going out for a drink with co-workers

I'd rather not- any reason to?

you can drink and talk to ppl in an environment in which yr co-workers don't necessarily feel reigned in by constrictures of professionalism or whatever. wait why is this even a question? anytime i've ever done this it's been awesome, including when i worked at a church and this pastor bought me beers. and dispensed life wisdom, free of charge...

I do this all the time. At least one I now consider a friend, more so now he works somewhere else!

generally awesome and I've become friends with cool ppl at work bc of this. beware the potential dud tho when the kinda eccentric guy you work with gets drunk and corners you in the bar to first tell you his long boring where-he-was 9/11 story and then to berate you for some minor irrelevant shit.

I feel very wary of this - I don't think it will go well at all.

is everyone you work with an asshole?

are you an asshole?

if neither of those are true it will be fine.

do you work in the insurance industry? do you work for domino's pizza? do you work for the govt.? y'know, in all honesty, i can't imagine it not being good.

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Well I don,t really drink first of all, second of all the coworkers all seem like they hate each other so I'm not sure why they are agreeing to this at all anyway, and I don't eat gluten so I can bascially go there and have a salad as the rest get drunk

you know i just wouldn't even leave the house if i were you

i hope you can find a solution to this mike

sometimes it's a good way to make co-workers seem like actual human beanz tho

I actually think I have a solution for you Latham, tho ymmv esp if your company drug tests. I recommend some THC. No gluten issues, you don't have to drink, it'll inebriate you enough that you won't feel totally left out of the drinking and it'll ease up on your (pretty self-evident, I'd say, tho forgive me if I'm reading too much into it) social anxieties enough that you might enjoy yourself.

this isn't exactly like deciding whether or not to start a nuclear war -- you go to a bar for a few hours & if it sucks, it sucks & if it doesn't, it doesn't

mordy you realise that smoking weed could amplify those 'social anxieties'

"don't drink? just smoke weed!" is pretty "..."

jeezus crhist, go to applebees or uk equivalent or where ever the fuck you are world will not stop turning nor will you get fired if you drink 20 oz of ice cold lager and make a rude joke at the expense of ~x~ category of ppl. also, start eating real food, you munch

maybe a little harsh

don't see why it's "..." - except for legality factor it's pretty much better choice in every way imho.

well as just sayin is alluding to, the effects are often very different

depending on the person

true, obv i wasn't accounting for a novice. i think it's much better for social lubrication tho if you're a habitual smoker.

and a good alternative option if you're not a drinker

hey, i'm just trying to help!

Many people, myself included, get quite paranoid on weed.

definitely betraying my biases here but my experience with ppl who get paranoid weed is that they haven't smoked enough and in the right setting, w/ the right ppl, after a few times, i've never met someone for whom it didn't start being enjoyable. oh, but look, this thread is now totally derailed. happy to continue conversation in other thread tho...

i've smoked a lot of weed man and i don't think that's the ish really.

but back on topic, it's going out for a drink, after the first 3 or 4 it will be classic even if yr co-workers are complete idiots. especially if yr co-workers are complete idiots.

another idea: bring a non-work friend so if your colleagues are just too much you can kinda retreat with someone u already know and like

that's a better idea

Every time I have gone for drinks with my coworkers, the only topic of conversation was work. So if you like complaining outside of work about work with people at your work, and you like the environment of a bar, it can be fun. Perhaps you can guess I am not the #1 fan of this. However, I think it is one of those things you have to do at least once or twice if you are at a place for a while, to increase your perceived solidarity with your peers.

Though one time one of my coworkers gave me a piggyback ride home from the bar <3

in one of my old jobs we had two of the most epic Christmas parties of all time, which mutated into pub crawls and wanton destruction of livers and professional boundaries

Also here is a list of gluten free drinx, from the world's most reliable resource, the internet.

Go one time to find out whether or not they're going to be no-fun. If you're not willing to give it at least one shot, then you're the one who's no-fun. (No shame in that, I guess, just be realistic.)

i guess it truly says something about the collective psyche of ilx if such an innocent question is immediately met with life advice to become a habitual cannabis user/semi-alcoholic or applebee's enthusiast. just sayin'...

we're all trying to not be internet shut-ins, together

my non-imaginary friends

Sex with colleagues is awesome btw

anybody's colleagues

well I went and I had - a salad and some coffee! It was cheerfully boring. we all sat and watched women's softball on TV. I think I did see a pimp and prosty though which was interesting. Overall it was - a salady time.

we all sat and watched women's softball on TV.

wait waht -- these things are aired?

