Should I go fishing or get a friend to hang around? Celebrated GAY Summer 2012

You waited too long.

So the awesome first-time hookup I had a couple weeks ago won't return calls or email. Does this ever NOT happen with gays?

btw he did email me back the first time, saying "hey I don't feel like dating but let's hang out and be FBs." Then he went to New Jersey, apparently, and fell silent.

I have some disturbing news - I like a Train song.

It's ok. I'm sure you're just going through a phase.

what do I bring to a gay housewarming in NJ? At minimum I need the name of a not-crazy-expensive wine that will gain me plaudits.

a Mark West pinot noir is about $10 and will have everyone thinking they're tasting dick.

btw Morbs I don't remember the title in any P-Funk lyric

I went w/ pudgy gay indie

love this thread title. anyone know how to fish? is there much to know?

Hüsker?

As for your first point: I sympathize because I did the same after three dates with the Croat.

i'm going here in a few weeks w/ my man (3 years):

http://boulderflycasters.files.wordpress.com/2011/04/stc_1417.jpg

lol hueg

btw Morbs I don't remember the title in any P-Funk lyric

Um, what are you talking about? You don't remember the George Clinton classic You Shouldn't-Nuf Gone Fishing?

hi gays/happy summer

just got back last night from a SF/big sur trip with bf. he lived in SF for a decade so i got to meet a bunch of his really close friends and ate a lot of delicious food and went camping for the first time ever(!) and went to these insane baths overlooking the coast

we've only been "official" for ~four months but this feels really special, to me

(/corn)

we saw the ACT/UP doc which was improbably playing at 11am on a tuesday (wtf frameline), i recommend (and bring tissues)

xoxo, sweetie

so much coffee

You Shouldn't-Nuf Gone Fishing

Think that's Get Yo Ass In The Water And Swim Like Me.

I like fishing and I like friends but somehow this thread title doesn't sit right with me.

http://cdn.wg.uproxx.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/not-my-jam.gif

"get a friend to hang around" is my goal like %60 of the time

sorry, i believe that should be 60%

that woman has a collar bone

i encourage the posting of jane kerkovich .gifs on this and all threads

i'm nursing a brutal crush right now. pretty sure it's a dead end. please send help.

This is your periodic reminder of the existence of Rula Lenska.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=itcYNvoxe0k

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xWBFhxHps2E

Hi guys! Last night I hung out with Tabes and his bf and their friend and we went to a very crowded queer party. I left the place with a cute 19-year old and made out and swapped bjs with him on the not-as-secluded-as-we-thought roof of a garage while we got covered in mud and his sister periodically interrupted to call him a slut. I lost my socks!

:D

apart from the mud

OMG REV

WOAH REV YOU WHORE

CONGRATULATIONS

jeez Rev, that's what happens when you hang around with that sprite, honey.

somehow this thread title doesn't sit right with me.

Give props to yr Twin Cities gay punk heritage!

should I go fisting or get a hung friend to hang around?

Maybe ya shoulda gotten a Rip Taylor tat?

woooow rev

reeeeeeeeeeev!!!!1

Yay rev! That sounds fun! Garage roof seems precarious and ballsy.

I really have to thank Tabes' bf, who insisted I stick around until I could hook up.

Cool, though if I were you the sister woulda freaked me out a bit. Course, if I were him, the sister woulda freaked me out even more...

top 5 celebrity look dopplegangers seen at pride 2k12:

5. gay al doyle
4. gay danny brown
3. white, lesbian lil wayne
2. lesbian russell westbrook
1. gay riff raff

top 3 shirts seen at pride 2k12:

3. CALL ME MAYBE?!
2. I'M SO GAY I SHIT RAINBOWS
1. ALL YOU CAN EAT *rainbow arrow pointing at woman's crotch*

top song heard from a float at pride 2k12:

"save a horse, ride a cowboy"

best thing caught from a float at pride 2k12:

buy one, get one free card at chipotle

three most offensive floats seen at pride 2k12:

3. chicago cubs
2. chase bank
1. bank of america

Things I was told at pride by drunk strangers:

1. Love your ink
2. Love your ink
3. You've got a cute nose
4. Love your ink
5. Love your ink

Thirteen years after coming out I still haven't attended a single pride event. I did hook up with a bloke on OKCupid last night though.

