I'm the Charlie Brown of dating...

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Well as some of you might have read I asked a boy out. "Hooray" I exclaimed. Well now I say, "fuck that". Why "fuck that"?

Well, the boy ditched me. When I went to the store where he works at closing time (like he said to last night) he told me that the managers had scheduled an impromptu meeting at a bar. Humm...that's odd and convenient if he wanted to avoid a date with me since he knows I'm only 19. He wasn't mean about it but I could tell he wasn't ever gonna give me a chance.

You'd think since most boys know what it's like to risk a bit of pride and put yourself out there they'd be a bit more honest/nice/non-hurtful. My dad noticed I came home way too early and was honestly concerned. I'll tell my parents about it tomorrow-maybe. I suppose I'll keep asking boys out, maybe a good one will come around eventually, of course it might not be a bad idea to look into becoming a nun. Argh...I'm crying now.

― Lindsey B, Saturday, 4 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

There are two possibilities
1) He is dumping you and doing so in a rather ignoble way. Then he is an asshole and deserves not your fine company
2) He is telling you the truth and he feels like shit and is putting on a good face.
I think you need to talk to him-not at work-and ask him

― anthony, Saturday, 4 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Anthony actually put it better than I could. Try that, Lindsey, just ask him. And keep asking guys out -- if not this guy, then someone else will notice your worth. :-)

There's always going to be a risk -- tonight I kept asking myself, "Well, should I call my date from Thursday at her place? Maybe wait a bit longer?" I went ahead and called and she was happy to hear from me. Maybe that'll be the case with this case if you get a chance to talk to him away from work. :-)

― Ned Raggett, Sunday, 5 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

yeah, you are already a better person for having found the bravery to ask the kid out. If you have doubts about his motives or story, talk to him when yr calmer and straighten it out. if nothing else you will confirm that you are the more mature person (duh, 21 yr old boys can be sooper dumb)

― Ron, Sunday, 5 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Here's how I see it Lindsay. You have hella balls for asking him out. He knows this. Said boy is therefore insecure about the size of his balls so weasels his way out. End of Story.

Honey, hello, this is so my past. This doesn't mean you shouldn't keep asking boys out. Even if they can't deal they'll think, "Damn, that chick asked me out" and eventually you'll find a boy who can handle it. And he'll be worth it.

― S., Sunday, 5 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

sweetheart, that is just the way guys are-even the nice ones. those are the kind of guys you keep as friends, because they ARE nice. they don't want to hurt your feelings. and I WOULD NOT RECOMMEND asking guys out, because if a guy REALLY(assuming he is a REAL man) WANTS to be with you, even a tsunami,volcano,hurricane,earthquake,or tidal wave could not keep him away. So don't stress out because some local- yokel dissed you. BELIEVE ME when you meet a REAL man you will be glad, (and he will too) that you haven't dirtied yourself with some nerd. Because I GUARANTEE you, when you look back you WILL think that dude is a nerd!!!!!!!!!

― alexa, Monday, 6 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

if a guy REALLY(assuming he is a REAL man) WANTS to be with you, even a tsunami,volcano,hurricane,earthquake,or tidal wave could not keep him away

No, but sometimes silence and the fear of rejection can, and someone who suffers from that is sufficiently more 'real' to me than a super suave robot who is always perfectly self-possessed.

― Ned Raggett, Monday, 6 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Bad luck Lindsey - but I thought Charlie Brown was the Charlie Brown of dating?

― Andrew L, Monday, 6 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Lindsey, hopefully, by now, you have taken the others' advice and spoken to him. Good, bad or indifferent, you won't know the reasons why he won't go out with you---if you don't even ask.

As for being the "Charlie Brown" of dating, of course you aren't. At times, it feels that way. (I still do, at times, though I'm older.) However, if he won't notice you, someone else will.

Don't give up.

― Nichole Graham, Monday, 6 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

No, but sometimes silence and the fear of rejection can, and someone who suffers from that is sufficiently more 'real' to me than a super suave robot who is always perfectly self-possessed.

Are you saying I'm fake, Ned? *cries, then rusts because of the crying*

― Dan Perry, Monday, 6 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Jude Law in AI you're not.

― Ned Raggett, Monday, 6 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Jude Law in AI you're not.

I picture Dan as more of the "Edward Scissorhands" model, meself;>

Lindsey, one more piece of advice, if I may: If he won't go out with you, know that it is his loss....not yours. It is the hardest thing to decide on whether to ask someone out. Congrats on already conquering that.

― Nichole Graham, Monday, 6 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

ten years pass...

This seemed like the right thread to revive, based on the title.

I've been "retired" from dating of any kind for half a decade (self-imposed, obv., thanks to a horrible breakup and general nausea/self-nullification). Looking to maaaybe start in again and I know people who have vouched for online dating (including now-engaged and married people) but I have no idea what sites/services are reputable and least likely to involve wasting my damned time. Or if I'm better off sticking to reality.

― Simon H., Saturday, 19 January 2013 10:57 (twelve years ago)

look for the OKCupid thread, many posters there to advise & encourage you, and enough tales of woe to make you feel your situation is familiar

― ( ͡° ͜ʖ͡°) (sic), Saturday, 19 January 2013 21:55 (twelve years ago)

thanks!

― Simon H., Sunday, 20 January 2013 01:13 (twelve years ago)

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