how many missed calls seems weird

four def

it's different now, you can't absentmindedly, impatiently just call until someone's home. it makes you look like a stalker.

you can call someone, call right back if they don't pick up, then call back again later. after that you should get the idea

my sisters called me fourteen times in the space of twenty minutes last saturday for something really trivial

3 missed calls from anyone who isnt a good friend is weird. good friends can have as many missed calls as they want.

xp yeah that works. i am thinking evenly spaced. but then it seems like you aren't doing anything else, just watching the hands of the clock roll around.

I never get em so I never miss em

My dad is so bad about calling over and over again. He hates leaving voicemails, so he'll just keep calling until I answer. Not like, persistently, but like once every 15-20 minutes. Like I'll get out of a movie and see 6 misses calls from him and kinda panic that something was wrong, call him back, and he'll be all "just calling to say hi".

max OTM, really

2 normal, 3 weird

it's different now, you can't absentmindedly, impatiently just call until someone's home. it makes you look like a stalker.

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at school -- about 15 years ago -- i knew this guy who(se dad) had some real swanky comms set up at home, and i called a couple more times than four, and he was able to see. embarrassing. so now i don't often call more than once.

call -> call -> text msg w/ explanation + "call me back asap"

anything else seems pointless

my mother regularly leaves 10+ missed calls "to give me time to get to the phone" :(

the only time i'd leave more than one is if the subject was time-sensitive eg "we are meant to be meeting in an hour and need to sort out where"

Dunno, mobiles seem to be programmed to ring for the exact time it takes you to find your phone and get your finger 1mm from the 'answer' button. So two in a row is the norm for me if it's something vaguely time-sensitive.

4 is weird 3 is still.. okay.

It depends on the caller and/or why they need me or have to tell me I mean, shit, if it was something really urgent or whatever, then even 10 calls could be normal. But then it says more about the one with the phone; pick up the god damn phone already. J/K.

Okay, three is fucking weird if it is something trivial.

call -> call -> text msg w/ explanation + "call me back asap"

I guess, but then I'm the laziest fuck about messages (and even my phone) these days. I don't check often really.:-(

Like I'll get out of a movie and see 6 misses calls from him and kinda panic that something was wrong

Yeah this. Voicemail is there for a reason - use it. If you ring repeatedly I'm going to crap myself and think someone's died/in hospital when I see the misses.

I deliberately dont answer my landline because only one person even knows/uses the number (mum), so anyone else calling is a telemarketer. She knows I dont answer it now tho so moves on to my mobile and calls that grrr.

good friends can have as many missed calls as they want.

Yep. For more casual acquaintances, a missed call then a text outlining the intended content of the call is normal. Unless it's urgent, anything above that is kind of badgering (the whole thing resets after a couple of days).

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Yeah this. Voicemail is there for a reason - use it

would rather alarm people than be degraded to using voicemail. this is maybe only understandable if you hear the kind of breathy meandering messages i leave though.

i hate checking my voicemail (i have to ring a number? and then press some buttons? and wait for the automated voice to drag through the date and time? and then wait while someone goes 'er, um, yeah, just ringing to, like, um' for about two minutes? fuck that noise - also if i've got no credit i can't even check it) and assume that everyone else does too. Whereas texts take no effort at all to check. So it's ring, maybe ring a second time, then text. The only problem is that some people's phones take a long time to get texts.

yeah, it should be:

Ring,

Wait five/ten mins for person to see you rang then ring back,

Ring again,

Another five/ten mins,

Text.

(unless triv/chat time, in which case, ring once, then text.)

clarif:

Step 1 = (Wait five/ten mins for person to see that you rang then they may ring you back)

If ringing mobile, ring once, then text.

If ringing housephone, ring once, then if you have their mobile no. try their mobile then give up/text; if no mobile number ring 20 minutes later in case they were in the shower or at the shop or something, then maybe ring back 3h later, maybe the next night.

Though if you only wanted to say hi and talk about yr new shoes then give up at any point before this, really.

I don't really expect anyone to look at missed calls on a landline, but then I spent years with no caller ID (so no missed calls), and even now I rarely look at them because my shitty housephone gets confused and lists calls from three days ago that I actually answered.

oh god i HATE voicemail so much, if i could i'd disable it

Only time I repeatedly ring a mobile is if I'm meeting someone and I know they're on the tube so I just keep ringing every couple of minutes until they're off the tube. Other than that 1 call, then text.

I wish my parents would disable their voicemail because apparently it cost me 15p every time I rang over Christmas/New Years on weekdays to see how my nan was doing in hospital, got through to voicemail, and hung up immediately (I know they never check it)

How to disable voicetext:

Leave an intromessage that says "Hi, I'm (whoever), don't leave a message I never check voicemail"

That should do it.

Lex, I am pretty sure you can disable it. My doctor has done so. Well, I think so anyway.

Yeah this. Voicemail is there for a reason - use it

Ek. No. Rarely use voicemail nor do I check mine.

You had to get a doctor to disable your voicemail?

oh god i HATE voicemail so much, if i could i'd disable it

I NEVER listen to my voicemail so it inevitably fills up and no more messages can be left. People seem to like to point me towards the fact that my inbox is full, which is also slightly irritating, but it does the trick.

dear everyone i might ever phone,

please disable voicemail if you're not going to check it, seeing as no voicemail = free call if you don't answer, and voicemail = costs the caller money either way

after 20 missed calls i will buy you the pint i have saved the cost of, as a sweetener to me telling you to answer yr bloody phone more often

I generally stop at 665, and leave one more if it's reaaally urgent.

thanks to this thread i have had this in my head all day:

man this girl got me twisted up
twenty-five missed calls on her phone when she picks it up
her ex-man's at my house wanting fisticuffs,
could this be love? i best start fixing up.

thx, ilx!

i said 2 cuz if they don't answer and don't call back they aint talking yo
if something must be communicated text it

the genius of google voice is that you can get email/text transcriptions of voicemails so you don't have to listen to them :)

Geez I'm suprised at all the voicemail hate, its not like it costs me much to dial 321 and listen to a message... even easier on my housephone I just get a blinking light and press a play button, whats the big effing deal.

Costs me anything, that should say - my plan doesnt charge to access VM.

1- if someone's on the tube/subway/whatever TEXT THEM to call you when they get off. it is so much simpler than calling a bunch of times.

2- voicemail sucks. as said above, fuck that noise.

3- i am actually confused. what is this 'house phone' all of you speak of?

Yes yes, we get it, all clever clogs under 30 only use cellphones.

Anyway lemme put it this way: unless I know yr number or am expecting a call, I ain't answering any of my phones. If you dont leave a message SOMEhow (txt is fine) then thats your problem not mine. Keep calling! You'll get exactly nowhere. Telemarketer assholes mean My Phone Doesn't Get Answered.

Someone sometimes sends texts to our landline.

We get them in the form of a computervoice reading out the syllables in a totally unintelligible way. And no "from" indication.

Texts that got sent to your landline were briefly delivered in Tom Baker's voice. Really. You could make him swear and everything, it was great.

no of telemarketing calls i have received in this life-

1.

it wasn't even selling anything, just a vodafone customer service survey. tenner credit for doing it, result!

heh and if karma hasn't enough lined up for me there....

i used to sell life insurance for barclays over the phone.

on weekends.

^disgusting savage yes i know

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Fair enough.