Sociability

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i'm that type that people are like OH BUT YOU'RE SO GOOD AT THAT

but sometimes it's hard!

i find it tough sometimes. i tend towards believing i have enough friends and any more would be too much hassle.

How many times have we done the introvert/extravert dichotomy on ILX?

Being good or not being good at socialising isn't some total failing, it's a fundamental personality trait.

i tend towards believing i have enough friends and any more would be too much hassle.

Ah the joys of finding multiples in zero :)

thems the facts!

I used to be very sociable, couldn't wait to get out and be in company somewhere. Now I have to be dragged out of the house and my wife has to say "but you like these people!" when I start to make excuses to try and stay home.

^me

(minus the wife)

I don't mind socializing, but I'm just too lazy. When I'm out it's fine and I enjoy myself, but when I've got a 6-pack of monster munch and a stack of DVDs, why bother?

that whole thing seems like a vicious circle. you become bored of your friends or the perceived limitations of your social circle so involve yourself less. this in turn makes you seem more boring to others.

i mean as a different thing to just wanting to stay in and have healthy amount of personal time

If anything, it's NOT socializing that I find difficult.

haha, this thread again!

well i've gotten a lot better since age 17.

i've gotten a lot better since posting to ilx, "ironically"

bullshit really is a big part of it no joke

socializing is hard for some people and not for others

haha, this thread again!

― homie bhabha (max), Tuesday, March 3, 2009 10:32 AM

* being in a group of large people, and it's loud and I think my hearing is messed up, coz I can't follow conversations.

i am kind of neurotic but never about this... i find it easy

xpost hearing!

i have that problem with loud places, my hearing isn't top notch so i/other people get bored after the 5th or 6th "pardon say again?"

i wonder if anyone has done a study ever of hearing prowess vs sociability.

obv it won't boil down to one thing but there's probably some correlation

jel otm!! i can't follow group conversations AT ALL.

i'm finding out just how bad i am at socializing all the time. trying to get better at it, but it's hard (there are so many ingrained habits/thoughts i have to just GET OVER). i'm ok at doing a one-on-one conversation but once two or more people are involved i tend to shut down...

partly for me is that english isn't my first language so normally it's fine but singling out a conversation from others/excessive background noise is never very natural for me (i think i'm better in cantonese in that respect even though i don't actually speak as well).

yes ken c it's like how much better would i be at this if i could actually hear wtf people are saying and not have to either ask for a repeat or pretend like i'm following along.

x-post that's cool, i only speak english so i kind of have no excuses. i was finally worried enough abt it to take a hearing test but i did really well on it, so...?

I think basically I have knackered my hearing just because I want to get to 10,000 plays on last.fm :(

I just find myself agreeing even if I didn't catch the words. I am hitting 888 on ceefax these days.

wld i be here if i was(nt)?

(lol, this reminds me: the other week noone knew my name in my knitting class even though i have been there for about three yrs. not that i try to be remembered by them. hellz no.)

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