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me and my girlfriend are shy. She's my first girlfriend and im her first boyfriend. Sometimes when we talk we have nothing to talk about. I know i should start the conversation but nothing comes to my mind when i try to think of something. And i always say something boring or stupid. I have no experience talking to girls. What can i do so we dont have to go through this every time we talk?

― steven lazo, Saturday, 17 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

try reading to each other?

― unknown or illegal user, Saturday, 17 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

you know, like out loud, from books

― unknown or illegal user, Saturday, 17 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

you guys should have an internet relationship instead. oh sorry thats not very helpful.

― di, Saturday, 17 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

yes di that is wonderful advice

― unknown or illegal user, Saturday, 17 August 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I've heard weirder...

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Saturday, 17 August 2002 23:37 (twenty-three years ago)

Glance uncomfortably at each other every now and again. Mutter something to which when the other says "sorry, what?" you reply "oh, nothing". Grin occasionally for no good reason. After a while you will both ache. This may not be good advice, but it's easy to follow, and you can bump along for years like that.

― Matt Fallaize (Matt), Sunday, 18 August 2002 00:39 (twenty-three years ago)

get really drunk. then you won't be able to shut up. ooops that wasn't helpful either.

― di smith (lucylurex), Sunday, 18 August 2002 01:07 (twenty-three years ago)

Fear of this = one of the million reasons I don't ever ask girls out.

― Graham (graham), Sunday, 18 August 2002 01:23 (twenty-three years ago)

It gets better. I remember when I just had a crush on the person I was going to be with and we were friends and I tried to imagine just being able to hang out the whole day just sitting round in his bedroom together and not being too nervous but I couldn't.

― halo, Sunday, 18 August 2002 05:49 (twenty-three years ago)

Do stuff together and go out with her for a while so you can talk about the stuff you did and reminisce. I'm serious.

― felicity (felicity), Sunday, 18 August 2002 06:33 (twenty-three years ago)

are there any girls reading this whio wanna go on a cross country crime spree with me?

― duane, Sunday, 18 August 2002 07:52 (twenty-three years ago)

i'd prefer if we used your car tho.

― duane, Sunday, 18 August 2002 07:52 (twenty-three years ago)

Steven Lazo - this is Duane reading Richard Meltzer out loud. See how it works?

― maryann, Sunday, 18 August 2002 08:34 (twenty-three years ago)

when i broke up with [name excised] she said, "cool, i'll never have to listen to frank zappa ever again" (true!)(she's in a buddhist monastery in canada now!(that's true too!))

when i broke up with maryann she said "cool, now i'll never have to listen to anyone reading richard meltzer out loud ever again!" (not true)(& not even funny)

― duane, Sunday, 18 August 2002 08:53 (twenty-three years ago)

i think there's nothing wrong with not talking

― ron (ron), Sunday, 18 August 2002 09:27 (twenty-three years ago)

Here's some bad counsel- if you can't talk to someone there's no point being w/them. I can't imagine "going out" w/someone I wasn't at ease talking with. But yeah maybe get drunk. I don't know, all I have is conversation, maybe this "no talking" thing is something I could use. You do WANT to converse w/her, right? I seriously can't imagine going out w/someone I didn't already love talking with.

― Andrew Thames, Sunday, 18 August 2002 10:06 (twenty-three years ago)

I forgot, the internet told me I was asexual so don't listen to me as I have no comprehension of the role sex can play in a relationship.

― Andrew Thames, Sunday, 18 August 2002 10:08 (twenty-three years ago)

start a conversation with something along the lines of "gee, why do we think we have to be speaking in order to feel comfortable?"

two birds, one stone.

― g-kit, Monday, 19 August 2002 09:06 (twenty-three years ago)

three years pass...

RECALLED TO LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!

I propose that be the new thing we say when we bring a thread back to life, in honor of A Tale of Two Cities.

― Mr. Latham Green (hanle y 3000), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 21:42 (nineteen years ago)

Yes, but that way lies Custos.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 21:45 (nineteen years ago)

If this were a classic movie, someone would say, "Don't talk. Kiss her!"

― Aimless (Aimless), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 21:52 (nineteen years ago)

SMOOCH! Wipe off the spit Ned, you look wet.

Actually, my significant other and i are pretty shy. It would be nice to meet other couples to do stuff with. Is the only way to do this to go to child birthing classes?

― Mr. Latham Green (hanle y 3000), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:00 (nineteen years ago)

Only if you're having a child. Otherwise they'll just think yr weird.

― Allyzay Rofflesberger (allyzay), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:08 (nineteen years ago)

What if I say we are having a "ghost baby"?

