Who do you like better, your mom or your dad?

When I was a kid it was my dad, and now it's so totally my mom.

Ain't seen dad for 10 yrs.

mom, dads a douche.

both the same. my mom's easier to get along with but they are both good eggs.

I don't really have a "better," just "different." Because my dad was in the Army and was away so much, and because of a lot of seriously bad shit after they divorced, I've spent so much more of my life with my mother. But my dad and I have always had more in common, more similar interests, and think and act more alike. Couldn't really choose.

i wonder if this relates to which parent you are more like. my mom and i are the quieter, more emotionally reserved members of the family, my dad and my sister are more outspoken and tend to wear their hearts on their respective sleeves.

I don't really have a "better," just "different."

sums it up nicely

Impossible question. You are worhtless.

I feel like I have more in common with my dad in terms of interests, politics, sense of humor, etc. And I think there was probably a time a few years ago when I would've picked him without hesitation.

But my mom's always been better for emotional support, and I think I've just grown to appreciate her more in general lately. Plus, I like my mom's boyfriend better than my dad's girlfriend, which is kind of key because it's usually a package deal these days.

Toss-up?

My relationship with my father has deepened over the years. We're now comfortable discussing history, poli science, family gossip, and exchanging remarks about my sister, mom, etc. But I can't discuss my personal life.

I've always gotten on with Mom, but I can't discuss my personal life either.

I was blessed with excellent parents. Dad's dead now. I loved him a ton. Mom's 85 and alive, but in poor health. I love her a ton, too. Going to see her tomorrow.

it's difficult to get a word in with my mom amidst the torrent of health complaints

both of them are awesome

i love them both the same. i'm marginally closer to my mom, just because my dad isn't one to readily show emotion. on balance, they're good parents and did well by me and my little sister. damn good thing that i didn't turn out gay though. that probably would have fucked them up something fierce. they're both smart, particularly my dad - which makes it especially hard to see how willfully ignorant they can be about a lot of things

eh I love 'em both about the same albeit in different ways. they each have their pros/cons, neither is a monster or impossible to deal with or anything

like 'em both, have more in common/more to talk about with my mom tho

i think i like them both and dislike them both about the same. they can be annoying, but in general are great to me. they made a big sacrifice for my sister and i when we were kids -- when they got separated, they rotated in and out of the house instead of having us moving back and forth all the time. and on the months they weren't in the house, they lived with their respective parents!

I had to log in in order to call you a shithead, that much effort made it feel a bit harsh. Dad died when I was 6, considering how different I am from my four older siblings it's odd to consider how I could've turned out had he been able to stick around.

Dad in a walk.

love 'em both!

love em both. Get less annoyed by my dad, but still actually enjoy spending time with both of them, together or separately.

dad, but he's only ok at a lot of it.

i wonder if this relates to which parent you are more like.

Probably in some way. I like my dad more, think of myself as being more like him, and aspire to be even more like him. He's cool-headed but never humorless, and really hardcore geeky, even though he's not of the age to take that as the intended compliment. He's eternally fascinated by complex systems, like weather and economy and politics. I got all of that from him, and also an appreciation of 60's soul records. My fear, though, is that I'm often more like my mom, who is, to tell the whole truth, very emotionally unstable. Just as bipolar as the day is long. Normal one minute, throwing tantrums and screaming non sequiturs at you the next. I can't think of a single way in which I'd rather be more like my mother.

could never pick between the two, they're both brilliant but v diff.

dad is like, sensible, pragmatic, emotionally can be cold but also unflappable, gives good advice esp about financial stuff. can put his foot in it completely with sensitivities but i'm used to this and he doesn't mean it.

mum is like traditional mum role, massively loving, calls when you're sick or whatever, but less emotionally stable than dad. defo has more probs with depression and has lived a bit less than dad i guess. has v weird ideas about some things, hates people knowing her business and assumes people want to know or are talking about it, which obv they aren't. on the other hand is more sort of modern than dad in some ways, they're prob a v good match.

