High school reunion

Let's talk about this. I need to decide whether or not I'm going to go.

Good times? Bad times? Help.

i think i have to go.

A friend of mine did this recently and found it jarring when some people had no memory of him.

have no interest in seeing any of those people until I've lived long enough to spit on their graves

10-year was last year.
Went to the party the night before because a friend made me, wound up finding out a lot of the people I actually liked in school showed up, drank a lot (slept through booty call at 4am), got talked into going to the actual reunion the next night - wound up shitfaced sleeping next to an infinity pool on the roof of a douchey hotel.
Ended up reconnecting with a few people who are among my closest friends now, including my roommate.

Wanted to go to my 20th but I dont think anyone organised one. Or if they did, they werent able to get in touch with me (I live in a diff state now). Oh well, only wanted to show everyone up anyway, provincial gits.

Cgaf. 'oh hey x got really fat. Oh y died' that's about as interesting as I see it being.

reunion committee gave out door prizes for bullshit like having the most kids or most time at one job - my friends and I wanted awards for making it ten years without settling down or popping out babies

lord give me courage

i am totes touching up my hair and getting a facial before

I've only made it to one high school and one college reunion, but both were a ton of fun. jjj was livetexting me from our last reunion and sending me straight up hilarious pics; I know we all are lol old now but MAN some ppl in my class GALLOPED into middle age

it's weird to see facebook pics from dudes i knew from class and they look like decrepit retirees and they're like 35 yrs old.

'oh hey x got really fat. Oh y died' that's about as interesting as I see it being.

Yeah, my class has a website and facebook page, and that's about as much as I need to interract with them with to feel caught up. I did look at some pictures from the 30th one a few years ago, and thought "damn those people are old," but then I catch a reflection of myself now and then and do a little inner wince.

I feel like all the people I would actually want to see again are the kind of people who don't go to reunions and/or are dead.

Plus a lot of my hs friends were in a year above or below me, only three or four in my actual graduating year.

I feel like all the people I would actually want to see again are the kind of people who don't go to reunions and/or are dead.

never been remotely tempted by a high school reunion but this past september i attended a reunion of my AAU swimming team and it was a BLAST. i swam ages 12-17, spent so much time with team mates between 2x daily practices, meets, taking trips etc. we were even closer than class mates in many respects. reunion turnout was good, everybody there seem well-preserved, especially the women, so at least there was some long-term benefit to being a jock. enough time has passed that everybody has made peace w/whatever happened or didn't in their athletic career, so we spent equal time reminiscing and catching up on what we've done since. i talked so much i lost my voice the next day! the only catch here is that i'm older than most ilxors, what made this swim reunion so great was the timing, we're all in our fifties or late forties now and able to look back with some perspective. twenty or even ten years ago i wouldn't have even considered attending.

so i would say go if you're at all inclined and know some friends are going to be there.

have no interest in seeing any of those people until I've lived long enough to spit on their graves

― The Uncanny Frankie Valley (Shakey Mo Collier), Tuesday, November 8, 2011 11:38 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

OTM. Fuck a reunion. Call me again when we're all sixty or something.

love reunions, high school, college, show me a reunion and im there

I feel like Max and I are on the same wavelength with reunions and weddings.

my 10 year just reminded me that all my friends either went to the other two high schools in town, or were a year older/ younger. i saw like 3 people i was excited to see.

i think my class and the one ahead of me are working out a combined 20 year. that might be ok.

I went to my 20 year in 2007 and it was pretty meh overall. Nice to see a few people, otherwise I needn't have bothered. My 25 year will be next year, and most of my former friends are either dead or turned into right wing fucktards, so I doubt I'll bother.

I guess the one bummer about the three reunions I've attended (one high school and two college) is that most of my close friends haven't shown up, and the attendees have generally skewed toward the slightly bland people who still live in the area. But that doesn't mean they're not perfectly decent folks to get drunk with, or to reminisce with in a general way. And it's nice to get out of your old cliques, anyway.

yes jaymc! totally!

i might have to take like 3 tranquilizers to get thru this event

All of y'all should see Beatiful Girls

xp

i wound up drinking only two glasses of wine all night and i regularly get half-blasted just to make it thru family gatherings etc

my 2 or 3 best friends of the time didn't come to the reunion but i wound up "bonding" w/people i didn't know as well

got a bland "hi" & blank expression from one woman like she didn't remember me and i thought "but we made out once in 1974!"

o god

All of y'all should see Beatiful Girls

if the Afghan Whigs will be playing, I'll go to anyone's reunion

I cant at all fathom the idea of finding a joy in school reunions. I guess people who do must have had loads of friends in HS who they all miss/would love to catch up with.

I had 3 friends, 2 of which I had a massive falling out with, and everyone else hated me (or I hated/did not get on with them). Many would likely not even remember who i was, much less care. They were boring, horrible people.

there are going to be a lot of girls at my reunion i think

going to a high school reunion seems sort of redundant to me since i'm still relatively close with all of my high school friends. it also seems doubtful that the school i graduated from would even have a reunion—it was a drop-out recovery school with only about 200 students, we never had a yearbook, and everyone voted to have a barbecue instead of a prom.

plus high school wasn't particularly traumatic for me, so i don't really need some kind of romy and michelle-style catharsis

The school reunion people seem to have given up on me--I haven't gotten a mailing from them in ten years.

