Tell me about losing your virginity............

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So tell me about it. There is no need to get graphic. Do you remember the date? With who? Was there music playing? Where? Was it memorable?

― Simona, Thursday, 15 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

I remember it like it was yesterday. December 31st 1992, New Years Eve. I was 17 she was 15. I had Kitchens of Distinction "The Death of Cool" on the stereo. I was a blundering mess of nerves. God, its funny to think of it now. I remember looking at her naked and thinking...wow she moves like light moves. I also remember dropping the condom on the bed three times and thinking that it was bad each time i dropped it. I didn't know, i was young and foolish. When we finally "did it", "Mad As Snow" came on....I will associate that song with one thing for the rest of my life. And I will remember Kelly for as long as I live.

― Chris, Thursday, 15 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Well at least you had a good song Chris. I lost mine to Reo Speedwagon in 1994. 1994 and Reo Speedwagon do not mix. Sex and Reo Speedwagon do not mix.

― Simona, Thursday, 15 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Yep, I'm drunk.

― Chris, Thursday, 15 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

it was painful then boring. i was 18. it was late january 1998. there was no music playing. the guy is dead now (not because of that night).

― di, Thursday, 15 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Awful, awful, awful. It left me underwhelmed and with a complex that I'm still not entirely over.

― electric sound of jim, Thursday, 15 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

on the grass on the bank of the churchill, a half mile from camp. he was humming dylan and we settled to watch the water flow(that might be why he was humming dylan?), we sort of fumbled and stumbled, and as we were sort of reaching orgasm a blue heron flew over us. there were men before this and men after, but he was the first boy that allowed his orgasm to go second and he was the boy who took my cock in his mouth and his arse.

― anthony, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Anthony, that's beautiful. That almost reads like an Incredible String Band song, or something.

― donut bitch, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

living room floor. camberwell, melbourne's inner east. march, 1998. 'the badge' by pantera. i weep.

― mikey bidness, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

American exchange student. Blanked her the next day. Score one against the empire!

― dave q, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

dave q = bad man

― nickie, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Was very drunk and at a friend's 18th birthday party. On a sofa in one of the bedrooms (not sure why we didn't use the bed, but there you go).

As I recall, all I was thinking during the event was "I'm doing it! I', doing it!"

Then afterwards that changed to "I did it! I did it!"

Nowt special about it. In fact, as Jarvis put it, I can't remember a worse time. Broke my heart, she did...

― Alex M, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

My best-friend and I, in the top bunk-bed at my place, 1981/82. We licked our hands and rubbed them against our vulvas to make them wet then we sort of "scissored" ourselves together. Hard to describe but it was good.

― toraneko, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Early September 1988, I was 18, she was a friend of my roommate's, no music, her dorm room, it was completely nightmarish. When she started calling me what I later found out was her old English teacher's name, I realized that what she wanted from the experience had nothing to do with me.

― Douglas, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

McDonalds toilets, Northampton town centre.

― Dom Passantino, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Could've been worse, Simona - could've been in the Tesco toilets at the Western Favel centre...

― Alex M, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

4 am Northside, Clapham Common. No wait, in a darkened underpass. No, hold on...

(Real answer: a good dinner, relaxed vibe, things just sorta went from there. :-) I will not say what music was playing as it would disturb the tender sensibilities of some people here.)

― Ned Raggett, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

It was The Outfield "Your Love" wasn't it Ned.

― Chris, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

For some reason I can see "Your Love" being used as a backing track for a love scene in a movie.

― Chris, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Yargh, god no. I just know based on some posts elsewhere on this board -- without me saying anything beforehand! -- that some people regard the idea of The Band in Question playing as the background for lurv to be horribly awful.

― Ned Raggett, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

It was Eazy-E! Admit it!

― Dan Perry, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm not going to claim that your use of "Still Talkin' Shit" to seduce Joei was my approach, you silly man.

― Ned Raggett, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes, I remember the date (how many others here lost their virginity in the '70s?) and the girl. No music playing, on a friend's parents' bed. I remember it clearly, but it was rubbish - I was very nervous and tense and didn't much know what I was doing. The second time (same girl and place next day) was much better.