... despite him being an abusive drunk (before sobriety) before the divorce (when I was 1) and didn't reenter my life until I was 13. At least sometimes he's emotive in a positive sense.

My mom. Dad was a type-a dick most of his life until old age and health issues forced him to cool his jets a little. He can still crank up the asshole-o-meter when he wants to. Mom's getting very flaky in her old age, but definitely more likeable.

i've been trying to rebuild my relationship with my father recently and things are going smoothly. He came over and took care of me when i threw out my back last month which was a nice gesture and we had a nice talk about my feelings for what he did to our lives all those years ago. And I forgave him, and he cried. So i guess i can't say he's a total douche anymore.

I know my mom is a victim of AMC Original Series Mom syndrome but I still like my dad better

my parents are divorced. my entire life i've had a much better and closer relationship with my mother, but the past year or so my relationship with my father has improved to the point where i genuinely admire him for probably the first time in my (young) life and can pretty plainly see the many things we have in common that i'd probably avoided acknowledging before. i still am closer to my mom but i can't choose - love em both

we had a nice talk about my feelings for what he did to our lives all those years ago. And I forgave him, and he cried.
My dad initiated this conversation a few months ago; a doozy.

my dad was never around, so him

yeah, that's kind of a shortened version of mine maybe

until this year i would have said my stepdad, no hesitation - we were always 'in league' against my mother when i was a teenager, he was more of an older, irresponsible brother than a dad. but we only became buddies after my grandfather's funeral when i was 13. before that was about 8 years of avoiding each other at all costs.

my mum was basically a fucking bitch through my childhood, she got better once i left home, then there was an incident with my ex and she totally took his side and believed him over me (even though of all ppl she should have believed me, given her own history in a similar situation). but now she's completely in love with my husband, so she's way nicer (most of the time) than she used to be.

my stepdad otoh has grown really tetchy and hard to talk to about anything at all. feel like there's a huge distance there now.

my parents are divorced. my entire life i've had a much better and closer relationship with my mother, but the past year or so my relationship with my father has improved to the point where i genuinely admire him for probably the first time in my (young) life and can pretty plainly see the many things we have in common that i'd probably avoided acknowledging before. i still am closer to my mom but i can't choose - love em both

― wakafledia (k3vin k.), Wednesday, November 10, 2010 5:59 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark

yup. temper that admiration with an even helping of whatever the opposite of it is, and that's me over here (divorce was v v recent). we're able to talk shop now, and "doing" medicine has made me understand his absence a bit, as well as reveal some of our similarities personality-wise. still, moms and i are closer by a long stretch, helped in no small part by the fact that i really don't feel close to most of my dad's relatives, and am fiercely attached to my mom's. which is double-weird because my dad's brothers both live about an hour away by car, and my mom's family live in lanc. also apparently my dad has a sister, but i haven't seen her in about a decade, so w/e i guess.

she lives in iowa, lol

mom in a walk, dad is a self-absorbed creep

Well, after unsuccessful attempts to establish myself in the working world and throwing myself in college, my mother has been pretty supportive of me hanging around her house and eating her food.

I have no idea what in the hell my father does. I hear he's a bum or a drunk townie, I don't really know. I've never encountered him and I get the feeling that he wouldn't even know who I am if he saw me because I've risen above him so much. He treated my mother terribly and I want nothing to do with someone who may treat me the same way.

Definitely Dad, not that I dislike Mom but we used to get into screaming matches because I preferred Dad.

Automatic thread bump. This poll is closing tomorrow.

Ain't seen dad for 10 yrs.

16, but he still takes this comfortably

Both are awesome.

aint seen dad this year yet, but he's just friended me on facebook, which is nice.

I guess they both work out to be about the same.

My Dad is at heart a very good, kind, caring man, who would do anything for all of his children. He has a silly sense of humor and some of my best memories are of times that I've spent with him on car trips or fixing my old car. But, all of my life he's avoided confrontation and allowed himself to be pushed around. He has had a stroke and a struggle with depression...he doesn't work anymore but he seems at least happy now. For me the biggest con is when the shit really hit the fan, he shrank. He couldn't support Mum when she needed him, and in a way he kind of let me down a little.

