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So do people do silly things when they're on the rebound like snogging exs or snogging random people, so to speak. Have you made an arse of yourself in this situation? Have you been er.......rebounded on? Did you mind? Was it worth it anyway? Is it good therapy?

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 16 September 2002 12:15 (twenty-three years ago)

snogging people is always good therapy.

― angela (angela), Monday, 16 September 2002 12:18 (twenty-three years ago)

Yes I have. No it wasn't good therapy because I was an idiot and didn't know how not to turn random late-night snog into now-we're-going-out and so got dragged into a situation where I ended up behaving shabbily. Had it just stayed as a random late-night snog I think it would have done me some good yeah.

― Tom (Groke), Monday, 16 September 2002 12:23 (twenty-three years ago)

i think the snogging of random people/friends/ex's just after a relationship ends is a fairly common phenomenon. presumably for people who've been dumped it's a case of "look, i'm still attractive, people will snog me" and for people who've done the dumping it's a case of "see, now i'm free to snog whoever i want with no hassle or guilt". i've definitely made an arse of myself with this sort of carry on in the past.
i don't think i've ever been rebounded on, at least no-one i ever snogged started whinging to me about their ex (i'd be a bit fed up if they did) or perhaps i just got away before they'd a chance.

― angela (angela), Monday, 16 September 2002 12:32 (twenty-three years ago)

Last year, my marriage ended: we had been together for over 23 years. I was really fortunate in my first relationship after that, in that I probably wasn't ready for anything complex or substantial or serious (though I mostly thought different), and fortunately all she wanted was fun and sex, which was great (so great, you'd think I was lying) - did my ego loads of good when it most needed it, and I had a great time, and things didn't get complicated at any time. This was dumb luck rather than judgement, obviously.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Monday, 16 September 2002 17:41 (twenty-three years ago)

i rebounded after the end of my marriage which was a 17 year long journey of um...well hard to describe really. now i think about it no bluddy wonder i rebounded to the first idiot i found!!!!!!!!!
it only lasted a while, as it does. i think its some kind of standard healing thing, you have to do something really stupid to make yourself feel even worse about that, so the end of the REAL relationship can be seen in a different light.

― donna (donna), Monday, 16 September 2002 17:56 (twenty-three years ago)

i'm so utterly on the rebound right now it's not funny. some nights i think i could use a good casual fool but i'm afraid of entering into anything right now for fear of miscommunication.

nights like this i miss university, etc.

― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 16 September 2002 18:12 (twenty-three years ago)

what about mutual rebound?

― di smith (lucylurex), Monday, 16 September 2002 20:30 (twenty-three years ago)

mutual rebound's good i guess, but it's rare that you find someone in the same situation as you who isn't a friend...

― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 16 September 2002 20:32 (twenty-three years ago)

I have done it too, and by and large people haven't got hurt (there are notable exceptions to this, including me). On my part, the realisation that rebound relationships/snogs/whatever aren't very satisfying and are largely more trouble than they're worth almsot justifies the actions in the first place - what seems like a good idea at first quickly palls, and you come back to realising that you want to be with someone for the right reasons. Just try not to hurt yourself or anyone else in the meantime.

― Mark C (Mark C), Tuesday, 17 September 2002 08:56 (twenty-three years ago)

one year passes...

eek!

― dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 16 March 2004 01:12 (twenty-one years ago)

four months pass...

When do *I* get to have *my* rebound relationship?

It just isn't fair.

― Super-Masonic Black Hole (kate), Friday, 6 August 2004 15:23 (twenty-one years ago)

Who on earth was I with when I asked this?

I have a grim sensation that it might be the same person I'm currently wondering about.

― Ronan (Ronan), Friday, 6 August 2004 17:16 (twenty-one years ago)

whenever I've been on the rebound I've always been on for the idea of copping off with random people, or exes, or anyone really. Sadly the rest of the world did not reciprocate.

― DV (dirtyvicar), Friday, 6 August 2004 19:27 (twenty-one years ago)

four years pass...

How do I make myself interested in women besides my ex? Everyone pales in comparison.

― ian, Monday, 8 December 2008 06:45 (sixteen years ago)

I would like to know this answer as well. Nobody compares with ian's ex.

― ⅅ∊ȴℹҁℹσᴗᔔ Ӎℹȴⱪℹȵʛ (libcrypt), Monday, 8 December 2008 06:57 (sixteen years ago)

You're a real piece of shit, man.

― ian, Monday, 8 December 2008 07:05 (sixteen years ago)

Sorry, man. It's these de-emodudefication pills I've been taking, see....

― ⅅ∊ȴℹҁℹσᴗᔔ Ӎℹȴⱪℹȵʛ (libcrypt), Monday, 8 December 2008 07:11 (sixteen years ago)

libshitz

― shit zoo (PappaWheelie V), Monday, 8 December 2008 07:11 (sixteen years ago)

Time and rationalization.

It's a bit of a hang up to have a concept of 'the one' in a global population of 6.7bn.

― Bob Six, Monday, 8 December 2008 07:56 (sixteen years ago)

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