poster name ettiquette

How do you guys know when a poster changes names?

It really depends on the people involved; some people like being called by their real names and some don't.

I'll be honest, every few months I'll drop my first name out there in the hopes that someone will start using it in familiarity.

how's that going, mr. ville?

My stance falls between "it really depends" and "less confusing not to".

It really depends on the people involved; some people like being called by their real names and some don't.

yeah. also, feel weird calling posters by names i've figured out from lurking, Dan

xxp It's sorta depressing. : )

depends on the posters really. first names seem ok if they've been used on-board in the past unless somebody expressly says no. using irl names if posters never ever use them on-board seems somewhere between cliquish and dickish tbh.

i don't want anyone to refer to me by my real name anymore. just my dn. good luck.

I can see how some might find it a little cliquish but otoh, I really can't expect DJP and jjusten, for example, to refer to each other by forum names all the time

Richard OTM

also depends on the log-in name, cos tbh addressing "somebody" as "for example" DJP feels kinda prickly and odd in itself

My names is generic enough that it's not easily searchable but I use it here in the hope that it will discourage me from saying anything I wouldn't say irl, maybe even at work.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TrPCWfB-Jdo

this is why I only ever refer to other people as 'buford'

It really depends on the people involved; some people like being called by their real names and some don't.

this.

it varies going the other way too - like i'd feel pretty odd calling j0rdan or rev or other people i interact with regularly by whatever nonsense they have as a screen name that day, so i stick with those.

i'd actually rather people call me by my actual name if they know me! yeah i know it IS my name but tbh i kinda dislike being referred to as "the lex" still after all these years - i never even wanted the definite article in the first place, and it's kind of like, i'd rather be referred to as a person rather than a screen name

Oh man, I never bother with display names (unless they're used permanently), but user names are my default even if I know someone well.

I lost my answer there due to ineptitude, but was almost identical to Noodle Vague's re. whether the poster has used it themselves and hasn't explicitly said not to since then.

Like, I know NV's first name but would never use it on here.

jaymc used my real name the other day while drunkposting and it made me feel good actually

facebook has sorta 'changed the rules' about how people use their real names on the internet, tho as far as msg boards go ilx always seemed to have an unusually high rate of people using their real name. I sorta woulda preferred going by my real first name a la max/laurel but it wasn't possible.

my user name/internet name more or less came about because i had no desire to be googleable for posterity, especially when i used to blog about personal life + work + things i wdn't necessarily want my fam to be intimately acquainted with.

first names bother me a little less and there's a pretty easy paper trail to find mine but y'know, i like noodle as a name :D

facebook has sorta 'changed the rules' about how people use their real names on the internet

yeah it's funny - when i first got on the internet the default rule was to preserve your anonymity - for your own safety! don't tell people your password or credit card number or real name - and the knowledge that no one knew who you were is how you could build up a level of trust online. now it's totally flipped - i find that i treat people with suspicion unless i know who they are (not nec their government identity, but a consistent online identity ideally vouched for by other people i know)

i think of a lot of you by your dotted quad

the answer to pretty much any question usually ends up being "it depends"

xtian name username is always classy

quiet buford

geoff iatee

I just memorise the 32 bit string.

barry dayo

the answer to pretty much any question usually ends up being "it depends"

depends on the question

the answer to pretty much any question usually ends up being "depends"

What does 90 year old pussy smell like?

omg

I'm really loathe to post in this thread, even tho there is stuff I'd kinda like to say/explain. But posts like MW just made (and yes I know you're joking) just make it an even more uncomfortable environment to do so.

(and no doubt I will probably be castigated for even expressing that I feel that discomfort - I'm sorry for saying this, but I do)

For me, I find it tricky in those cases where posters' previous usernames were their real names (e.g. stevem, ronan), but who now go under a different name. If you're used to calling someone their real name it seems weird to suddenly stop. But then they might have changed their username precisely because they don't want their real name to be used online any more. But then it seems 90% of posters still know who these people are.

