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Have you ever been mistaken for the wrong sex? Give us horror stories...

oh man o man haha once I was shaving my bea----I MEAN MY LEGS--and I totally cut MY LEGS shaving like seriously BADLY, like BLEEDY OH-SO-HEAVY and I had to totally run to the store like man, quickly, for a SALVE and BANDAGES and the clerk was like 'What can I help you with, sir?" HOW EMBARASSING!

My sister says "Mandee, you would make a hot emo boy."

So, yes... now your turn! ROFLx0rs or whatever tha fuck you all do.

― Mandee, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

When I was about 5 I was, I had horrible pudding basin hair style.

― jel --, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I get this all the time at restaurants if I'm with someone with double XX chromosomes and the waiter or waitress approaches the table from behind me and can only see my hair. "And what will you ladies be having?"

Once I was riding with a friend home from a get-together and he got pulled over for a sideswipe or something. I said nothing while he talked to the cop -- it was only after we got back towards our houses that my friend noticed the citation said there was one female passenger in the car. He tried to make this part of a challenge to the citation, but alas it was no good.

― Ned Raggett, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Twice last night when going into the toilets some guy coming the other way said "No, the Ladies' are that way, love". The first time i tried to argue (bad idea ahem), the second time I just relented.

― Graham, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

"just relented" as in "used the ladies"?

― mark s, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

What else?

― Graham, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

this is before or after the haircut, Graham?

― Mitch Lastnamewitheld, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I got wolf whistled a lot when I was 13, and still get mistaken for a girl by horrible old irishmen in New Cross. One such type came up to me as I was waiting for a bus a few weeks ago, mimed a camcorder and slurred 'i'm filming a documentary for channel 4. Are yer a girl or a boy? eh? EH?'. Thankfully the bus arrived at this point

― owen hatherley, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I feel really left out right now.

― Ally, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

After, though I made guy do a double take going in the Gents the night before. My new haircut may be even more girly - I had it done at a place called "Lady Penelope's" (mmm... small town folk).

― Graham, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

And shut up Alistair.

― Graham, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I am having trouble making up my mind whether a guy having his hair done at a place called "Lady Penelope's" is the greatest or worst thing ever.

― Sean, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

No, the greatest would be to get it done round the corner at the Alley Barbers.

― Graham, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

When I was at university and friend and I decided to count the nmber of people who eyed us up through the course of an evening. Almost 1/5 of my "victims" were male, pretty much all of whom looked away sheepishly when they realised I was a boy. Does that count?

― Mark C, Friday, 12 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Is ILE a festering pit of ladyboys and bitchmen?

No one ever mistakes me for a woman. I am all man.

― DV, Saturday, 13 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Somebody's mother thought I was a girl once while I was in her peripheral vision. Upon being told I was a guy, she just sort of went, yeah... girl guy whatever you are, without bothering to look up at me.

― Honda, Saturday, 13 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

i'm a girl. i look like a girl. woe is me, if i had a touch of androgyny... i have a crew cut and i still look like a girl!

― di, Saturday, 13 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Yes

― Graham, Saturday, 13 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

i am so jealous...my man beard prevents gender mistakenisms...sigh.

― Queen G, Saturday, 13 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

ed did! when he was in russia with me! but he didnt know it cos it was said in russian.

― ambrose, Saturday, 13 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

When I'm wearing neutral clothes and I have no make-up on I sometimes get mistaken as a boy - this even happens when I had long hair with a fringe. I'm confused by it, don't they notice the breasts? Crikey, I'm a D cup.

― toraneko, Saturday, 13 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

When I'm in a shop, and a shop person only see's my back, about 10% of the time I get, "Can I help you sir"... then turn... and "sorry... er.. mam?" I think this is because I am tall and um, "big boned".

Percentage increases to 70% of the time if I am wearing a hat.

However the worst that ever happened when I was walking hand in hand with Alasdair and some people driving up the road saw us from behind and yelled "LESBIANS!!!" at us. Needless to say, a haircut was given the following day.

― Marianna, Saturday, 13 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

why is that the "worst"? i am only mistaken for a gurl on the phone these days: when i was a child it happened all the timer, and i liked it a lot...

― mark s, Saturday, 13 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

By worst I mean - most infuriating, most strange, or even most funny. The day to day "hello sirs" are a bit tedious, but the "lesbians!" blew me out of the water.