― Mr. Latham Green (hanle y 3000), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:10 (nineteen years ago)

I would be your boring couple friend for that. But we'd have to come up with a ghost baby too, since no real ones are on their way.

You could always start a Scrabble circle, then the silence will be excused by everyone trying to anagramble up their little pews of letters and/or staring pensively at the board. Accidentally knocking tiles off the board could lead to some remarks. Maybe not interesting ones, but a respite from the silence nonetheless.

― Abbott (Abbott), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:59 (nineteen years ago)

this happened to me and the answer was a breakup.

― Maria (Maria), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 23:06 (nineteen years ago)

well silence isn't really a problem so much as getting together with people. My friends from home are the type you call and at a moments notice they will hang out with you - I guess I can't expect that from new friends.

― Mr. Latham Green (hanle y 3000), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 23:14 (nineteen years ago)

one year passes...

RECALLED TO LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!

― Latham Green, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:38 (eighteen years ago)

Aw what a sweet thread topic. I like the idea of sitting with someone and not saying anything, when you're with someone who understands that, it is awesome :)

― Trayce, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:41 (eighteen years ago)

"Get drunk" was pretty OTM.

― milo z, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:41 (eighteen years ago)

cant you just make out instead of talking?? I need to only be around very talkative people, i dont have much to say most of the time.

― homosexual II, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:52 (eighteen years ago)

how awesome is Aboott

― wanko ergo sum, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 02:35 (eighteen years ago)

I am now looking for friends to share BOGGLE times with. i still haven't had a ghost baby recalled to life.

― Abbott, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 03:45 (eighteen years ago)

You need to play scrabble with me, I get drunk and demand to know what sort of a word "zo" is five times in a row and then i drunkenly knock all the tiles everywhere and everyone hates me.

― Trayce, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 03:55 (eighteen years ago)

During get rid of last tiles end rounds, I always put down OS as a word...someone questions that it's an ABBREV., and I say it's the term for the opening of the cervix to the uterus. It's true, too, but the answer has never been questioned.

― Abbott, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 06:02 (eighteen years ago)

I think Steven and his girlfriend should try listening to Belle & Sebastian.

― Madchen, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 13:39 (eighteen years ago)

I think it's sweet how at the start of a relationship people can feel awkward about not saying enough, but after a few years together you're wishing the other person would JUST SHUT UP sometimes.

― C J, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 13:50 (eighteen years ago)

OTM.

― G00blar, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 14:23 (eighteen years ago)

I am shy myself, but I always try to talk to people. I usually talk about things that I am interested .Being interested in something just makes things a lot easier when you’re around people. For example, talking about the world and traveling would most likely lead to a discussion, because many want to experience life in other countries. You should talk about your dreams, your theories on life, your favorite type of music, your favorite type of ice-cream, how beautiful her hair looks in the sunlight, why you are so lucky to have her, and how she makes you tell yourself “I am so happy that she is mine". Being shy doesn't mean that you have nothing to talk about it just means that you more aware of your surrounds. This means that you notice things that others don't notice and that should be an advantage. You could tell her how you love her smile and how you adore the way that her cheeks turn red when you kiss them. It is okay to tell her what is on your mind every now and then. It is okay to compliment her and use your charm to make her smile. I think you should research things about the world to discuss with her, and educate yourself on countless topics such politics, religion, classic novels, and many other things. Don't ruin a good relationship because of being shy. Things can work if you take my advice to heart.

― shygirl16, Sunday, 6 May 2007 18:03 (eighteen years ago)

This thread sucks, and yesterday the subject of my post of a year ago came back and visited and it was awkward and bad.

― Maria, Sunday, 6 May 2007 18:10 (eighteen years ago)

Being in a long distance relationship makes this a lot worse. I hate speaking on the phone sometimes even though I know I love my gf and spending time with her in person.

― Ronan, Sunday, 6 May 2007 18:12 (eighteen years ago)

For example, talking about the world and traveling would most likely lead to a discussion, because many want to experience life in other countries.

oh please no. people going on and on about their travels are so awful. more often than not its like a slideshow without the slides

― ☪, Sunday, 6 May 2007 18:18 (eighteen years ago)

"Get drunk" was pretty OTM.

Yeah, I kept a doomed relationship going for ages through the power of cider.

― onimo, Sunday, 6 May 2007 19:11 (eighteen years ago)

one year passes...

man i hate a shy bitch
don't you hate a shy bitch?

― More Random Threads... (carne asada), Monday, 15 September 2008 17:48 (seventeen years ago)

shie bytch

― remy bean, Monday, 15 September 2008 17:51 (seventeen years ago)

ek, e wroth un wlonk freke verilie

― J4gger Dynamic Pentangle (Just got offed), Monday, 15 September 2008 18:41 (seventeen years ago)

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