never be adequately accounted for

We should do a poll: dubstep threads versus whiney personal life threads

the results will be real legendary

haha wow how can i decide

'dissensus-hollyoaks jacknife' lolz

grime livejournal

sometimes ppl go after ppl less attractive than them because they feel like they can't afford to try and conquer a hottie

Same reason people listen to Skepta

Guys (and girls surely, though I've dated none) who aren't classically hot are pretty good at pulling all the stops to impress/dazzle you, so C.

Uncommon beauty is commonly overlooked. Everyone hates the smell of my favorite crackers.

"mr x" 4 prez!

You see everyone doing it, particularly girls. It's an insecurity thing I think ... knowing you will always have the "power" so to speak. Trying to date an equal can be like a battle, but if it happens it's worth it.

i dont think ive ever dated someone i just flat out wasnt attracted to, but times ive been w/ someone and felt i could 'do better' however superficially always made me way more uncomfortable than if i was with someone i thought was an equal or better because i always feel real bad worrying about breaking things off like 'uhhhh ... its not you its me' nervous.gif

How do you know these people don't find their partners attractive?

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truth bomb from ladies and gentleman mr burt stanton

saying 'do better' sounds real superficial and dumb though, i dont mean that ive ever broken up w/ someone just cuz of how they looked, but if things stopped working out that started to enter into it more so as time went on ...

Guys (and girls surely, though I've dated none) who aren't classically hot are pretty good at pulling all the stops to impress/dazzle you, so C.

-- Finefinemusic, Tuesday, July 22, 2008 7:43 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark Link

Uncommon beauty is commonly overlooked. Everyone hates the smell of my favorite crackers.

-- Abbott, Tuesday, July 22, 2008 9:41 PM (10 minutes ago) Bookmark Link

good job guys

absolutely no sarcasm intended

I'd say in urban areas with some kind-of "creative" scene, that belle laide (ugly beautiful) is actually more desired and sought after than conventional beauty.

only by ugly people

Nah, not really. I'd say Europeans are like that, too. Watch stylish French movies and chances are the protagonist is .... good looking, but good looking in a kind-of off way.

Pretty much almost everyone is good looking in some way, to someone, if you look at them long enough and you like them to begin with.

And I mean thank god for that, because most of us? Yeah.

it's true all Europeans base notions of beauty on some bullshit French cinema

who is a better poster burt stanton or louis jagger

Having appreciation for and "basing notions on" are completely different concepts.

Considering the French gave us the concept of 'belle laide'.

Pretty much almost everyone is good looking in some way, to someone, if you look at them long enough and you like them to begin with.

-- Laurel, Tuesday, July 22, 2008 5:03 PM (53 seconds ago) Bookmark Link

yeah i agree, thats sorta what i mean about how it only really makes me feel uncomfortable when we're kinda breaking up already, or the cracks are starting to show, and its just like a aggravating factor rather than a real catalyst

This is a good place for that "boys don't care how you dress until they want to break up with you anyway and they're looking for a reason" quote that keeps coming around.

And I'd say "fuck you" but it's not untrue for girls either.

guys don't care, per se, but that doesn't mean they're not influenced by/attracted to how a girl dresses.

Nah, not really. I'd say Europeans are like that, too. Watch stylish French movies and chances are the protagonist is .... good looking, but good looking in a kind-of off way.

I have this weird feeling that what you mean by looking "kind-of off" is actually looking "western European."

aka "still having specific regional European features instead of having them all combined and mediumed out via American intermarriage"

pussy has no face

Europeans are just as mixed as the Americans, they just don't want to admit it. Italians are mixes of Italian, French, German, Spanish, Greek, and in some cases, North African. My English side is English, yes, but if you dig into the records they're English, Irish, Scottish, French, etc.

lately it seems the only girls who are attracted to me, i'm not really that attracted to. :/ and i hate that mini-breakup where you have to reject someone after a couple of dates.

if yr not attracted to them, why go on dates?

1) maybe they're really cool & smart? at least one of them has turned into a fun new friend.

2) something to do

3) she looked better at the bar

also sometimes people get prettier after a little time

yup

Yeah, I'd say I give a person a chance if they're pretty into me ... what kills it most of the time aren't the looks, but the personality. especially when their favorite band is the beatles. uhgrhhhhhhh

U2

especially when their favorite band is the beatles. uhgrhhhhhhh

-- burt_stanton, Tuesday, July 22, 2008 5:35 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Link

this happens a lot to you?

also it would be bad karma to flat down turn someone down, since i'd prefer that hot girls at least give me a chance.

now she'll never dance with another (wooh)
since she saw burt_stanton there

fair enough jordan, i can see that

jesus, i can't type, i need to stop multi-tasking

The one or two times I have dated people to whom I was not particularly attracted, it wasn't fun and never really ended well, either.

i was totally unattracted to my boyfriend when we were friends, until he asked me out on a date and we started spending mucho time together. 3 years later i think he's the hottest man alive and compare everyone else to him.

Disinterested Flirting/Half assed pursuit

I dunno, didn't work well the last time I tried it, but there is that saying "beggars can't be choosers", which was coined for me....