In what capacity do you have to be at pride to have attended it? Meaning, I've been in Toronto as its happening, seen bits of parades and even once got a porn star's autograph while shopping on Church St, but I still never really feel like I've BEEN to Pride in an actual participating kinda way.

You need to get head and muddy/

You need to make yourself available and receptive to an astonishing amount of advertising.

That happens to be your particular abnormality.

boycotted today

however YESTERDAY I went to my friend's condo housewarming in my native NJ territory, and aside from the residing couple talked mostly with friend's 82-year-old retired Irish cop dad and cartoonist niece who just graduated middle school.

apart from the mud

― bitch I'm on the 242 (lex pretend), Sunday, June 24, 2012 2:40 AM Bookmark

no, the mud made it way hotter

Cool, though if I were you the sister woulda freaked me out a bit. Course, if I were him, the sister woulda freaked me out even more...

― to welcome jer.fairall, pie is served. (jer.fairall), Sunday, June 24, 2012 6:24 PM Bookmark

hahaha no, the sister was gay as fuck too and very obviously just giving her bro a hard time. it was like, just a couple times over the course of the session where it was like.... *mysterious voice* "SLUT!" *both of us shove our penises back into our pants, look around like prairie dogs for second, then laugh and go right back at it*

http://www.avclub.com/articles/paris-hilton-launches-new-awareness-campaign-for-d,85226/

guys i just went to a bar to sing "baby baby" karaoke by myself

i think i just peaked

also not to be a bitch but it's kind of difficult for me to get worked up over anything that comes out of Paris Hilton's mouth.

or into it, et al

two dinner parties this week. the first was with the boy's sister, her partner and another of his friends; the second was with four of my friends. i like this "showing your man off to your social circle" phase

^^ that's the unnerving part for me. As a hypocrite in good standing, I refuse to receive the hypercriticism I've inflicted free of charge on others.

i've always loved introducing different parts of my social circle to each other - i love watching how people get on with each other. some people are a bit obsessive about keeping different circles distinct, i've never got that at all.

in this case there may be an element of "look how fucking hott he is"

anyway he made a good impression on my friends.

i've always loved introducing different parts of my social circle to each other - i love watching how people get on with each other. some people are a bit obsessive about keeping different circles distinct, i've never got that at all.

oh I thought you meant "introducing dates to the group." I love introducing friends from different circles.

Ooh exciting!

I reunite with my own paramour tomorrow afternoon after a two-week interval (both of us out of town consecutive weekends) for a cocktail date at Miami's oldest hotel. I love hotel bars.

Since my bf has been out of town (like, all bloody year) I've lost touch with his circle of friends, who are the ones in my life that, like, "go dancing" and "drink beers". I'll call them up when I get bored and want to have a night out, but it still feels like I'm having to introduce myself to them, after ten years of knowing everybody

(My circle of friends are mostly 'hard working parents' and/or 'creative professionals')

the day after my bday party, when he first met lots of my friends, he was like...you know a LOT of people who work in the media, or indeed who don't seem to have "proper" "jobs". yupppp

(by this point my social circle is basically a vast interlinked web anyway, very few completely separate areas)

why the fuck would anyone want a proper job?

Health insurance. #USA

i've always loved introducing different parts of my social circle to each other

I don't like this AT ALL and go out of my way to make sure it almost never happens. (Understanding that this never involves "paramours" or less icky synonyms, cuz I don't acquire them.)

c'mon – you acquire icky synonyms all the time.

I am always extremely anxious when friend circles of mine merge. I don't know whether I'm worried they won't get along or whether they'll all wonder why I'm friends with this or that person.

