FAILIN.GS - let ppl tell u why u suck

http://failin.gs/

this i guess is like formspring except specifically for people to tell you how horrible you are at life

idgi

was masochist.com taken

masoch.ist

ilx

web "you" point oh.

i just thought of that.

please tell me this shit isn't VC-backed

fact: if you sign up for a profile on this site, you are failing.

"I suck! Tell me how!"

lol

imagine being in high school with this shit

imagine being in high school with this shitthe internet

oh jeez, yeah 15 year old me on that thing, in full Bell Jar mode...yeah that's a great idea

e-slambook

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_CbnPHP2pJJA/SYsckn2DnnI/AAAAAAAAACI/leMcP4jfHpE/s320/burn+book.png

Can I get this on my Kindle?

this is the social networking version of a clusterfuck thread, surely

Web2.0 catches up with ILX zing culture.

srsly like

mad 16 year olds have 1k+ friends on fb

i can't even imagine

Yeah..., it's not going to be ironic 30 somethings doing this, it'll be 14 year olds...and teenagers are mean enough when you are just funny looking or unpopular....fuck, you ask them why you suck....batten down the hatches. Yuk

http://failin.gs/profile/hoos

lol that nobody giving you neg feedback kind of feels like a failing

after a couple of tentative jokey ones i got a legit character criticism! awesome, i love this.

spiral begins like this man, where's ur formspring til i balance the negs out

i dunno why any regular on ILX would need to go elsewhere for character criticsm

hahaha

i do wonder if sharing this with ilx will result in people sharing character criticisms based on my posting style rather than my irl behavior, but i guess i kinda brought that ambiguity on myself

rest assured all of the sb's i ever gave u were based on irl hoos antagonism

lol

i always have my people run a full background check before i sb anybody

and lemme tell you, you would not believe the shit some of these people are into

new thread

haha i kind of love that every time someone leaves me a comment i get an email that says 'NEW FAILING!'

do people make these for fictional characters or historical figures?

http://failin.gs/profile/hoyhoya

oh i am fuckin GOIN IN

p much made it for you, boo

totally blsnked on your last name, had to pull up facebook there

its 'hoy'

thats all i got so far tbh

think needs lj to start one for it to really work. hoos is too awesome and i'm just kinda dull.

i'd start one but the first entry would dismay me overmuch i think, also dull

haha i'm actually totally pleased i've gotten some legit harsh-truth character criticisms

sorry for the crack about yr hair hoos.

/anonymous.

lol

someone called me handsome, didn't get it.

ya that was really missing the point tbh

you are TOO HANDSOME FOR YOUR OWN GOOD

STOP NOW

BEFORE ITS TOO

LATE

you wear your handsomeness with unbecoming pride

BIG SOUL in litle body leeve u bloted; cause ulser

str8 fyre beautiful itself tbh

"tortured-drunken-writer-poet schtick wears thin" = the realest of talking, exactly why i signed up for this shit

though in support of dan's point, gr80 said the same shit to me 6 months ago

lol

NV's point ('why would any1 on ilx have to go anywhere for character criticism'), not dan's

preemptive strike: i say 'i'm not a 15 year old girl' just as a generalization for 'teenagers can be mean'

are you a Leo?

yeah I think like this sounds like the worst idea ever

absolutely xp

i think abt this a lot - more w/r/t to 'art' than on a personal level but there too - & really struggle w/ the degree to which seeking out feedback becomes its own kind of limiting narcissism

like is there a point @ which the drive for self-knowledge/self-improvement/growth impairs itself & the only real goal is to unthink & just ~be in the world~ or is this just an argument that one uses to shield oneself from the pain of personal reevaluation

can you ever know too much about yourself?

also theres the disconnection btw 'knowing something abt yourself' & having the will & the strength to change it.

I know my personality well enough to know I am basically too neurotic for anonymous & acontextual criticism – I will imagine all kinds of things into it the author probably didn't intend. Also my friends are the kind of people who will say this stuff, tactfully, to me – or at least I feel it enriches my life to maintain this illusion. Also I find it v irritating to ask for criticism & then ppl are like, 'naw u just the best' followed by a pinch of my big apple cheek. Which is totally vain to assume what would happen, sorry if it comes off as a backdoor brag, but look at ahoyhoy's.

Also I am incredibly good at self-criticism, justified or not, and don't really need to fuel my imagination there.

also theres the disconnection btw 'knowing something abt yourself' & having the will & the strength to change it.

― Lamp, Tuesday, May 17, 2011 10:19 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

This is important, I think.

Lamp, it's all about just chillin' between the tildes, isn't it?

abbs u do have awesome apple cheeks tho, be fair

Lamp, it's all about just chillin' between the tildes, isn't it?

inn lifes better moments honestly

~infinite space~

LOOOOOOL @ sarahel; I had just been thinkin after reading hoos's big explanation that he must be a Leo (I'm one too)

what in particular about leo-ness is makin yall say that?

like i know we're supposed to thrive on criticism but i'm just curious

More just seeking out feedback constantly; I do it here a lot. Actually, I've heard that Leos thrive on flattery more than criticism, but I'm willing to agree w you; flattery makes me feel a little weird...I kind of feel like criticism can be a sign of respect.

