When did you first discover your sexuality?

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I was three and tongueing the landlord's son. But that was just copying my parents, probably. I can't remember. Seven and playing daddy&mommy with my friend? Maybe then. Before it could go any further, my mum threw him out the house. Or was it when a friend stayed over when I was ten and I was *madly* in love with him?

― Dr Freud (nathalie), Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

When I was 6. My next-door neighbour and I were playing in her cubby house. She had a heap of Playboy magazines and crotchless fishnets on with no knickers. She asked me if I wanted to touch her. She was twice my age, and "knew about these things". I didn't really know why I was doing it, but it felt nice. I didn't get interested in male people until much, much later - until I was 20 and a guy showed me that it could be good with guys too. Nowadays, I have bromide for breakfast.

― Mascara, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

About 3 years ago I was at a party and a girl I was 'best friends' with when I was 5 was there and she was really drunk. She took me aside and said 'What about that thing with you and Margaret?' I didn't know what she was talking about but I remembered that I had been friends with this plump Irish girl called Margaret no-one else liked. I was a bit scared but I said, 'What do you mean?' She told me that I had been caught by some teachers naked with Margaret in some bushes at the back of the school. But I have no recollection of this and I will never know whether it was true or not and I was too shocked to press her for details. By the way Nathalie you are really funny. You should go on I Love Music more too, if you want I mean.

― maryann, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I think it was finding some dirty books* in my parents wardrobe when I was maybe 8. That's the first thing I can remember.

*Actually one of them may have been the Faber Book Of Erotic Short Ficton or something which is a very upper-middle-class dirty book.

― Tom, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Age 9 - I sent a note thru a mutual acquaintance to the girl down the street. Unfortunately, in an effort to sound more 'mature', I copied some of this note out of a porno mag. Her mom called my mom, that was the end of that romance.

― dave q, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I was Head Doctor of neighbourhood doctors and nurses play group which met in between garage and shrubs of my house. Made everyone else get it out ("no, you can't make a baby with THAT!") thus inaugurating trend of lifelong relevance. Was six, had just Hoovered up relevant chapters of medical book in pursuit of information about my evil childhood illness.

― suzy, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

wouldn't you like to know?

― lady die, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

age 4 or 5 with across the road neighbour - I sniffed his ass, he sniffed mine..kinda cool...though I remember holding onto my dick a lot as a youngie and my dad telling me it would fall off if i kept tugging at it...needless to say, it hasn't...at age 8 i was sucking cock though...both my shrinks have enquired baout abuse at early age, though I don't remmber it...they seem to think my self-hate couldn't come from anywhere else...i think iwas just a horny kid in a repressed city.

― Geoff, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I remember deciding at age 8 that I was going to marry a girl in my second grade class. Every day at recess I would chase her around the playground until I caught her, at which point I would give her a sloppy kiss on the cheek. (Even when sexually harrassing someone, I was a GENTLEMAN.)

― Dan Perry, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Who says I have?

― Ally, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

When i was 13 and went to an all boys school. I got everything done to me and i did everything to everybody else.

Maybe it was earlier i remember giggling when i was swimming with an uncle. I thought there was something uncomfrotable in the way i viewed him
Or playing doctor with the sons of fellow farmers in the woods behind our house.

― anthony, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I have always wondered how I would have turned out if I had gone to an all girls' school. I remember begging my parents to send me to boarding school, which of course was all girls.

Are they as horrific as they are rumoured to be? Is it like prison for children of rich people?

― Mascara, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

When I was about 3 I used to go up to random little girls and give them a great big kiss. Does that count?

― DG, Thursday, 2 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i was five. at primary school i was always humping stuff. then at seven i would get my friends to hump me. my brother caught me and a friend in the tussocks by the side of the road once. i don't remember how i managed to convince him not to tell anyone. maybe he thought it would reflect badly on him if he did.

― lady die, Friday, 3 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Boarding Schools are Prisons for Rich People . Only imagine it being written by Kafka nad directed by Lynch.

― anthony, Friday, 3 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Found my Dad's porno mag collection, age 11-ish? The funny thing is, the one I really remember is the Borderline-era Madonna spread in Penthouse. See? Pop obsession and sexuality explained, all in one tidy package!

― Dave M., Friday, 3 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Several scenarios flicker in memory (& memory blurred as to chronology). Here's one: cousin of neighbour wuz staying at their place. She'd play on our trampoline. When my turn to bounce she'd sit on embankment facing trampoline, lying back on elbows, & when she knew I was looking she'd move her legs apart. She'd wear summer dress & no panties & I'd just gawk at her pussy whilst bouncing. Then when her turn to bounce her dress would always "accidently" fall off & she'd be bouncing completely naked for a while & then sorta fake coyness, like "Whoops my dress has fallen off & I didn't even notice!" (!!!!) & then she'd slowly pull dress back on. Mmmmm. At time, howev, I had scant notion of what sex was & girlz were gross. So display = wasted on me (albeit def. part of yer "awakening process"). She'd have been 10 or so. Me too, s'pose.

― AP, Friday, 3 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Madonna was Playboy not Penthouse. I own that issue.

― anthony, Friday, 3 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

There was a Playboy AND a Penthouse one with Madonna. I liked the Playboy ones better. Armpit hair.

I also had a weird European porn mag with Mel from Mel and Kim in it

― dave q, Friday, 3 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

later than most of you lot by the looks of things. age 12, a girl across the street took me into her room and then took all her clothes off. i was petrified! nothing happened, i was a bit of a late developer really.

― gareth, Friday, 3 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

A similar happened to me when I was about 10. We got naked a few times, then dressed again, and then the girl wanted to marry me. So obviously that was the end of that and for me and girls for many years. I can remember at the time of the proposal thinking that avoiding the swimming lesson I had that evening was far more important which really isn't the basis of a loving relationship... The only other girl to propose to me was Maggie Gee, who's books I've never managed to finish again not a good basis, at that was when I was 11. As my nan once said, bless 'er, "It's a pity...you were such a good looking child."

― Martin, Friday, 3 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

anthony - you own a playboy/penthouse? i'm...shocked....

― Geoff, Friday, 3 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I subscribe to playboy. Have done it for years. Mostly for their fiction but their poltical writing is good and some of the interviews are good.

― anthony, Friday, 3 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

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