Mum used to be this wonderwoman sportshero crazywoman who raised all 3 of us working part time while Dad was working full-time as a plumber. She was a force of nature back then. But she also had kind of a crazy temper and pushed us all around (Dad included) way more than she should have, which created it's own set of problems including a massive feud with my younger sister and that alone pretty much brough the family to its knees. Rheumatoid arthritis forced Mum to calm down, and while she hasn't forgotten, she's forgiven, and she's almost a whole different person now than she was when we were kids. We have become friends now, and I feel a lot closer to her now than I ever did growing up.

Mum and Dad were always like orbiting planets than a 'team'...but now thankfully they seem to have found a way to get along now that all of us are grown up and moved out of home...the time they have to spend alone with each other seems to have brought them together in some kind of agree-to-disagree arrangement. I kinda wish they both loved each other is the only thing.

They're both flawed, and they've disappointed me a lot...but I can't think of one without the other, and I love them both so much.
Dyfunctional families, man. They're weird.

oof. That was a bit longer than I planned. Sorry.

synopsising your parents is tough imo

def

you guys if our momz and dadz see this poll we're all in trouble, UMMMMMMM!!!

it's kind of unclear, and i'm not prying, why it was yr mum that had to 'forgive' anyone, if she was the bossy one? ps bossy is not necessarily a negative term, someone's gotta do it

i'm not going to vote, but i have my reasons. both of my parents have been very supportive in some ways and really negative in other ways.

mom taught me how to love literature, which is essentially my realm of expertise, so i owe her that. i also definitely have much more in common with her re: film, food tastes, etc. on the other hand, she's a homophobic, conservative catholic at heart, which harshes every fibre of my being. i admit, though, that i also admire her greatly for beating stage iv ovarian cancer when i was a kid.

dad taught me to love old soul and garage rock music (like kenan's dad, i guess), and his sense of humor and mine are much more in line. political discussions with him are always good. and he's also really accepting and loving in relation to my sexuality. that said, he has a terrible temper and a martyr complex that would make most people pull their hair out. luckily, he's been mellowing with age.

in the end, i'd rather drink beer or go for a long drive with my dad, and just hang out around the house reading and drinking wine with my mom.

xpost...sorry Darragh, yeah I didn't really explain that. My sister got pregnant early, lied, slept around, and her and Mum fought like cat and dog for about 10 years. Mum blames my sister for most of that. And she blames Dad for not fighting with my sister as well, and for lying to her and for not being much of a husband. And for some reason she thinks they both deliberately did all of that TO her, and I don't know if she'll ever let it go.

As for bossiness, absolutely Mum filled a role that was needed. But she resented having to do it and she punished pretty much all of us for 'making' her be the boss. More psycho bossiness :)

hey you're under no obligation or anything. and i guess anyone can reserve the right to 'forgive' (or not) whether any wrong was done to them or not.

Automatic thread bump. This poll's results are now in.

74 people don't think abbbottt is a shithead or worhtless vs. 5 who do - that result is pretty clear, imho.

mom is the boring, canon response. mom is like the beatles.

What band is dad, then?

i was tryin to thing tbph. i dont know any bands obscure enough for some smartass not to upbraid me, this is ilx after all.

I think dads are like Puddle of Mudd's "Blurry."

Part of why I say that is this is the ONLY song I have ever seen my dad print out the lyrics to and sing along with.

that's impressively random of him!

Knowing your dad, that is extremely bizarre. But he's a bizarre individual I guess.

Mum = The Beatles, Dad = The Dave Clark Five

Actually my Dad = Johnny Horton., or Nana Mouskouri. Only 2 lps that my Dad owned

tough question, both have good/bad qualities.

yeah but did you VOTE

Part of why I say that is this is the ONLY song I have ever seen my dad print out the lyrics to and sing along with.

― Stop Non-Erotic Cabaret (Abbbottt), Sunday, 28 November 2010 00:14 (20 minutes ago)

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also lol