I am always extremely anxious

jkjk

It was kind of hard to keep it from happening at my mom's funeral, wehen one of my oldest Brooklyn friends said after meeting my sister that she was a pleasant surprise "because I expected some shrew."

it was awesome to see so many people from all walks of life commingling at my birthday party a few weeks ago - film nerd/archivist pals and ilxors and my bf's writer friends and even someone from my hometown

i was thrilled to introduce my friends to my guy, and i'm pretty sure his friends like me too (i've met most of the ones who live here and in SF). maybe this sounds weird but i honestly wouldn't want to date someone my friends didn't like

if you wanna be my lover
you gotta get with my friends

it's true though, my friends mean more to me than any lover, and there's something repellent about the kind of people who cocoon themselves away from their social circle once they find a partner

It's a truism that friends get more jealous than lovers.

what are... friends?

oh right those things that disappear when you work and go to school full-time

a fabulous Jody Watley-Eric B & Rakim collaboration.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBnt6piuRnA

i still say "how many of us have them" when i think of the word "friends" on its own

there's something repellent about the kind of people who cocoon themselves away from their social circle once they find a partner

Well, I hope that's the broadest judgement I read today. I can only think of one such example that I've found 'repellent', most of the other examples are like "cool you have kids now, that's awesome" or "you made the right decision when you moved with your boyfriend to the country, I will come and visit you"

Sorry that wasn't meant to sound so harsh
I thought I added a caveat along the lines of "oh you and your superlative negative adjectives"

Straight couples are more apt to go pupal.

I can't really ~complain~ about it, but I do get a little sad when I get "come to my DJ night!" FB invites from friends who haven't actively made any effort to hang out in years aside from invitations to their DJ nights. I need to start having more dinner parties, I guess

i <3 dinner parties and not just cuz i get fed

i would have way more dinner parties if i didn't have the world's tiniest kitchen (stevie can attest)

My house got real hot in the summer and we didn't have A/C but there are definite dinner parties in my future

xp it is a v tiny kitchen.

introducing boy to friends is A++ fun. even more fun is boy + his friends coming out dancing with you + yr friends, which after two years has finally happened!

last night i talked him into joining us as this awesome loft afterparty thing with jacques greene and mykki blanco and folks (although the cops busted it before physical therapy's set, sigh) but he came and he was dancing (!) and apparently I have a boyfriend who is 'social' now. this is the life.

I went to see Elite Gymnastics and Grimes last night. I got there early because lol I don't know what time shows start any more, and had a bunch of glasses of wine with the 50s-ish gay bartender at Lee's. He talked a lot about Genet! I talked a lot about Mishima. We fantasized about moving to Portugal. After the second glass of wine met the anti-biotics I started feeling Really Really Loopy. I sat through half of Elite Gymnastics set and then... I don't remember! I was feeling really loopy. I checked my phone this morning and apparently, on my way home, I convinced my bf and my best female friend to have a child together. (This is a common theme for me when I'm drunk, playing "who can we knock up"). I also texted my bf that "the opening band kinda sucked" and he said "sucks is a popular genre these days" ha ha.

Oh, also, it's fall, non?

i'm in brighton for the lib dem conference. it's definitely fall. fucking pissing it down. i'm massively hungover and i want to die

"elite gymnastics" and "grimes" bother me. because i love gymnastics and i love grime but i DO NOT LIKE THOSE ACTS. there's a shitty indie band called tennis, too. can these awful people stop encroaching on my aesthetic please?

ha ha that complaint is so hilarious and petty. I'm going to start a shitty band called Takeaway Menu

i have no emotional attachment to the takeaway menu, go right ahead!

~foiled~

Following the grand tradition of shitty bands named after your favourite album, my new band is called Beyoncé 4

Babygirl, unpack yr sweaters and get FABULOUS in FALL gay homo queer &c 2012

lol fantastic