― Martin Skidmore, Friday, 16 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-two years ago)

My friends lost their virginity when they were 12/13. Then they formed a sort of counsel to prevent me from losing mine until it was 'true love.' They would be sitting behind me in class, hissing at me while the teacher was speaking, 'Don't do it Jack. It's not worth it.' So I waited until it was true love when I was nearly 16. I held out against various forms of force and persuasion. Then it was true love. So I ... But she dumped me three months later. The whole time we were together, I wouldn't have hardly dared to speak to her. It was true love. I didn't really speak to her when she dumped me either. I stayed in love with her for about ten years. After she dumped me I had an innocent depression. I didn't feel anxious but I just wasn't interested in anything for a year. Or anyone, of course. I went home early from parties because I was bored. I didn't try to describe how I was feeling or cry, or feel any impulse to take it out on her or get revenge on her - I had no understanding.

It seems such a shame to me that the potential for me to treat someone so innocently was wasted. I've noticed that the way I treated my first couple of girlfriends was very different to how I treated those I've had since. I didn't try to impress them or manipulate them; I was just quiet and impressed, and didn't really think of the possibility of them doing anything wrong. Sometimes I think that this suggests that early marriage is appropriate. I know there must be something wrong with that idea though.

― Jack Benny., Saturday, 17 August 2002 23:48 (twenty-two years ago)

A real shame.

― Kim, Sunday, 18 August 2002 02:42 (twenty-two years ago)

i haven't "lost" it as such, i just left it in my other pants or something.

― duane, Sunday, 18 August 2002 09:05 (twenty-two years ago)

I can't believe no-one's done the "I lost it but I've still got the box it came in" joke.

― toraneko, Sunday, 18 August 2002 18:11 (twenty-two years ago)

I know I left that box around here somewhere..

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Monday, 19 August 2002 00:33 (twenty-two years ago)

It was okay. There have been both better and worse experiences since.

― rosemary (rosemary), Thursday, 22 August 2002 04:29 (twenty-two years ago)

(how many others here lost their virginity in the '70s?)

Me too, Martin. Sometimes, when I see films/TV/pictures from the early-to-mid 70's it astonishes me that anybody ever actually fancied anybody else, and that the western world didn't become extinct through lack of shagging.
Anyway, it was on a sofa at the girlfriend's parents, both of us drunk. I can vaguely remember thinking 'What is GOING ON here?'. I still think that.

― Ray M (rdmanston), Thursday, 22 August 2002 12:20 (twenty-two years ago)

I remeber saying "x o'clock on the day of month, year. I'll never forget this date," but I can't remember it for the life of me. ;)

― Andrew (enneff), Saturday, 24 August 2002 00:07 (twenty-two years ago)

I can't forget the date, even if I wanted to, as it was February 14. Gross.

― rosemary (rosemary), Saturday, 24 August 2002 00:26 (twenty-two years ago)

Did he tie a bow around himself as a gift?

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Saturday, 24 August 2002 02:44 (twenty-two years ago)

Ned is a very bad man!

― jel -- (jel), Saturday, 24 August 2002 06:24 (twenty-two years ago)

At least I didn't ask if he was covered in chocolate, did I?

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 25 August 2002 03:07 (twenty-two years ago)

Ned is a etc etc!

― RJG (RJG), Sunday, 25 August 2002 03:18 (twenty-two years ago)

Hand-dipped, even!

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 25 August 2002 03:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Ned, are you trying to make me throw up?

― rosemary (rosemary), Sunday, 25 August 2002 11:28 (twenty-two years ago)

Well, no, it admittedly sounded like you were already nauseous enough at the thought.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 25 August 2002 11:46 (twenty-two years ago)

Was he filled with nougat or coconut?

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Sunday, 25 August 2002 19:48 (twenty-two years ago)

I honestly don't recall details of any of my past lives...

― Lek Dukagjin, Sunday, 25 August 2002 20:55 (twenty-two years ago)

I said RUB ON YER TITS

― RickyT (RickyT), Sunday, 25 August 2002 21:11 (twenty-two years ago)

Mmm, Ned dipped in chocolate....

To return to topic, it was in South Florida, December 1991. I was 24. (And yes, I'm still pissed off about all of the sex I missed when I was a teenager.) The room was freezing. I learned a valuble lesson from the man I lost it to--never think that sex has anything to do with love.

― Christine "Green Leafy Dragon" Indigo, Sunday, 25 August 2002 22:29 (twenty-two years ago)

Was he filled with nougat or coconut?

Did you overlook the chance to make a "cream-filled" joke, or think better of the idea?

― j.lu (j.lu), Sunday, 25 August 2002 22:47 (twenty-two years ago)

Dan goes where I dare not. Unsurprisingly.

Mmm, Ned dipped in chocolate....

! I mean, I'm flattered and all, but I have visions as to what it would do to my hair.