I voted "DN - less confusing" bcuz I often get confused.

I never ever used to use my real name on the Internet - for safety reasons but also using a gender neutral name to avoid the more distasteful aspects. Even on ILX I initially used a pseudonym. The only reason I ever started using my IRL name was because ILX was at that point a community of a few dozen posters, most of whom I had met either in London or on tour. It's something I completely regret, and if I'd had the faintest inkling of how it would turn out, I never would have done. Once you let a genie out of a bottle you can never put it back in, even if this exposes you to difficulties, legal, social or otherwise. (as I've learned to my peril recently)

I think the default option should not to call ppl by their real name unless they have given you, personally, the go-ahead to use it. Because even if someone might be OK with ppl they know IRL, it's still weird + disorienting when someone you've never even heard of starts taking that familiarity.

But mostly I go for the less confusing option bcz I see people referencing real names in threads (like maybe they've said on 77 or a local thread?) and I've absolutely no idea who is being spoken to/of.

I think this is a very legitimate question, of course, but I have become so confused about who various posters really are, that I try to just refer to whatever forum name they're using and address the content of their post. In many cases the forum name they're using is a new name for a prior forum name they used and I never really knew their real name, anyway, or I've lost track of what it was.

I could care less.

;)

imo if you let members a community of strangers on the internet find out your real name the ball is no longer in your court

I know ENBB's name but I refer to ENBB 'cause I've never used the real name (that I recall) irl and it would sound presumptious somehow.

I don't have a problem with it, but sometimes it is confusing to me.

I am glad you chose to post on this thread, White Chocolate Cheesecake! (Do you mind if I call you WCC for short?)

I do think that for many, there is a level of comfort/familiarity where it starts feeling weird to NOT call ppl by their real names (I mean ffs this August the OG ILX cru will have been here for ELEVEN YEARS), but OTOH I do feel that, in most cases, it just makes more sense to refer to people by their screen/display names. It's less confusing in the long run.

I mean, I've known jjjusten since 1986 and I believe that since his name change I've referred to him as "jjjusten" or "jjj" approximately 90% of the time. It doesn't feel weird at all to me because that's the name he chose for here. For me, I want to call a person by the name they chose to use; I have the impression that I rarely, if ever, refer to people by their actual names unless:

- I've known them for a very long time
- They've told me they're okay with it
- They have come up in a conversation and I am using the government name to maintain consistency

If someone tells me they don't want me to use their real name, I'm not going to. It just seems dickish to do otherwise. It also seems presumptuous to default to someone's real name to me because I always assume that they've chosen their display name for a reason and it's not up to me to second-guess them.

What's weird is when you meet a poster but you still think of their forum name as their 'real' name. I still think of Ned as Ned even though I've met him several times.

jesus christ 1986

its confusing but i support the confusion

hahaha carry on i just had a moment xpost

dude, we have known each other for longer than some posters on this board have been ALIVE

chew on that for a while

I was born in 1986

you really have been the best dad a boy could hope for xpost

"aldrich in baltimore" just didn't have the same ring to it

I refer to people by their user names. I assume at least some people here know my actual name but no one's ever addressed me with it iirc

Well thats just blatantly untrue Lord Abercrombie Heathcliffe Willowsbye III.

What if someone googles your nameand it finds your post where you said "clits is nice"

Then they'd be all I need to get to know this stud.

Hey Lex I'm p sure I have never really 'interacted' with you on ILX but I met you irl one time years ago, very briefly, before I ever really posted on ILX. Dunno if that's weird.

!!

i don't think that's weird per se but i would like to know, um, where? and who?

(you can webmail if you want)

Oh and since we're talking about names and confusion, are the two posters with "Autumn Almanac" in their names (one dn, one user name) the same person?

