Rolling Dating and Meeting New People Thread

Can we just have like the above says so that we're not off-topic if we're not talking about OKCupid or whatever?

Oh, this is about dating. Hmm. Can I sign up for a dating site to meet dudes to hang out with a friendly manner?

Yes.

Somehow I don't think that would end well.

rolling bromance '09

xpost then why did you ask?

emergency homeboys:

http://www.achewood.com/index.php?date=03022009

It was a half-serious question, I don't know.

Half-serious answer.

Anyway, how to meet new bros should not be excluded from discussion.

1. Don't call guys you want to be friends with "bro."

Don't worry, I don't call anyone "bro".

Yeah, I don't think ilx is a bro-slinging place. Maybe hoos? Maybe some noise dudes. There might be a touch of irony involved, then.

You know, this afternoon I was joking on twitter, about how I could online book a holiday cottage by the sea, and I could online book a train ticket to get there - so why could I not online book some hott mang to, you know, come on holiday and do, like, boyfriend duties for a week. It'd be great if you could just get a catalogue and ring one up. I can order cars, hotels, transport, meals, etc. for a holiday online - why can't I order up a holiday romance? Or at least some hottsexx.

Of course, I'd be kinda picky about him. Would have to see photos and hear a mixtape first.

I don't know about the other boyfriendly duties, but there are certainly plenty of "services" out there for the "hottsexx" part.

wouldnt that be kind of creepy if we online ordered the same looking guy...

Where on the interweb can I online order hottsexx from a (straight) male?

As far as I'm aware, there's not a Gaydar for bored cougars. (someone please prove me wrong!)

craigslist?

(I may not be entirely seriously.)

((in fact at all))

(((in fact the idea of sharing my beautiful isolated coastal cottage with ANY boy is kinda defeating the purpose.)))

((((unless he's really hott and makes a good mixtape))))

Haha.

craigslist!!! this chick was using this random guy's picture to get
gay dudes & single women to respond to meeting up.

idk what was her plan B once they agreed and realized it was a chick.

Now that could be a market, though. Advertise your beautiful isolated cottage with a ruggedly handsome handyman to take care of *all* your household and plumbing needs.

That said, ruggedly handsome isn't really my type. Skinny floppy haired pointy nosed indie geek boys with 3-months-pregnant bellies don't really go well with handyman type activity.

http://www.vam.ac.uk/images/image/14473-large.jpg

craigslist?

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-bromance-is-kicking-romances-butt-in-posts-on-craigslist/

so why could I not online book some hott mang to, you know, come on holiday and do, like, boyfriend duties for a week.

*wonders if cute het boys would be interested in "escort" work of this nature. and if yes, what would be the barriers to entry in creating such a business*

Heh, I like how the girls commenting on that article vary between thinking guys looking for bromance are either "creepy" or "cute".

a dating site based on mix tapes, that would rock

experience tells me that girls who share my music taste aren't really my sort of people

i kinda want to ask out the cashier at the grocery store near where i work--is that weird?

take her, dude

pretty sure english is her second language & she has a kid.

a dating site based on mix tapes, that would rock

― CaptainLorax, Wednesday, September 16, 2009 10:25 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

experience tells me that girls who share my music taste aren't really my sort of people

― suzi cointreau (electricsound), Wednesday, September 16, 2009 11:27 PM (30 minutes ago) Bookmark

OTM, the both of you. :-/

I don't know any girl that shares my music taste, but I wouldn't want to date a clone of myself.
But I most certainly wouldn't want to date someone who loves.. uhh fallout boy
A music compatibility meter would be entertaining to say the least

that's what the rolling last.fm thread is for

experience tells me that girls who share my music taste aren't really my sort of people

― suzi cointreau (electricsound), Wednesday, September 16, 2009 11:27 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

yeah...guys who share my music taste tend to be very angry and not well-adjusted to life. not always but pretty often, anyway.

Oh hey, so I met a woman last night at the bar who went to school in the town I did my freshman year in, we both went to a Lutheran grade school, etc. So we talked for a couple hours and really got along. But she's 29 with an MA and I'm (baby-faced)1 23 with an Almost BA; she's a teacher so I bear much more resemblance to one of her students than one of her peers, and I swear I was getting this look that said "I find you attractive but outside my social stratum."

How to subtextually convince her otherwise should we cross paths again?

minus the 1, I am not actually 123 yrs old. For the record.

I'm thinking fake beard.

i had an almost identical thing happen to me recently, except she also had a boyfriend since four years back. to answer your question, you probably shouldn't. it was a mess.

I do not like this advice, as it involves me not dating the pretty girl.

Perhaps if you had some advice that involved dating the pretty girl.

If she was charmed by you, in your natural youthfulness, trying to appear older, might not be the way to go. You've got make the fun aspect of the potential relationship outweigh concerns for "respectability" or "appropriateness," or at least, don't emphasize the "Hey! I'm young enough to be one of your students!" thing.

exactly.

i'm TAing this class right now and i am infatuated with one of my students. he wasn't in class today...*sigh*.

i kinda want to ask out the cashier at the grocery store near where i work--is that weird?

Do it!

I know it's cliched and all bu the "regretting the things you DIDN'T do" is totally OTM.

You should invite her to your house to watch Harold and Maude.

Oh yeah, wasn't going to actually try to come off as older, I know from experience that's just a hellish situation for all involved.

I just wish there was some sort of thing I could throw out there (there isn't) that would allay all that crap.