And yes, I'm still pissed off about all of the sex I missed when I was a teenager.

The hormonal part of me rather echoes this thought. The emotional part of me thinks I was better off without.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 25 August 2002 23:13 (twenty-two years ago)

The hormonal part of me rather echoes this thought. The emotional part of me thinks I was better off without

Agreed. I didn't miss it then, so it seems strange to now feel like I'd missed out on something.

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Sunday, 25 August 2002 23:20 (twenty-two years ago)

It would have been nice to have been able to have sex with more than two people before I got married, though. And if I had lost my virginity earlier than I did, I wouldn't have slept with the person that I did lose it to.

― Christine "Green Leafy Dragon" Indigo, Monday, 26 August 2002 02:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Did you overlook the chance to make a "cream-filled" joke, or think better of the idea?

I wanted to go for the more disturbing "he packs himself full of candy before getting it on" angle.

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 26 August 2002 12:07 (twenty-two years ago)

I am not pissed off about missing sex as a teenager. At all. I am slightly pissed off at myself for even dating. I want Prince Charming damnit.

― Maria (Maria), Monday, 26 August 2002 12:37 (twenty-two years ago)

I want Prince Charming damnit.

You are aware that he's running around with both Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty?

― j.lu (j.lu), Monday, 26 August 2002 13:06 (twenty-two years ago)

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Not on your life, except that NYU has knocked down the building where the event took place.

Dr Morbius (Dr Morbius) on Monday, 20 November 2006 15:08 (4 months ago)

Woah - in Loeb? That's great.

― ENBB, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 16:31 (eighteen years ago)

we're all trying to get fired, i think

― kenan, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 16:32 (eighteen years ago)

It's Spring?

― ENBB, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 16:34 (eighteen years ago)

spring, i'm sprung

― kenan, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 16:36 (eighteen years ago)

I can't forget the date, even if I wanted to, as it was February 14. Gross.

rosemary (rosemary) on Friday, August 23, 2002 8:26 PM (4 years ago)

ah, someone fell for the "cock in a box of chocolates" trick.

― Eisbaer, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 16:37 (eighteen years ago)

i remember the date, because not only was it my birthday, it was her birthday, too. So she turned 17 and I turned 18 and we both lost our virginity, all in one fell swoop.

And I think REM was playing on the stereo, and now I know it should have been Nirvana.

― kenan, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 16:41 (eighteen years ago)

Oh hey I did this once!

― nickalicious, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 16:49 (eighteen years ago)

Let us know when you do it twice!

― Pleasant Plains, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 17:00 (eighteen years ago)

Of course, it's Spring. I was wondering why my libido has been off the scale. I assumed it was depression+booze.

― Noodle Vague, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 17:03 (eighteen years ago)

ok what is with ilx today

ilx has the horn

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― Ed, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 17:05 (eighteen years ago)

October 1994, Leicester, in my student semi-detatched with my edited C90 cassette version of Aphex Twin's Ambient Works 2 on the stereo. She was very sweet, the sex was thoroughly unremarkable but we had a few more fun months trying to make it better and largely succeeding. It wasn't her first time but it didn't seem to matter. It was all a bit meh, but i do sort of remember it. I have had much better sex since!

― CharlieNo4, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 17:13 (eighteen years ago)

I have had much better sex since!

I certainly hope so. Whoever said the first time is the best was BATSHIT INSANE.

― kenan, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 17:14 (eighteen years ago)

Who did say that?

In my experience the whole deal was built up so much that the reality was just about the must underwhelming experience of my life.

― Mark C, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 17:27 (eighteen years ago)

side A of Björk's Debut

Rereading this I feel I should make it clear that this was a cassette tape, not vinyl or anything.

― Casuistry, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 18:17 (eighteen years ago)

I think it happened the first time I had sex. Dunno, the whole night is kinda hazy. Anyway, I couldn't find it afterwards, so odds are...

― Pye Poudre, Wednesday, 28 March 2007 23:26 (eighteen years ago)

On a high school trip, on a boat in the Mediterranean. I was trying to make my unresposive crush jealous, and I think it worked.

― wanko ergo sum, Thursday, 29 March 2007 00:33 (eighteen years ago)

*ctrl+f "hoos"*

fuck.

― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Thursday, 29 March 2007 01:20 (eighteen years ago)

*ctrl+f "hoos"*...

...gets nothing interesting.

fuck.

― Eyeball Kicks, Thursday, 29 March 2007 01:34 (eighteen years ago)

Exactly.

― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Thursday, 29 March 2007 01:34 (eighteen years ago)

I'm regretting that I bothered posting my boring story/didn't embellish or blatanly fictionalize.

― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Thursday, 29 March 2007 01:36 (eighteen years ago)

mine was with someone who was so thrilled to be first i'm amazed he didn't plant a flag in my cervix.

― estela, Thursday, 29 March 2007 01:39 (eighteen years ago)

*prom night senior year. by a river. i was only the second boy she'd ever kissed... uh, yeah, that was weird.

― the table is the table, Thursday, 29 March 2007 03:44 (eighteen years ago)

It will suffice to say I was older than average and just eager to get it over with having felt embarrassed for so long. The girl acted strange and decided to do this aggressive schtick that included biting, which wasn't really calming for my nerves. I don't remember much else, but the subsequent sex with that girl was really hot.

― Hurting 2, Thursday, 29 March 2007 04:12 (eighteen years ago)

Estela I love you.

― Trayce, Thursday, 29 March 2007 04:21 (eighteen years ago)

After hours of heated foreplay she finally grabbed it and put it in. From that point it was all ...perfunctory. She wasn't a virgin, but still she lost a lot of zest when it came to actually doing the act. I guess she couldn't achieve orgasm that way (yet). We didn't do it again. Oh, and there was no damn music playing. Sex distracts you too much from music.

― Rich Smörgasbord, Thursday, 29 March 2007 04:55 (eighteen years ago)

17. In London.But I think I have described it before on ILX.
Rain was the music - that's what I remember, listening to the rain pounding on the windows of the little rented room at the B&B in Clapham Commons.
When I think about it now, so many years later, I think about how much "losing it" was sort of a challenge. And a competition.
What I can say is...I was very fortunate to have that boy. He treated me like the gem that I am, and I will always love him for that.
I don't think I felt anything. "Loss of virginity" was the goal, and I did that. But it wasn't very fulfilling.
Sleeping (snoring) together afterwards and making out every day before and after was probably more important.
I was very fortunate to have the experience i had.

― aimurchie, Thursday, 29 March 2007 05:12 (eighteen years ago)

one year passes...

I recount the story in my mind fairly often. However, trimming down the cast of characters and cursory events involved is nearly impossible.

Basically, the shortest version possible, and some updates:

I had two WHOA#$^ girls intersted in me at age 16, but I didn't believe it, so I ended up losing it to their not-so-attractive, not-so-sane friend at age 17 instead.

I lied to her and said she was my 3rd, despite my clumsiness.

I guess the part that could be perceived as interesting has to do with the other girls involved.

Seen girl #1 from afar and was wow'd, but didn't commit her to memory.

Obsessed with girl #2 from afar. Ranted to a neighborhood friend about "hot girl I saw". With barely any details, he told me he knew her and gave me her phone #. I didn't believe him, but pocketed the number.

Later another friend of mine said "3 hot girls came to [his] bedroom window last night. They asked about [me]." Didn't believe him either.

Turns out all 3 girls were close friends and all of the above was more or less true. I became best friends with all of them, yet, still bumbled the whole ordeal.

Actually, all of this is still boring. The most intersting part the original meeting took place at a house owned by a (wild) girl whose name was Laura Palmer (this was during Twin Peaks' run).

10 years later, I went to rent videos. The girl behind the counter recognized my name despite not knowing her. That girl called the girl I lost it too and gave her my (then) current phone number. She called me as I walked in my apt with videos. Told me about her husband and kids in a faux subdued tone.

C R E E P Y.

I've since reconnected with one of the hot girls, who is happily married today (and still hot, frankly).

― intersting moran (PappaWheelie V), Saturday, 27 December 2008 03:42 (sixteen years ago)

didn't read, but looks like a story you've practised.

― paulhw, Saturday, 27 December 2008 04:46 (sixteen years ago)

1998. I was 22. Drunk after friend's 'porn-star' party (you can't make this stuff up, honestly)...ended up in bed with friend's roommate. I don't remember a lot of the sex, was v.drunk...but the guy was hot, though total man-whore who had already slept with another friend of mine and two others after me. The Pixies Dolittle was playing.