(Infamous Englewood, Florida High School, '89.)

High school was particularly traumatic for me but I got the romy and michelle-style catharsis when ppl started friending me up on myspace/facebook which is probably a good thing since I went to an all-girls private school and didn't really have a typical reunion that I know of.

I probably would have gone if we had one though if only for shits and giggles.

All of y'all should see Beatiful Girls

if the Afghan Whigs will be playing, I'll go to anyone's reunion

All of y'all should see Something Wild
if the Feelies will be playing, I'll go to anyone's reunion

Beautiful Girls is the best btw.

I skipped my 5 year, dunno about 10 year. there are maybe like 5 people I would want to see, tops. otherwise I feel like it would just be like a lot of fake bonhomie with people I never knew too well.

I was in all-day special ed, so I can guarantee you that no one who would be there would recognize me.

think it is sensible to not go to these so that people assume you have something better going on, cultivate both mystique & create an impression of having ascended somehow, like an aloof fuck you, then also you can just read about it on facebook in your basement apartment at three am afterwards

I cant at all fathom the idea of finding a joy in school reunions. I guess people who do must have had loads of friends in HS who they all miss/would love to catch up with.

not even! the fun of going to reunions is running into all the ppl who you dont miss/havent thought about/never were friends with and seeing how theyve changed. a lot of people that were awful in high school grow up a lot afterward and turn out to be pretty cool

did you run into any ex girlfriends at yours max?

Went to 15th, was nice. cbf with 20th. Those people aren't in my life for a reason.

have skipped all mine, no regrets

a lot of people that were awful in high school grow up a lot afterward and turn out to be pretty cool

I like that attitude, thats cool :)

Just found out the bastard who bullied me incessantly in high school is dead. Am trying to find out the details.

did you run into any ex girlfriends at yours max?

― surm, Tuesday, November 8, 2011 9:51 PM (37 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

i didnt exactly have many hs girlfriends. i did run into a girl who was a year ahead of me and whom i had a crush on at the time, though, and was kind of surprised to discover how much she looks like my gf

a lot of people that were awful in high school grow up a lot afterward and turn out to be pretty cool

This, also some people who actively bullied me were thrilled to see me and engaged in normal conversation. The only really unlikeable people were the Toorak fops who got law/medical degrees and formed their own exclusive old-money club in the corner.

Oh, there was one guy who in hs was just awful and apparently kept a collection of his own snot on the back of his bedroom door. At age 33 he was literally no different, going so far as to dickhead up the post-reunion drinks with smarmy comments and a creepy lack of personal space.

Other "cons":
– High school/hometown over 1,200 miles away (really the main reason I haven't gone)
– I went to 4 dift high schools (one only for a week so that barely counts), obv I would go to reunion of one I graduated from but I would like to see a few people from each, it's weird how fragmented my life was back then when I think about it

Other "pros":
– Would be nice to apologize to some people
– Would be cool to see who else quit being Mormon

I would defs go to a reunion of my grad program in 5-10 years if/when one happens though, no matter the travel expense, they are all The Best and it's small enough I know everyone.

a lot of people that were awful in high school grow up a lot afterward and turn out to be pretty cool

yeah but now i can use facebook to find out, e.g., that the token super-conservative from my first high school is now a liberal who supports occupy wall street—i still wouldn't really want to talk to her

i just feel like, am i going to be a basketcase - i mean i got nervous today talking to this guy i really like

and that's just one guy

:| ...

Went to my 30th in July -- not traumatic or anything, but nowhere near fun enough to ever do again.

here's the thing. i am doing thanksgiving at my boyfriend's which is roughly 3 hours away from the reunion (like 3 trains). and the reunion is the day after thanksgiving.

so it's like do i make all the effort to get there? it's one thing when you're going WITH people.

i feel like i will soooo not want to move the morning after thanksgiving, let alone take 3 trains.

solve my life, please. thanks!

i am just going to send in the check, and whatever happens happens

I only ever went to my 20th. I'm not sure my classmates ever got organized enough to do more than that one anyway. My graduating class was ~500 kids.

Holy shit! Next year would be my 40th reunion! If anyone cares enough to make it happen, that is.

u could do it

u could Be That Person

not on your life

My 20th is set for September. I just looked at the facebook page for it and found out they don't even have my correct name on the student list, so wtf. I'm still in touch with most of the people from high school I want to be in touch with anyway, so I don't have a burning desire to go back and socialize with people I've forgotten. (Was sad to find out that at least three people had died—one of whom was murdered.)

god help me ive been thinking about my 10th hs reunion coming this year A LOT more than i thought i would. i think it would be a genuine surprise for me since ive been off facebook for a few years and legit lost touch with nearly everyone i went to hs with (graduating class of~700).

or maybe i am a glutton for punishment.

w/e i have cute baby *middle fingers to the sky*