Daddy Dearest

I think you can find some aspect of anyone's personality that is similar to some aspect of someone else's, so not really.

and what if you've never met your father? how would you know what you were looking for? would it be subconscious?

and what happens if they end up with their father? is that like wanting to amrry yr grandfather or what?

well i'm not sure about the answer to this question cos i'm not a heterosexual and when i like boys i like them to be very markedly different from my father. however, i have often asked myself the inverse question - from having the experience of a few past boyfriends attempting to mould me into some domestic creature. i wonder why they do this? i am about as domestically inclined as a lump of lead! or perhaps that is the point?

I don't really like to think about this subject.

Fair enough. It's weird the way incest is such a taboo but people are generally OK talking about this kind of thing. I have been interested in women who are like my mum before, but my mum is cool so I don't care. It wasn't like it was the 'motherly' aspects of her personality that I was attracted to. I didn't want to be mothered by her. I just felt like I was... coming home. Like she'd get on great with my mum and that could be important. But then there are other girls who you don't want to take home at all and they can be great too.

Any news on that Cosmo job Nick?

What do you mean? That was nothing like a Cosmo article. I am hurt. That was me being honest.

I thought the phrase "coming home" was a bit unfortunate. Still you are sexually active at the moment...

I am not really.

willfull misreading of question = het women will always end up with men "in much the same way that their fathers did".

nick is your mother an ice maiden?

To put it an optimistic Darwinian spin on it (if there can be such thing), wanting to end up with someone like your Father/Mother speaks volumes about how you respect the job they did raising you. You want to provide something similar to your own kiddies.

I'm thinking of coming along for about half sixish, but if no one's likely to be around then I can't really face hanging around in town until later, especially in this weather.

How weird, I think this was supposed to go on the FAP thread, but it's brought up a far more interesting thread...

Yes. Absolutely true. In ways they're not even aware of. My dad, despite being a smelly hippie, was, I realise now, an archetypical Dirty Dronerock Boy. To this day, physical aspects of men I'm irrationally physically attracted to - tall, very thin build, chin to shoulder length dark hair, roman nose - are things that remind me creepily of my father. (Or, how I remember him looking.)

Even to the point where, I didn't find Andrew Scott of Sloan attractive when he had brown hair. As soon as his hair went salt n pepper, ROOOOWWWRRRR... why? Because then he started looking exactly like my dad.

Creepy as fuck but unavoidable. I should get off the computer and head down to the FAP.

I'm too skint to FAP.

My dad is undereducated, ex-jock, votes for Republicans, runs a bar, looks basically like Phil Mitchell off 'Enders and is from the Pull My Finger school of dads.

The men I love best tend to be overeducated, liberal, drink in bars and do not weight 300 lbs.

As I am not happy with my father's perfomance as a Dad, and my mum wasn't particularly happy with him as a financially irresponsible husband, I run away from guys like that FAST.

my ex mother- in- law told me once " we all marry our fathers dear, all men are alike so it doesnt matter who you choose"
i disagree actually, about all men being alike, and for her to even think her son was anything like my father is quite insane.
i hope someone close to me would shoot me if i went near a man who is like my father.