Also what the fuck why is this a thing. Reverse the gender roles and I've described approx 175% of relationships around here.

Good film.

Oh, this is about dating. Hmm. Can I sign up for a dating site to meet dudes to hang out with a friendly manner?

― Size-zero-brigade-embrace-token-chubby-chops (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Wednesday, September 16, 2009 3:31 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

Are you a straight man? If that's the case then probably not.

again, if you get along and there are fun things you can do together, focus on that. You might just end up being a distraction, and the relationship evolving into something "serious" would likely be more of a struggle and have more pitfalls - but it doesn't sound like you want to shack up with this lady, just date and have fun.

^this

As far as the older woman/younger man "thing" goes - do you want an explanation of the social stigma/background of what has made this a "thing," or why individual older women might have issues having relationships with younger guys?

How to subtextually convince her otherwise should we cross paths again?

Don't bother with this, basically tell her that you like her and that you don't care about the age difference.

Oh I don't want either, I know perfectly well why it's a thing, just lamenting its foolishness.

xpost

it's not a game. call her when you feel like it. if that is now, call her now

^^^^

just don't start breathing heavily on the phone when you do

i know it's kinda stupid but i'd say wait a couple of days

breathe heavily for a few seconds and then perk up all "hahaha hello, I'm not a psycho really!" and then blow her a raspberry

if she's still connected after that, it's love

ew

but again, if your really interested ian its your choice.

call her

i never really understood this hollywood movie 'wait like 4 years' thing. if you like someone and want to talk to them, call them. maybe wait for post-work hours i guess. and yeah don't be creepy.

i think i will call her tonight and see if she wants to go to a movie. that is simple and not hard.

giddy up

my situation- friend chris invited his other friend rosie for ny. seemed nice, added her on facebook but in a 'i can tell we will bump into each other as friends of friends' type add. then get message from chris saying she wants to 'bone' me (eurgh fucking hate that word). do i talk to her on facebook? i've been invited for a drink with chris next week and knowing him he'll bring her along, so do i wait till then. why couldn't she have told me herself, especially when our ny party was getting kinda boring? instead she just looked a bit annoyed at everyone. h8 girls. feel like i could write observational comedy and get a spot on the michael mcintyre show about it.

she is p cute.

bone her then.

just like walk up behind her or

tap her on the shoulder and say "excuse me, I understand you wanted to bone?" and gauge the response

talk to her on facebook. come up with something funny to say based on whatever you did or were talking about the last time you saw her. if she does in fact want to bone you it won't really matter what it is.

unless you don't really want to bone her in which case forget about it.

yah otm dont overthink it just get chattin and ask her for a drink

but where is the crazy anxieties in that?

the crazy anxieties dont ~exist~ think abt it

all relationship advice threads shd b posted 2 in the manner of jhoshea y/y

.... i didn't save her number properly.

http://media.bigoo.ws/content/gif/music/music_139.gif

http://androidboss.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/06/fe4ab2d65fNoooo.jpg.jpg

gr80 otm :( smdh

FUCK.

you don't know her name? look her up on fb

did she get yours? also: try a CL missed connection.

do CL missed connections work? I always assumed you'd get a ton of "I'm not that person but I will bone you in 15 minutes if you don't mind the smell of the rotting corpses I mean old takeout food under my bead" variety

pretty sure it'd be trivial to devise a way to sift thru the crepes

that seems like a lot of work (sez the dude who's been off the market for almost 20 years)

i know her first name and employer, but could not find her on teh facebook. i did post a missed connection.
shrug.

you can tell how good i am at this whole dating thing.

how young is too young for a 29 year old? my mate's 19 year old sister fancies me and she's great and everything, but that's too young for me. i'm going out with a 21 year old i met on ok cupid on sunday, and that seems a bit weird too. my last girlfriend was 30.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRwhm-B6yNI

usually if someone gives me their number Ill put it in my phone and then make the call right then 'so you can have my number too'

^^

Yeah i know i fucked up

i met a girl who was new to town at this art opening thing recently and she gave me her number and i sent her a text right away so she'd have mine. then she told me she wouldn't get my text because her "phone was dead."

i figured that she'd just get it once she was able to charge her phone back on again, but it turned out that she had a pay as you go phone and so she'd never get that text ever.

which was awesome cause in the 20 minutes following that text she went from "interesting and kind of cute new arrival with lots of confidence and swagger who i'd like to get to know" to "the most annoying and clueless person i have met in years, possibly my life ever."

if you know her name and employer, maybe linkedin? ¯\(°_o)/¯

now that im seeing someone i seem to meet grrls constantly wtf

duh

Fuck a long distance crush. It is the story of my life for the last ten months.
I get good mail, anyway.

still not sure how to negotiate my sitch atm

Leave longer and longer between responses, make them shorter and shorter, and within, say, a few days, stop responding?

of the 3 choices in thread title, I prefer rolling new people.

I highly recommend roller dating.

i met someone. I attended a wedding this weekend and spent the weekend with a girl who made me feel like i haven't felt in 16 years. Today im like a pile of mush. She lives in Philly. We spent the entirety of Saturday night talking until the sun came up, i feel like a 17 year old boy. I didn't realize it was possible to feel this way again. Im petrified.

holy smokes!! moments like that are rare in life

Yeah it is. Something unexpected like that.

You also have to be open to it happening when it happens. Congrats on being in the right mood at the right time in the right place!

im just sort of euphoric...but also sad because i want to see her.