What do I do, ILX? WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO????

SO dude calls me offering a job that pays $59.85 an hour. This is almost double what I make now. But I've done this job before and the stress...FUCK. Its stressful. I have a new job right now that pays nowhere near this and I love it. But the credit debt....the new car we neeed....paying off the house earlier....its so tempting. WHAT DO I DO ILX?????

Is there any way you could return to your current job or a similar job in the future? Can you put a time limit on how long you'd be working this higher-paying job? Are there other things to figure in, like a diff in benefits?

be happy first, if you can keep yr head above water while doing so

stick with the job you love. money is never worth it.

wasn't quite as much of a raise in pay as that, but i recently turned down a job because it meant I'd see my daughter for about 2 hours total during the week (and yes, was way more high stress). dunno, hard to turn down the cash, but cash really is not everything.

I guess it's a question of whether easing your financial worries will balance out the job stress. If you're in a place where, like, you literally don't know where the money is going to come from and you're feeling like you're falling behind (whether you really are or are just afraid to) maybe it would be worth it to take the $$ for a while?

But one thought is to take the increased income and put it in savings and still live off the old level except for certain agreed things, so you don't get used to it too much, because ratcheting up your expectations will make it harder to cut back later when you want to get out.

damn $60/hour is sooo much

i don't know what i would do

I chose to work for about 60% of the potential salary I could have made so that I'd be working about 70% of the hours and get to see my family in the evenings and weekends. It's hard because NYC is so expensive, but giving up things like vacations, nice restaurant meals and accepting certain location drawbacks for the time being seems worth it. Relatedly, my wife is not working for a long time so she can stay home with our baby -- again, having mom in her life outweighs the money.

At the same time, temporary pain to solve problems is often worth it. Making myself miserable in law school meant better job options, e.g.

idk what i'd do either

nobody works for free, i'm inclined to say take the money

it's not my stress tho

Knowing that you're going to hate the job stress going into it kind of squashes my kneejerk "ALWAYS GO FOR MORE MONEY" impulse

instead, I offer a more restrained "consider strongly going for more money"

I think it would depend on the credit debt...if it is a lot, it might be worth it to take on this job for a while and have that paid off. Being in a lot of debt, for me, is worse than any job stress.

use it as leverage to get your salary bumped up now. "they are offering more money but I would like to stay here..."

take the job baby, u can offeset the stress with cars and champagne

that never works fyi

plan ways to deal with the stress, if you think you realistically can then take the money for as long as you can stand it, i guess.

i have a job that pays v little that i love, and i wouldn't give it up right now BUTT

the idea that money is never worth it is some serious bs

money is worth exactly what it means to you at the time, right? which is sometimes less and sometimes more than the exchange rate.

i was gonna say take the money but realised that effectively in my own life i took the pay cut and have been a trillion gazillion times happier for it. but then, i did not have credit debt at the time and have no intention of buying a car.

maybe if you know about the stress beforehand that will make it easier?

in your current job are there opportunities for pay rises?

'money is never worth it' is true or false depending on whatever 'it' is

can you take the new job and just slack off, wait till layoff, then go back to the job you love? (or even "work" both jobs simultaneously)

that's a good point, if 'it' is money, then it's def true xp

Is it worth telling your current job you're thinking of going for the new one, and seeing if they up your pay etc?
My friend just did this, she was all set to go to another job that was good, but involved commuting and stuff, and her existing place offered her a 40% pay rise to stay! Which she didn't expect at all.

if you can handle the stress in the short term, i think it's probably a good idea to go for the payout! paying off credit debt and paying off mortgage early? that is a HUGE opportunity

Agreed.

Is it a permanent position? If so, why the funky hourly rate?

imho stress can really fuck up your life (your health, your relationships, your ability to function, your enjoyment of life in general) in ways that money cannot alleviate, that's all my initial post was based on.

How easy/hard would it be to get back into the kind of job you're doing now? Are they thick on the ground, would you be burning any bridges by leaving now, would they take you back pretty fast if you wanted that?

Stick with the job you love. How much of the extra $$ of the different job would go to taxes/housecleaners/daycare providers/meals out/stress related retail therapy/etc? In reality, it's always more than you think.

can you do fancy grown-up financial tricks like refinancing your house to pay off your credit card debt?

I'd say have an honest conversation about it with the employer at the place where you currently work. See if there's an opportunity to freelance some of the tasks in order to keep your foot in the door there.

guess that only works if your house has any equity which is probably unlikely considering lol 2008 selfxp

it really comes down the state of your finances and your mental and physical health. if you really need the money and you can handle the stress then go for it. if one or both of those are not applicable, and you are happy where you are, then turn down the offer for more money.

Would you see your family less? (Or more?)
Is the stress something you can "leave at the office"?

A lot of money. I know I would be tempted. Certainly now. lolol