Dad Sez Robbing The Cradle = OK

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On the phone with my dad the other night, he told me that summers were a bit boring but that things would get better when the school year starts up again because "all the freshman girls will show up". Naturally I was appalled because I will be a senior in college, and dating young'uns is fairly frowned upon.

So relationships with younger partners are obviously OK in certain circumstances, but what about actually consciously going after impressionable young folk?

― Dave M., Friday, 14 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Gosh, the difference between seniors and freshman is 3 or 4 years; hardly a yawning chasm between you. The last guy I dated was 21 (just turned!; I'm 34. Sure, I like younger guys and I see nothing wrong in it (although perhaps the age gap just described is as far as I'd go). Phrasing it "consciously going after impressionable young folk" makes it sound awful... in fact if that's your explicit intention then I guess it is pretty bad.

― Sean, Friday, 14 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

i don't see any problem with a senior in college dating a freshman

― Ron, Friday, 14 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Sounds like Dave is apalled because Dad wants to date the freshmen.

― nickn, Friday, 14 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Perhaps your dad envisions barely fuzzed-pubic platters of delight. Invite him to "cum on down" for homecumming. You and Dad can be buddies in cherry exploder

― Commodore Horney Advice, Friday, 14 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I think the "senior", "freshman" thing is really funny. Here you just go to uni to do whatever course you are interested in and occasionally people will ask you what year you are but like when you're in your 1st year you might be doing some subjects that others do in their 2nd, 3rd, 4th, postgrad or whatever years and the same in other years and also many people go part-time for a semester or a year or their whole course and lots people fail/drop/change subjects and so they get all out of kilter. I'd hate to have to be labelled a "freshman" or "senior" or whatever. I don't even like having postgraduate written on my student card - I mean, who cares??

Anyway, back to the real point, younger and older partners are fine but if you are consciously going after young folk because you think they are impressionable you might be sorely disappointed. Some of them have already got identities that they are comfortable with and they know what they do and don't like. I have a friend who likes younger guys who are impressionable but maybe he really means flexible or not set in their ways or open to new ideas or something. Impressionable isn't a very nice word.

― toraneko, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Last year, just before turning 42, I had sex with a gorgeous 23 year old. Not only am I making the point that even an 18 year age gap isn't so much, I do like to recall events of this sort...

― Martin Skidmore, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

mark my hero

I had a relationship with someone that was 9 years my junior, he was 19 then, but I always find it strange to consider that when I was 19 myself he would have been 10 and it would have been impossible for us to meet or to love each other, you simply aren't interested in each other at that age!

― erik, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

that should read martin my hero off course (I'm terrible to day)

― erik, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

''Last year, just before turning 42, I had sex with a gorgeous 23 year old. Not only am I making the point that even an 18 year age gap isn't so much, I do like to recall events of this sort...''

Martin, I am 23 now but if I'm still alive in 20 years i'll think of this...there is hope for us all!

― Julio Desouza, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Define "gorgeous".

― Graham, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Not ugly?

― Ned Raggett, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Like Edwyn Collins

― mike hanle y, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

there certainly is nothing wrong with dating someone younger or older than yourself. its only questionable if there is some kind of uneven power thing going on, like say tutor-student / lecturer-student, and that can only be judged context by context.

― queenoftheharpies, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm not sure I can define gorgeous usefully, but this was the best- looking person I've ever had sex with, and I wouldn't hesitate to say this. Great body (if you like slim), lovely face. Dim and dull, sadly, but it was a terrific one-off. It's only just the biggest age- gap I'd experienced, in that I had sex with a 25 year old a few months before, who was very good looking too. A better body, in fact.

In case anyone who has seen me is disbelieving this (and at least some of them will be), it really is true, if inexplicable.

― Martin Skidmore, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

''I had sex with a 25 year old a few months before, who was very good looking too. A better body, in fact.''

You're making me sick now!

― Julio Desouza, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Sick or jealous?

― Ned Raggett, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

100 year old man could teach much to a 18 year old pixy

― mike hanle y, Sunday, 16 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Jealous, yah, thats it!

― Julio Desouza, Sunday, 16 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Its not making me jealous, its making me sick. But then, I'm not one to BRAG about the women I've slept with, it seems too disrespectful.

― veq hiu, Sunday, 16 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Furthermore, you attach a lot of prestige to sleeping with women half your age, which suggests to me you have some pretty funny attitudes towards women.

― veq hiu, Sunday, 16 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

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