(if it's constructive, that is)

I know my personality well enough to know I am basically too neurotic for anonymous & acontextual criticism – I will imagine all kinds of things into it the author probably didn't intend. Also my friends are the kind of people who will say this stuff, tactfully, to me – or at least I feel it enriches my life to maintain this illusion. Also I find it v irritating to ask for criticism & then ppl are like, 'naw u just the best' followed by a pinch of my big apple cheek. Which is totally vain to assume what would happen, sorry if it comes off as a backdoor brag, but look at ahoyhoy's.

― Col. Pinkney Lugenbeel (Abbbottt), Wednesday, 18 May 2011 03:19 (3 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

lols. i wanted to see what ppl would say knowing that most of my friend group know i'm crazy and whether they would give proper constructive criticism. turns out that part of that is no, they won't and they just want to tell me i'm nice. the milquetoast comment is super otm though.

I find what I dont handle is getting criticism I wasnt expecting. I like to think I know my flaws so when I get called out for something I totally didnt think I did, it's a bit of a punch in the stomach :/

i tend to find the unexpected easier to work on, its the big obvious stuff that still lingers.

the problem i have with it is that it's public, which makes it really contrived. like, you're as likely to get honest answers with this as you would get natural responses from your standard social practices art project. Everyone's aware that it's an act, a performance, a forced situation.

and because it's public, it's embarrassing ... or it has that potential. It's like when someone provides "helpful advice on yr posting style" on some thread. It just comes across as condescending and makes the recipient defensive because they're put in the spotlight as "having a problem."

actually i feel like this is the least awkward (& therefore most useful) way to solicit constructive criticism

i think abt this a lot - more w/r/t to 'art' than on a personal level but there too - & really struggle w/ the degree to which seeking out feedback becomes its own kind of limiting narcissism

like is there a point @ which the drive for self-knowledge/self-improvement/growth impairs itself & the only real goal is to unthink & just ~be in the world~ or is this just an argument that one uses to shield oneself from the pain of personal reevaluation

can you ever know too much about yourself?

― Lamp, Wednesday, May 18, 2011 10:17 AM (3 hours ago) Bookmark

this is otm w/r/t art or at least photographic or at least some of the photography I look at. people are able to go out and shoot and upload pix and get thumbs up/thumbs down within an hour. it's really led to this concretization of aesthetics/stagnation in some of the kinds of photography I love.

as for opening one self to criticism, yeah idg that. normally I just try to ask myself what I admire in other people and then strive towards that.

the whole notion of constructive criticism is kinda blah to me, sometimes things are fine the way they are but people will search for meaningless stones to throw because hey you're being 'constructive'

lets all get mfas

are the people giving thumbs up/thumbs down people they know and respect or just random people?

what do you admire in other ppl, dayo?

random people who share an interest in that form of photography xp

I admire people who write well, who don't feel the need to have an opinion just to have an opinion, people who can KIP 100% of the time (because this is something I fail at), there's a long list!

hmm ... because "concretization of aesthetics/stagnation" is common in fine art when you're represented by a gallery that likes/sells certain things of yours, or if you get funded/commissioned/patronized etc.

I also have this pet theory that in general the average ILXor is somebody who was probably made to feel very self-aware when they were growing up and hence don't really need other people to point out their faults, idk

they were not otm-ed enough as kids?

they grew up in the Cape of Good Hope

an otm deficiency in the womb?

here's yr nightly otm: those last four posts are awesome!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZUb3pFdZAEw

i mean, yeah, he uses the word faggot in a pejorative sense, but i often think of the way dude says, "say it in my face," and agree with that sentiment re: this FAILIN.GS site.

^ HOLYSHIT

dodging all complexities, my life is a bullet aimed at my life, which does tend to cause a certain amount of collateral damage

dude are you high?

loling so hard @ all of u

dude are you high?

no, see, i was SO HIGH. you don't even understand.

hard truth on contenderizer's FAILIN.GS page:

"dude you become an incomprehensible mess when you're high. lay off the bong"

:(

a hilarious incomprehensible mess tho

:)

so i guess i have no more failings? and thus i am close to perfect. i will smoke a joint and watch gilmore girls in celebration.

brb

hoos my criticism to you is that you are not a good influence on those around you; your quest for honest criticism has become an excuse for good posters like contendo & a hoy hoy to blaze up...!

(on marijuana!)

(!!!)

*spits dr pepper all over keyboard*

hey just fwiw guys i'm not gonna be publicly putting up & categorizing any specifically ilx-related criticisms--i was hoping to keep the focus on irl as i think when it comes to my ilx persona i've got a pretty good sense of what the flaws etc are--but i am seeing & noting them.