why are we all so sad?

I'm sure such discussions have always been a part of life.

only Laetitia & Tim know for sure. ;)

and can we eat them? ARF ARF!

Petra jane yes you can eat these things my son and i found them last week in the frozen food department in Morrisons I belive you can get the orange tomatoe ketchup there aswell Although I didn't buy any they looked disgusting

omgosh

Regrets for mistakes made, people lost, brevity and uncertainty of life, concern for loved ones, inarticulateness and failure to connect in everyday situations, aspirations slipping away, haunting memories

of course, you

i'd say that's pretty fair, as an assessment

no beer

yeah, that sucks, too.

i'm goin to the store, u want anything?

Habit.

ouch

Is why I'm sad, not that I want a pint of it from the store.

Gotcha

Regrets for mistakes made, people lost, brevity and uncertainty of life, concern for loved ones, inarticulateness and failure to connect in everyday situations, aspirations slipping away, haunting memories

damn son OTM

Pets lost, too.

:(

aw geez

saw a skinny kitten

kid only had one shoe on

uncles be having strokes :/

Oh no, none of my current pets died, it's just a sadness that is real and raw when it happens.

Man I confuse people.

why is there glass everywhere, all over the sidewalk all the time?

naw I figured that's what you meant, it's just ;_;

E___ doesn't treat L______ very well at all

xxpost monkey bottle fights

listless

Earth doesn't treat Lesbians very well?

no one looks the guys at jiffy lube in the eye

51,000 dead in china

Earth doesn't treat Lesbians very well?

http://forosabiertos.com/album/data/526/jesus_christ_vampire_hunter.gif

The basic premise is that in Ottawa, vampires are hunting lesbians for a nefarious scheme. The Church doesn't know what to do, so they go to Jesus, who has been living in seclusion, saving souls and baptizing people. With his trusty cohorts Mary Magnum and the retired Mexican Wrestling Federation champion El Santos, Jesus does battle with the forces of darkness.

jennifer hangs out in front of the bar all the time and once she lay down in the middle of Van Buren and tried to get hit by a bus. now she mostly just picks up the cigarette butts and smokes crack in the alley

I AM GIVING SERIOUS REASONS FOR DAY TO DAY SADNESS, YOU JERKS

i have seen that, it's not nearly as awesome as it sounds.

xp

lesbians do okay

My dog eats young doves who have not yet mastered flying.

A woman in the park would not let her crying daughter, who was wearing mismatched shoes, go home to use their bathroom.

The girl held her crotch and rocked back and forth as she cried.

They always play "Fast Car" on the radio when I drove home, alone, at night, and the moon is no comfort.

I was born with a sad heart.

You're driving thru 1985, apparently. (xp)

The victims' assistance clinic I went to had 'Finding Nemo' decorations on the wall and stuffed toys for the children to take home after being examined and swabbed.

My town is stuck in 1985.

pfft u got lucky

;]

you ALMOST made me sad about not being awesome at scramble/wordtwist

awwww sorry. you beat me and I played texttwist on yahoo for like 2 years straight so you're probably pretty damn fine at it!

:D ok we can be friends again

I feel a big post coming on...

I had to pull over while listening to an NPR report from China - it was "live" - not timely, but live from the place - and it was this tiny microcosm of grief that really just broke my heart.
I had to pull over to cry.
I think we are all so sad, not so much about how ilx has changed, but how the world has changed.

It's important to see all the trajectories. Also, I am so sad.

i miss jolene beevers so goddam much

They gave Plague Dogs a MUCH SADDER ending than the book.

Really? Oof. I think I'm glad I've not seen the film, then, the book was harsh enough.

every time...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_m4dAB7o2Cc&feature=related

FACT: it is impossible to be sad when listening to "Superstition" turned up to neighbor-complaining volumes

milo speaks the truth. And for an extra shot of happiness, try the Sesame Street version:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ul7X5js1vE [not a rickroll]

Check the kid going nutso on the fire escape steps.

That's also sad. Don't try to break me from my sadness!

Ok, go ahead...

we're born dead

Oh come on. How about this lounge version of Cannibal Corpse - doesn't it make you smile a little..?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fc-V3NYckOI

That's not sad!
We are imperfect for this planet. That's sad.

I am very sad because I cannot spend the rest of my life having this Cannibal Corpse cheer me up.
Since it isn't downloading.

Hey aimurchie you have made me feel much better at important times. Please note that you have done good in relieving this world's sometimes asphyxiating sadness.

