Tell us your marriage proposal story

Whether that's how you proposed to yr special person, or how someone else proposed to you. Inspired by reading jjjusten's story.

Honestly, I'm just hoping for a story including skydiving, a botched transfer of the engagement 7500 feet above the Mojave Desert, and a desperate mid-air hunt for a cherished family heirloom.

i have now ducked into the bathroom and put it in a ziplock bag to avoid the "oh hey look heres a ring, sorry about all the shit on it." possibilities. matt is, infuriatingly, some sort of OCD sewer completist and will not rest until the job is done.

Serious LOLs.

the best part of that story is the implication that being thorough when dealing with sewer issues is a bad thing

it was my wife's birthday and i was meeting her for dinner at our fav restaurant. i was taking the bus from the main campus of my uni to the downtown campus where she was doing grad school stuff.

when i meet her there i was trying to keep my hand in my pocket where i had the ring box and i was like, shit, imma have a goddamn dickens of a time trying to keep this under wraps. i didn't have the patience to wait until we got to the restaurant and i ended up just blurting out "will u marry me y/n *ring*" as she was getting into the car (she said y, proposal was successful).

first we went base jumping over angel falls in venezuela. then we hiked all the way up to the actual valhalla, where the gods of the ages invited us to a three-day feast. to recuperate we stayed two nights in st tropez and then took a private catamaran cruise around the cote d'azure. it was off the coast of monaco that i gave her a bracelet. "oh gosh!" she said. i was like "open it up." inside a deviously hidden compartment was a tiny GPS device that contained coordinates to a location somewhere in antarctica. at that moment a seaplane landed and took us to Orly, where we flew to the south pole with enough gear for a ten-day expedition. as we neared the destination her bracelet beeped faster. finally it was beeping so fast it sounded almost like a steady tone. "but where is it?" she exclaimed. "look" i said, and pointed at a hole in the ice, where a dolphin majestically surfaced, grinning at us, and flipped its tail a couple of times. it swam over and lowered its head as if to beckon her to ride it. she looked at me tentatively. "go on," i said. she wrapped her hands around the dolphin's head and straddled its back, and then she felt something around the dolphin's neck. it was a small tag with a switch on it. she looked at me expectantly. "go ahead, push it!" i said. when she did, night fell, the stars changed position in the sky, and eight blue angel fighter planes suddenly zoomed by trailing smoke that said "WILL YOU MARRY ME?" the look in her eye was all the answer i needed. it was a special moment that i will always treasure, even though we divorced a couple of years later.

And did you ever call me back after my sex change? NO.

I was waiting nervously outside the stage door at Symphony Hall for her to show up for a Tanglewood Festival Chorus rehearsal; I wasn't in the group yet. Numerous friends of ours, some of whom knew my plan, passed me and wished me luck as I waited, and waited, and waited. Finally, J came rushing up, almost late to rehearsal, and was all "oh hey, why are you here?" and attempt to push past me so she wouldn't get scolded for tardiness. I grabbed her hand and, while she bemusedly kept trying to pull away and muttering "What's wrong with you? I'm late!" dropped to one knee and sang the first verse of "Somebody" by Depeche Mode:

I want somebody to share
Share the rest of my life
Know my intimate thoughts
Share my intimate details
Someone who'll stand by my side
And give me support
And in return
She'll get my support
She will listen to me
When I want to speak
About the world we live in
And life in general
Though my views may be wrong
They may even be perverted
She'll hear me out
And won't easily be converted
To my way of thinking
In fact, she'll often disagree
But at the end of it all
She will understand me
Ohhhhhhhhh....

While singing, I pulled out the ring and presented it to her, at which point she went "omigod" and had tears streaming down her face. After I finished, I popped the question and she said "of course I will" in this really adorable, quiet voice and hugged me harder than I've ever been hugged in this lifetime. Our friends lurking in the stairwell burst into cheers and ran up to congratulate us, then I went down with her to rehearsal where we were given another round of cheers from the approx. 100 ppl at the rehearsal and a standing ovation.

Three weeks later, my audition to get into the group was a mere formality; my intricate plan had worked.

bet!

Will you marry me, @DontRemember?
5:04 PM March 1st, 2008 via web in reply to DontRemember

@Me Kill yourself.
5:06 PM March 1st, 2008 via TweetDeck in reply to Me

;_;
5:07 PM March 1st, 2008 via web

I replicated our first date. Went to the same restaurant. Took the same walk afterward. Proposed while sitting at the benches where we first held hands.

PRETTY CHEESY.

Good thing she didn't reenact the first slap in the face for getting fresh.

hahaha

"Will you marry me? *grope*"
"*SLAP* Yes!"

https://www.tiktok.com/@margoo_lady/video/6785789203515968774

dammit this destroyed me

sick move

shakes her head. clear no

lol.

I've never understood the marriage proposal as romantic surprise - if I want to spend my life with someone and spend a lot of time/money/effort on a marriage I wouldn't want it to be an unexpected invitation, I would want to have a proper conversation around it

aye but the when and the how of the proposal can still be romantic and fun, right?

The flipside:

Aita For kicking my BIL out of my wedding? https://t.co/bt5GNtdusa pic.twitter.com/TvVplKxIuZ

— Am I the Asshole? (@AITA_reddit) September 3, 2020

I have asked someone to marry me twice and both "proposals" were offhand comments in the middle of conversations ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I believe my proposal was something along the lines of "okay, yeah"

Ours involves me joking about him murdering me. It’s very us. Despite/because of this, we are still married.

^^^definitely the closest thing ilx has to the phantom thread couple

I've never understood the marriage proposal as romantic surprise... I would want to have a proper conversation around it

The 'popping the question' model gets reinforced constantly by various media that rely on exploiting a 'good story', but the proper conversation model works one hell of a lot better. My wife and I had multiple conversations around laying the groundwork for agreeing to get married. The actual decision came after we'd moved in together for a few months when she walked into the kitchen as I was cooking supper and said, "I think I'm ready."