change & rejection

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have you ever been in a situation where the group you have been accepted by and who have treated you well suddenly turn on you? what do you do? stand firm in he face of it all, or crawl off like they want you to?

i feel like i'm close to losing a group of friends all at once (if i haven't done already) because they're all changing and i don't want to change myself to fit in.

gee, i have a hard time explaining stuff. sorry.

― g-kit (g-kit), Monday, 16 September 2002 12:21 (twenty-three years ago)

they don't sound like good friends. Sod the lot of them.

or you know, don't worry about changing to fit in, this isn't a good thing to do.

In what way are they changing? Obviously, friends get married or go off to university or whatever and this is unavoidable, but if they are truly good friends then you'll keep in touch and all that.

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 16 September 2002 12:33 (twenty-three years ago)

are they all changing though? some may be, others just getting pulled along in the flow?

― gareth (gareth), Monday, 16 September 2002 12:33 (twenty-three years ago)

well, i dunno... it's like... a couple of the people i was closest to left this clique, and now it's completely different. imagine if ILE became ILM overnight... it's very, very much like that. rather than talking about E and having fun with it, it's all M. and i like E better. some have been very good friends to me over the last couple of years, but it seems very much like we're drifting apart now.

so it's difficult to know what to do.

― g-kit (g-kit), Monday, 16 September 2002 12:38 (twenty-three years ago)

go and hang out with the people who left the clique!

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 16 September 2002 12:42 (twenty-three years ago)

heh, i still see them, so that's not a problem. but it's just that i don't want to lose the remaining cliquer(s) that i get on with best. argh.

― g-kit (g-kit), Monday, 16 September 2002 12:49 (twenty-three years ago)

what are they changing into? is it something you dont like or cant relate to? sometimes friendships just drift to a sort of natural close....no reason you should lose contact with the ones you get on with best is there? unless the other will have a problem with that, in which case stuff em.

― donna (donna), Monday, 16 September 2002 18:41 (twenty-three years ago)

three months pass...

last time this happened was at a gavin friday concert somewhere in te early 90s, I decided i never wanted to hear of them or gavin friday ever again. I was just starting a serious love relationship and moving to another city at that time, so I didn't care much.

― erik, Monday, 13 January 2003 15:27 (twenty-two years ago)

Not so much turn on me, just indifferent to me...the King's College Hospital people when I went to their Xmas do. Probably the result of my not keeping in touch with them as often as I should. It happens. But it was another door closing.

As for turning on me...Laura's family. I was definitely the Paul Burrell in that scenario.

― Marcello Carlin, Monday, 13 January 2003 15:34 (twenty-two years ago)

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