I guess realizing I've spent my entire life inside my head, memories are more of design and colors and sounds than things like birthdays or parties or whatever the fuck people reminisce about; growing up and finding life doesn't match some weird imaginary ideal. Also having your ambitions castrated by being unable to break the clubby inner-network that dominates in certain areas. When you look at your own life and it feels a fake life compared to everyone else's ... where they have pictures of their close friends and loved ones and tears and shit, your only loved ones left are a continually disappearing family, and memories of the past become some precious commodity that becomes fuzzier everyday and the possibility of a Normal Life(TM)(R) less and less possible as you get older.

Maybe life was easier when there was more structure: school, job, marriage, kids. Easy peasey.

Thanks Abbott.
i'm with you, burt stanton.
it's really hard to argue for or against that structure. I feel like you have opened up this thread, but i need to take about two minutes to actualyy post and refresh so...

I guess I feel like there are so many degrees and levels of malaise, and I HAPPEN to be able to pull myself up by the bootstraps (with some help) or lots of help?
I'm fortunate to have a family that is only sometimes a destructive force in my life. I'm fortunate to have a past that is sometimes pertinent to the person I strive to be.
I didn't get to choose, so I have to work with what I have.
I have a long and complicated story, and sometimes I feel like I hide the details. And I KNOW that I repeat some dramas for my own satisfaction.
Being sad is....something I have to acknowledge. I'm proud that I don't accept the world as it is. However, I envy people who seem to walk around as if they own the place!
(This is why I am obsessed with my cats. I want my life to be a simple negotiation between the tires for the crunchies -food. And lots of sleeping on and around large mammals.)

If I wasn't sad I wouldn't be alive. Unfortunately I happen to be a little bit more sad than your average person.
Fortunately, I am often very, very funny. I see the humor in everything.
Except when I'm crying.
does that make sense?

Things that help me break out of the sadness: thinking about my wife's funny sleeptalking (thanks Ruby), the sun, the imminent weekend, records produced by Lee Perry, not listening to Democracy Now or BBC World News.

I don't want to die, but I will die, probably a messy death where I break my hip when I'm old or have a stroke and then have to spend the rest of my days incontinent in some shitty nursing home or something. Also, everyone I know will die, including my son, and there will eventually be a time when there is not one single person left alive who knew me. [/sad thought]

Hurts,

Don't stress about law school. Worst thing you can do with it. It, like life, is best taken with your head up, looking forward, but going one step at a time.

i'm going home to see my fam for a few days before i move to the US and there's a high probability for it being the last time i see my nana.

Weird really, seeing as I haven't seen my own nana (father's side) for about 15 years and I couldn't care less!

So John Berryman gets his name dropped into Nick Cave and Hold Steady songs, and I was all Yeah yeah whatever, but I finally picked some of this stuff up and it's just... devastating, in the wrong mood. Too many Dream Songs, and I need to up the dosage on my medication. I knew he killed himself, but I did not realize until recently that when he jumped off that bridge, he missed the water. And he was too drunk to move, so he suffocated in the mud. That, dear friends, is Pathetic.

Hard on the land wears the strong sea
and empty grows every bed.

Fortunately, I am often very, very funny. I see the humor in everything.
Except when I'm crying.

because the tears blur your vision?

Some people stand in the shadows, afraid to step up into the light.

because the tears blur your vision?

-- Lingbert, Friday, 23 May 2008 14:48 (5 hours ago) Link

I don't know. Sometimes I feel like making fun of everything keeps me alive.
(it's nice to be able to talk on a thread again - and I have to say, IlX has quite often been the cause for snorting laughter. And some tears. More laughter.)

I feel like, yeah, maybe not seeing things with the right balance could lead to some grief blindness. I have to be very careful about letting things have an effect on me. That means that I HAVE to allow myself to be really, really sad in the moment. I may think I'm crying for Chinese orphans with name tags whose parents are dead - and they don't know it. But I am crying for how that is resonating for me...
not neccesarily for the orphans.
I guess I don't think it's worth it, for me, to argue against the sadness. (Me arguing with me.) It's probably better to take the emotional hit and deal with it, because it's all residual.
Crying, and being sad, are one of the many amazing states we are allowed to embrace.
And...right now, we have plenty of reasons to be really sad.

However - I do really like youtube links that are cheery. And other links that are cheery.

Yeah, sometimes the best thing to do is just embrace it until it's over.

Crying can be very cathartic. But not always.

You have a good soul, aimurchie.

Thanks, Abbott - I can never hear that enough.

I'm not sure about crying ever NOT being cathartic, simply because it is a physical response. And a cleansing response - I mean, we have GOT to cry this shit out.

I actually had a fiend who had to go to a doctor for eye problems, and he told her she had built up too many tears! She was also the weepiest person for no reason, and I guess she tried to be brave ( I'm sure I was a cause, since we were living together), and then ...wow. Just wow. I was mad at her because it ended up making me look kinda mean. But how do you handle being mad at a person whose tears you may have inhibited?