― gonna give her the old fuquay-varina (Jenny), Saturday, 4 February 2012 03:40 (4 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

same guy but he has 2 usernames. one at work comp one at home i think

― Armand Schaubroeck Ratfucker, Saturday, 4 February 2012 03:41 (4 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Yeah. Reasons I made the other account are

1. This acct's email address has been dead for years, admins can't get me through it etc
2. Wanted to log in from a work PC without giving my workplace access to 77 (100% out of respect for 77 users)

What I SHOULD have done is given the other account a better name, but I didn't, and now I'm stuck with it, and it probably looks like a sock, and I don't do socks, and I don't even want to be perceived as the type of person who does socks. Cock-up is where I'm going with this.

I could make a third ilx acct but I really, really don't want to shit up ilx with fake email addresses because that would fail to address point 1 above.

I once made an acct user called " in yr wardrobe" to make a one off Genesis joek then forgot all about it, I wonder if it got purged?

And I'm back

is there a thread where people can go and announce to the hivemind who they are now that they're using a different username?

ILX2 NEW USERNAME TRANSLATOR COMPENDIUM

being in the ANSDFanMRPDNM board doesn't help though

oh.
well.
The thread where people can go and announce to the hivemind who they are now that they're using a different username

<3

I have to admit I am uncomfortable with people assuming familiarity with anyone on any forum unless it is clear that they are "friends" - either online as professional collaborators or regular contacts, or as real offline friends.

BH Ideas

xp yeah, that's one step away from asking for an autograph imo

Automatic thread bump. This poll is closing tomorrow.

I guess I just still don't understand that mentality - it's just so childish, so petty - of ppl who are so desperate for, I dunno, beef? attention? drama? That they gotta go running for a meta thread every time they see a poster do something. There's a real air of "ooh mummy, I smell ~drama~!!!" about it that's kind of pathetic in an adult. Like I said before, if your life is so dull you find my actions that interesting, I actually feel quite sorry for you.

^^still talking about how she hates talking about it

Yes I'm an idiot that I take the bait every damn time. But who's the asshole, the idiot who takes the bait or the person that views shit-stirring as entertaining LOLs?

Yeah, it'll end in tears. I shouldn't have said anything, mea culpa.

*stirs shit*

Whites a Minority?

^^^loooool imagine if that w4lter poster were a gershy post

w4lter

http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y115/kitbrash/wilted.jpg

lol lol

yo whats w/ the book next to that that appears to have barack and michelle standing on the white house lawn in swimwear?

are those paperdolls?

i hope the poll results are a landslide win for "it depends" because c'mon some posters have unwillingly had their real names dragged onto the board while others posted under it for YEARS AND YEARS AND YEARS and then acted like they could put that genie back in the bottle

if you be my bodyguard i will be your long lost pal

Automatic thread bump. This poll's results are now in.

top 3 all basically otm

Heavily populated poll, this!

yo whats w/ the book next to that that appears to have barack and michelle standing on the white house lawn in swimwear?

blame estela for covering it up, but yeah I'm 90% sure it's paper dolls

yep

jealous of sic for kickin it w estela irl

"kickin it w/sic" should be a tv show

they could be in a band called estelica

What's weird is when you meet a poster but you still think of their forum name as their 'real' name. I still think of Ned as Ned even though I've met him several times.
It'll sink in one day.

― Ned Raggett, Thursday, 2 February 2012 19:19 (2 years ago)

Ned isnt Ned?!

confusing post

Ned = Ned is our new Objectivist credo.

néd est un autre

this is reminding me that frequently there are people i follow on tumblr who mention ILX and i realize i have no idea who they are on here and might have two entirely different opinions about the same person

― rob, Thursday, 2 February 2012 19:59 (2 years ago) Bookmark

also this. can we do a non-judgemental "am I friends with u on Feb cos idk it if we are" kinda thread

You're friends with me d

well duh tbf

hmm wait I am not good at this

I once made an acct user called " in yr wardrobe" to make a one off Genesis joek then forgot all about it, I wonder if it got purged?

― thanks to denial, I'm immortal! (Trayce), Saturday, 4 February 2012 08:36 (2 years ago)

I have no recollection now of doing this, haha.