Virginity: how does one lose it?

If people insist on applying the term virginity to the state of not having performed other sexual practices, I'd say that one loses one's XYZ virginity when that person accomplishes sex act XYZ with another party.

I concur with Di: there are many ways to lose your virginity. It only is up to you to decide whether you've actually lost it. (There are people who decide to call themselves "virgin" again, once they fall in love or decide to get married).

It's only societal rules that have created and supported the idea that virginity can only be had (and lost) once. Ridiculous.

My father was a bit more open-minded and up-to-date than her, so he got stuck with this job. I was 19 (late 1978), and about to move in with Jackie (a woman with whom I only split 23 years later). We'd been engaged for a while, been on holiday together and had two other weekends together. My dad asked me one morning, stumblingly, "I've got something very important to ask you. Have you and Jackie... um... tried sex together yet." I was a bit mystified. "Of course we have." He exploded (not literally). He was furious and genuinely shocked and disgusted. I've always been slightly relieved that they assumed neither of us had "tried sex" with anyone else before. My dad died many years ago, and my mother is in her eighties. I can see no reason at all to tell her.

For anyone who was thinking that I was interested in working out whther I had some virginities left to lose, the answer is that I don't unless you come up with some very strange ones indeed. This arose out of a conversation with someone else who wasn't sure.

One good thing about the "you have to have acheived penetration with a member of the other sex in order to have lost your virginity" thing is that it's allowed for quite a bit of sexual exploration on the part of young people.

Ha ha ha ha, sounds like someones got a few regrets! Sorry love aint no second chances on this one, losing your brown wings dont count.

Lee

Are they good pancakes?

Diary of the Sexually Satisfied Individual.

"Day 1: Got up, ate, went to work, came home, ate, had sex, slept.

Day 2: Got up, ate, went to work, came home, ate, had sex, slept.

Day 3: Got up, ate, went to work, came home, ate, had sex, slept..."

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/02/living-myths-about-virginity/283628/

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Laci Green grabs a thin sheet of latex, stretches it over the end of an empty toilet paper tube, and starts cutting away with a pair of scissors. "I'm makin' a hymennn," she sings before holding up the finished product to the camera, where, on the other side, more than 700,000 subscribers now await her every upload. "Ta-da!"

Since 2008, the 24-year-old YouTube sex educator has been making informational videos about everything from slut shaming and body image to genital hygiene and finding the G-spot. This particular scene comes from a clip called "You Can't POP Your Cherry (HYMEN 101)" which explains, with the kind of bubbly, web-savvy humor that makes her a popular vlogger, that the hymen isn't a membrane that needs to bleed or be broken during intercourse—it's actually just small, usually elastic folds of mucous tissue that only partially cover the vaginal opening and can, but don’t always, tear if stretched. A year and a half after it premiered, with well more than one million views, Green's video debunking one of the most enduring misconceptions about virginity is also one of the most popular segment she's ever recorded.

Hymen o Hymenae!