I'm hungover and I feel like shit. back to bed.

Thank fucking god for bed.

xposts

Agreed...it's something like throwing up-- sometimes it's the last thing you feel like doing; it's not exactly a sensation that you would purposefully seek out, certainly, but, if you give yourself the space to feel whatever pain is eating at you instead of running away from it or trying to shove it down, then, somewhat counter-intuitively, perhaps, you find yourself in a better place than you were before.

It's part of of making peace with yourself, I think, in a way that's not necessarily always encouraged by the larger cultural framework that we live in...and also part of trusting the life process in general; which, due to the fact that life sends considerable trauma our way from time to time, is far from always being easy. but what's the alternative? not trusting life? not trusting yourself? FUCK THAT SHIT.

I suppose my beef is crying is sometimes not AS cathartic as I feel it should be given the context. However, thank god it is possible.

I'm sad for the selfish reason that I met someone I kind of adore, who returns the sentiment, and it's not going to work out for external reasons. And romantic connections are really, really rare for me.

"External reasons", like, they are already involved with someone or something of that nature?

No, like we would almost never see each other because we live in different countries, and he is a sailor so we couldn't even keep in touch by email & phone very easily for months at a time.

Oh, gosh, ok. Blah.

damn, i was kind of hoping for "if you try hard enough it could work out!" but really, i know that's not going to happen.

Ha-ha, well, that too. Anything is possible?

In any case, I don't think that having/expressing affection for someone is ever a "waste"...

Well, Maria, I think it IS "if you try hard enough it could work out."

I also think that we are, as a species, obligated to pursue last ditch efforts and random connections and small, small pieces of information that leave us asking how much we want to know each other.

How can this love lead to anything bad? You adore him, he adores you, -the conundrum is you digging up old boats while he's sailing on actual boats. or something along those lines.
I'm having a hard time seeing how this is hurtful for either of you!

That is meant as a very positive message ^^^ - you are so cool...

Thank you for it. I think you are absolutely right about last ditch efforts and random connections, and there's no good reason *not* to pursue it. Unless, of course, he thinks it's too hopeless! We have not actually had this discussion yet, and I am nervous.

Well,since you choose to engage via ancient means of transportation...

what's next, smoke signals? carrier pigeons? :)

http://www.alexwaterhousehayward.com/blog/uploaded_images/Message%20in%20a%20Bottle-751443.jpg

http://imreallysad.com/

I'm note really sad but I could use a gf just cuz the lonelyness factor. It would be cool if we were compatible but this day and age I feel more compatible with dogs (strictly platonic) than with humans. USA is so ghetto. There are several people that listen to rally crappy music, and have crappy personalities (was it the way they were raised?? or does it have to do with their IQ). I'm pretty smart, and well, you know how people with "gifts" are ostracized for their differences. Not to mention the trends of today involve people that I throw into bad stereotypes because generalities generally describe the people I meet, and yes they aren't compatible, or are boring, or worse - asshole/ho/wackjob/moron/thug/jock/frat boy blah blah blah, the percentage of compatible people with the genuine nice creative guy looking for just as much in return seems pretty damn low since the fall of man around 1993.

bad spellers untie!

"She wrote out a story
About her life
I think it included
Something about me
I'm not sure of that
But I'm sure of one thing
Her spelling's atrocious
She told me to read
Between the lines
And tell her exactly
What I got out of it
I told her affection had two F's
Especially when
You're dealing with me
I usually notice
All the little things
Once time I was proud of it
She says it's annoying
She cursed me up and down
And rolled her R's
(Her beautiful R's)
She says I'm caught up
In triviality
All I really wanna know
Is what she thinks of me
I think my love for her
Makes me miss the point
I miss the point"

sloan - underwhelmed

first half of the song

"She was underwhelmed
If that's a word
I know it's not
'Cause I looked it up
That's one of those skills
That I learned in my school
I was overwhelmed
And I'm sure of that one
'Cause I learned it
Back in grade school
When I was young
She said, "You is funny"
I said, "You are funny"
She said, "Thank you"
And I said, "Never mind"
And she rolled her eyes
Her beautiful eyes
The point is not the grammar
It's the feeling
That is certainly in my heart
But not in hers
But not in hers
But not in hers
But not in hers
We were talkin' about people
That eat meat
I felt like an ass
'Cause I was one
She said, "It's okay"
But I felt like
I just ate my young
She's obviously
A person with a cause
I told her that
I don't smoke or drink
She told me to loosen up
On her way to the L.C.
She skips her classes
And gets good grades
I go to my courses
Rain or shine
She's passed her classes
While I attend mine"

MS MS MS