Don't be an elephant

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A former colleague just send me this:

Don't be an elephant
Author Jim Donovan

A number of years ago, I had the rather unique experience of visiting backstage in Madison Square Garden, in New York, during the Ringling Brothers Barnum & Bailey Circus. To say the least, it was a fascinating experience. I was able to walk around looking at the lions, tigers, giraffes and all the other circus animals. As I was passing the elephants, suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at any time, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not. I saw a trainer near by and asked why these beautiful, magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. "Well," he said, "when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it's enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free." I was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn't, they were stuck right where they were. Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before? How many of us are being held back by old, outdated beliefs that no longer serve us? How many of us have avoided trying something new because of a limiting belief? Worse, how many of us are being held back by someone else's limiting beliefs? Whatever you can conceive and believe, you can achieve.

Does anyone else find this self belief stuff really irritating?

MarkH, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I sent a "reply to all" with "I believe I can fly".

MarkH, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Thanks for sharing even MORE of it with us. I get the god bothering ones more often now B____ knows that I live closer to her church. SIGH.

Sarah, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

of course its irritating. if the self help mob are so bloody happy why do they have to a) still continue going on endless self help courses and classes, b) have to tell you about how sorted they are ALL the bloody time and how your life is, like, really shackled and stuff, and c) be totally humourless and obviously angry underneath.

still, when they do get annoyed about something i do like to say "focus on the positive, theres no point manifesting negative energy, everything happens for a reason, you control your own destiny etc etc". strangely, they don't seem quite so keen on it all when you spout back their smug one-dimensional self-serving crap back at them

not that i ever had one of these as a housemate or anything...

gareth, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

and quite obviously the elephants were better off staying where they were than parading around new york city where they'd only get shot by overzealous police, or put back in much harsher shackles when they were put back in the zoo, so i think they were much cleverer than they let on

gareth, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

The guy I mentioned in the 'Nut Hatch' thread? Yep, consumes self- help books like they're going out of style. I told him "Doesn't look like they work too well do they?" His reply - "Yeah, so I'm going to read it again, I must've missed something"

dave q, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I live closer to her church
I found this a little puzzling, Sarah, as the self-help principle is more New Age than Christian. Christians will generally be even more critical of it than anyone else, as it implies putting your faith in your own abilities rather than in God. Mind you, I've no idea what B__________'s church is like....

MarkH, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

This isn't as good as the one that goes 'if you are a plum, you can never be any good at being a banana, but you can be the best plum'. My mother has the full version of this tripe ON HER WALL.

Archel, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I actually find those ones kind of suppressing. IF I WANT TO BE A BANANA I CAN FUCKING DO IT OK? OK?

Really I do.

Ronan, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Step One: Wear pajamas.

Pete, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Where on earth are you hoping to find Pyjamas that fit a plum?

Graham, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

My pajamas fit two generous sized plums.

Pete, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

See this is what I mean, people are just holding me back.

Ronan, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

erm, Mark H, like I said to R Kelly, "I can PROVE you can't fly" :)

Lynskey, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

last year in one of my classes we had one of these about teamwork that said "all you have to do is be as smart as a goose." we thought it was great and ran around for hours saying "smart as a goose! smart as a goose!" it is fun to say things out of context because it confuses people.

Maria, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

The lord helps those who help themselves.

Sterling Clover, Friday, 10 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)


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