― Marianna, Saturday, 13 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I forgot about the time I once was taken into a local girls private school by a female friend and had to sit in the corner looking coy anbd hoping I wouldn't be chucked out or arrested, that sort of thing. I had girl's hair, certainly, but considering my big nose, height, stubble and t-shirt that said "fuck" on it, I'm amazed I got away with it. I was preparing to be a French exchange if anyone asked.

― Mark C, Tuesday, 16 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

In my skinnier and longer haired days I used to get the lesbians thing quite a bit when walking out with my then young lady.

― RickyT, Tuesday, 16 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

But Mandee gurls who look like hot emo boy are the ones who PULL, what are you complaining about? Gurls who look well, like GURLS are left on the side by cute indie boys that is a science FAKT.

― Sarah, Tuesday, 16 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I HATE ALL OF YOU.

― Sarah, Tuesday, 16 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

someone with double XX chromosomes

Australians wouldn't give a _ _ _ _ ...
for anything else.

― Sam, Tuesday, 16 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

On Saturday, I was in Liverpool Street station and a drunk guy pointed at me and said "Is that male or female?" his (female) companion sighed, apologised to me, and said she thought I was male. He then said "Will you be female for me tonight, babe?"

I didn't really understand this because I don't look like a woman, I have short hair, was wearing a suit and hadn't shaved for three days!

― jamesmichaelward, Tuesday, 16 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

jamesmichaelward you were cruised by PAT CALIFIA!!

― mark s, Tuesday, 16 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

my bitchtits grow in proportion to my hairy gut...nobody holds them, cups them egntly anymore...

― Queen G-bah Humbug, Tuesday, 16 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

When I was a baby I had no hair and my parents dressed me in pink and people still said "what a beautiful little boy." Or so I am told. In my actual memory I've never been thought to be a boy (but if people yelling "lesbian!" counts then I fit in too).

― Maria, Tuesday, 16 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Never. Not even one time.

― Kim, Tuesday, 16 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

three months pass...

yeah, i'm a girl and i just got an emo haircut, but beforehand, it had been dyed copper red. i haven't been mistaken for a guy yet, but because of the red hair, all my friends are calling me "peter pan". it really sucks.

― erin, Thursday, 25 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

got mistaken for boy steadily when I was young, like when I looked like this and then when my hair was short and I hadn't been through puberty. Then again from aged 22 when I cut my hair short again...mostly just "sir" in shops. Most recent New Year's I was walking to a bar with my boyfriend, who is younger than me, and a group of men yelled to him about me "hey, he's underage eh?".

& by the way what is an emo haircut, and can you please keep them away from me?? Is that like gamine pixie feathery popstar type thing?

― halo halo, Thursday, 25 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

also I just want to note that the question sed "give us some horror stories". I suppose it's true that it can be a real problem and it is a range of things like bothersome to threatening to dangerous to demeaning when people are (mis)judged to be this or that sex or judged to not be fitting in with how they're supposed to be for whatever sex...but I don't always find it a problem, certainly not horrific. Is it worse or harder for men to be mistaken for female? and blah blah blah you know issues issues issues

― halo halo, Thursday, 25 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

OMIGOD you had that "beware! i'm a tasmanian devil" t-shirt too, halo!!!!!

when I was in San Francisco, I got dragged along as a companion shoe- shopping (at Macys & other such bigstores) with a female friend & it'd always be "How can I help you ladies?" or "Hello, miss" & so on (mainly by middle-aged black/latino women, bizarrely). (& there were quite a few such incidents there - really perplexing, as I'd assumed SF of all places would be more genderfluid than NZ)
In Dunedin I just get abused by drunken guys on the street when they realise (to their horror?) that I'm actually a guy (some suit-&-tie beerheads yelled "Show us yr tits" last nite & cracked up laughing. their female companions just sniffed at (presumably) my fashion crimes, heh)

― Ess Kay, Friday, 26 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Quite a lot in the past, but not since I grew this stuff on my face. Now it's all sir this mate that.

― N., Friday, 26 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm hardly masculine looking but still obviously male visually. However my voice is quite high-pitched (or, at least, doesn't really have much baritone unless I intentionally put it there) so sometimes on the phone people think I'm female. When I answer the phone by saying my name at work people will say "Hi Kim", assuming they misheard me the first time.

― Tim, Friday, 26 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

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