I was gonna say go as you'd probably have a salady time!

prosty

I'm a heavy drinker but it still disappoints me that the default social attitude with most people is "come on, you can have one or two beers whats the matter with you?". Like, no. Not everyone can, be it by choice, or by circumstance. The pressure to drink because "what areya a shut in/poof" is so fucking ingrained in my country it hurts my head.

sometimes it's a good way to make co-workers seem like actual human beanz tho

As though this is a thing anyone should want.

I twas college women's softball
http://www.mutigers.com/sports/w-softbl/miss-w-softbl-body.html

pretty sexy really - tight pants are bette r on women relly

hmmm

I love it. I take any opportunity to do so.

I don't tend to because I'm very unlike most of the people who work in my office/department, who are usually 10-20 years older than me, married w/ kids, and have stickers like "If anything can go well, it will" on their desks.

Like anytime I go out with em I just sit quietly and have an ok time but we're from different worlds. I do have a very close friend that's a co-worker though, and we hang out quite a bit.

When I worked in a restaurant, it was a different, cuz everyone was a degenerate, you could all smoke weed together, and plus Hell, after a loooooooooooooooooong brutal shift where you all busted your ass, it was fun to pound a few back afterwards.

I've just been informed today that I am being given a raise because I can party down so well

There was this one time I did this, and had drinks, after recently losing some weight. I fell off a barstool and forgot where I lived. It was fun but unfortunate.

is everyone you work with an asshole?

are you an asshole?

if neither of those are true it will be fine.

― call all destroyer, Monday, May 30, 2011 12:08 PM

*like*

"what areya a shut in/poof"

obligatory "what is a shut poof, haha" terribad joke goes here

I think I'm a preist.

I am glad it went okay but I would gone against the grain and said, NO, no reason to, really.
I don't think you are at one of those jobs where it's important to network/schmooze etc to show you're a "team player" so you can "get ahead", right?
So there's no reason to subject yourself.

yes but the networking is best done through our chat client that we use here

I guess it's nice to try something new once in a while but for the most part you'd probably be happier to be at home.

never been with these folks here, would like to at some point.

you would probably fall asleep - I am pretty sedating- especially if I should talk

I'm a heavy drinker but it still disappoints me that the default social attitude with most people is "come on, you can have one or two beers whats the matter with you?". Like, no. Not everyone can, be it by choice, or by circumstance. The pressure to drink because "what areya a shut in/poof" is so fucking ingrained in my country it hurts my head.

When I was in my early twenties, everyone I knew was *relieved* to find out that I didn't drink. Go figure.

Just started at a law firm, haven't had a night out yet. Can't tell what people are like yet as everyone's busy working. The only conversations I've heard so far are food, shoes and work from the women and football, cricket and work from the men. Am dreading a bunch of solicitors saying "it's your round".

People in work != people out of work. Even the most annoying people in work are, I find, just like, normal outside of work, especially once after a pint or two. Getting drunk with someone and going off on adventures is one of humanity's oldest ways of getting to know someone, and it works. Of course, if you don't drink at all/much then ymmv, but then you'll just need less booze to act as the social lubricant.

(I do drink now, incidentally.)

you should stop - it sucks

I am doing this tonight at a beer garden, post-work. My co-workers are pretty cool to go for a few pints with, guess I'm lucky. There are very few who discuss work, and if they do they are met with derision from the majority and stop.

I dont knwo that I have ever worked with people I would want to recreate with. thats why I come here I guess. I love you all

I end up getting bored/not feeling like I ought to be there when I go out with co-workers. I like them well enough, but I never chose these people as friends. I end up getting so bored and unable to think of charming/witty/interesting things to say, so I just make bullshit up about how an ex-coworker killed a swan in front of me one lunchtime before he went travelling, or how I have a birthmark on my chest shaped exactly like Richard Branson's upper arm. The fact they tend to believe me is the most worrying part.

the best thing to do is just talk about sex non stop. If they object just say "Sit your ass down - we ain't at work no more!"

or how I have a birthmark on my chest shaped exactly like Richard Branson's upper arm.

No one's asked you to pull up your shirt so they could see it?

Yeah, but I told them I was embarrassed and would show them once I've been to the gym and lost a bit of weight.

you should have told them your anus was shaped like CHarles Bronson

I just saw another email declaring there will be another outing

“gfy”

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