― VegemiteGrrrl, Saturday, 27 December 2008 04:53 (sixteen years ago)

lol @ estela

― buzza, Saturday, 27 December 2008 05:48 (sixteen years ago)

*ctrl+f "hoos"*

fuck.
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Wednesday, March 28, 2007 9:20 PM (1 year ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

HAW

― rox qua rox (roxymuzak), Saturday, 27 December 2008 06:09 (sixteen years ago)

i'm just disappointed i bothered sharing such a boring story frankly

― BIG HOOS is not a nacho purist fwiw (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Saturday, 27 December 2008 06:17 (sixteen years ago)

by some miracle the instance of poppage is not smeared across ILX...and thus it shall remain

― baby got bahn (country matters), Saturday, 27 December 2008 06:24 (sixteen years ago)

i'm just disappointed i bothered sharing such a boring story frankly

― BIG HOOS is not a nacho purist fwiw (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Saturday, December 27, 2008 1:17 AM (11 minutes ago) Bookmark

Post that effortlessly sums up etc etc

― ichard Thompson (Hurting 2), Saturday, 27 December 2008 06:30 (sixteen years ago)

the miracle of poppage

― rox qua rox (roxymuzak), Saturday, 27 December 2008 06:32 (sixteen years ago)

My first kiss was a much more interesting story. He had a big scar on his face and a tattoo on his arm. He was a drummer. After we kissed he told me about the girl he was in love with. The building where it happened is in the movie I Shot Andy Warhol.

― tokyo rosemary, Sunday, 28 December 2008 00:56 (sixteen years ago)

i was probably 16 and it was AWESOME. can't speak for the young lady who deflowered me...
she was a year older and had had a long-term bf before me. we had been sorta dating (whatever that meant at the time), so there had been a long, steady build up of heavy petting and what-not before the main event. her folks were out of town, so i crashed over there after some lame winter dance. i just remember waking up several times during the night and being all "ok so we should definitely do that again." her: "oh totally." AWESOME.

I'm thankful I wasn't wasted and that we actually liked one other. We still speak on occasion, and have hooked up sporadically over the years since. Not since like spring '05 tho.

― extremely intoxicated & uncooperative outside a Hסּסּters in Winston-Salem (will), Sunday, 28 December 2008 01:35 (sixteen years ago)

I made out with a virgin to Purple Rain and The Necks the other night.

― logged0ut (Jordan), Monday, 20 November 2006 04:43 (2 years ago) Permalink

^^^wtf, so much for "logged out".

― Tracy Michael Jordan Catalano (Jordan), Sunday, 28 December 2008 01:56 (sixteen years ago)

my devirginizing was totally boring, but i did manage to devirginize a 21 year old a few weeks afterward that was a total gamer dude with one testicle. aim high, 18 year-old me.

― homosexual II, Sunday, 28 December 2008 02:02 (sixteen years ago)

loooooooool @ jordan

― choom gangsta (deej), Sunday, 28 December 2008 02:13 (sixteen years ago)

I was 19 and she was 23. I think we were listening to Original Gangster (her tape, not mine). First I went off in my hand as soon as we were both naked. She laughed it off and ten minutes later, we were doin it.

Can't remember her last name now but she'll always have a special place in my heart for doing such a good deed.

― Nate Carson, Sunday, 28 December 2008 03:00 (sixteen years ago)

i like the first reply on this thread is a frank admission of statutory rape.

― what U cry 4 (jim), Sunday, 28 December 2008 03:02 (sixteen years ago)

still depresses me every time i think of it.

― not_goodwin, Sunday, 28 December 2008 03:07 (sixteen years ago)

xpost depends on the statutes

― longwinded diatribes about the Boredoms via mental telepathy (bernard snowy), Sunday, 28 December 2008 03:38 (sixteen years ago)

true, for some reason i was reading Britisher but closer inspection leads to a "not proven" verdict.

― what U cry 4 (jim), Sunday, 28 December 2008 03:40 (sixteen years ago)

the worst part of that story is that now I'm going to permanently associate "Mad As Snow" with someone else's clumsy teenage sex

― longwinded diatribes about the Boredoms via mental telepathy (bernard snowy), Sunday, 28 December 2008 03:41 (sixteen years ago)

http://removestringfromobject.files.wordpress.com/2007/03/moon.jpg

― mose def (kenan), Sunday, 28 December 2008 04:47 (sixteen years ago)

^ estela's cervix

― mose def (kenan), Sunday, 28 December 2008 04:48 (sixteen years ago)

Think of how poor Mrs. Armstrong must feel after seeing that.

― өөө (Pleasant Plains), Sunday, 28 December 2008 05:51 (sixteen years ago)

still depresses me every time i think of it.

― not_goodwin, Sunday, 28 December 2008 04:07 (2 hours ago)

^^^^^spill!

― NI, Sunday, 28 December 2008 06:07 (sixteen years ago)

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