have you ever done that t.v./movie slam the door thing?

where someone slams a door on someone and then they turn and put their back against the door and slide down onto the floor with their back still against the door? and cry? do people really do that? have you ever done that? can you only do it when you're alone?

Age 16? Fuck you, mom! *slam* *cry*

The ideal setting for the power of the door, which is a power and control pattern, is right after you've had intercourse and you're in bed with the girl, and at this time hopefully you've set up the fact that you're also the man of her dreams and fulfil her emotional needs. You're fooling around in bed, you've already had a great time, and you go, "sweetheart, what's that over there?" and you point towards the door. And she'll say, "well you know, that's a door, silly." And you say, "yeah, you know.. I'm a real positive person, but.. I mean, can you imagine.. I mean, you don't know what can happen from day to day, when you think about it in your mind. I mean, what would happen if I walked out that door and the door closed and as the door closed, it slammed shut, and no matter what you did, you could not open the door and you knew that you would never be able to look into my eyes again and you'd never be able to hear my voice again and you'd never be able to feel my touch again."

Ok, right here is where she starts going, "I don't like this door business at all." And at this time you just reassure her.. "ok, alright sweetheart, you're right. You really shouldn't think about the door and you really don't have to think about the door." So you go back to playing around with her some more. Have some more fun with her, bring her to another orgasm or whatever and say, "you know, a terrible thing happened the other day. My friend was hit by a truck. I mean, it was awful, by the time they got him to hospital he was dead. I can't believe it, you know? It's almost as if, it would be a horrible thing you know when you think about.." (point towards the door) "..that no matter even if you were to get that door opened and you were to search, that you could never find me again.." Then she starts freaking out. You calibrate more on that part of, "you will never be able to see me again, you'll never be able to hear my voice again."

"You'll never be able.. all that fun we had together, all those great times we had together, walking along the beach, hand in hand in the moonlight, we would never be able to do those things again and even if you were to open that door, you would search and you could never find." And she's at the point where she's saying, "no no I hate this door. Let's stop this door now, are you trying to upset me?" And you say, "oh, I'm sorry sweetheart, I'm just saying these are just things that are popping into my mind, ok?" So play around some more. Get her good and nice and hot again, fool around, have a good time with her, joke, and then then get back into the door and say, "you know, God, still you know, about life's tragedies.. I mean, I just keep on thinking how.." At this point you can already see that this is starting to make her feel uncomfortable. You want to create that sense in her that you can walk out and she'll feel terrible for the rest of here life. You want to anchor that response. I'll get up and she'll say, "well what are you doing?" And I'll say, "I'm going to the bathroom." I go up to the bedroom door and slam it. That right there will freak her out. Then I'll open the door and say, "oh, I'm sorry. You know, I'm sorry, I'm just playing with this door again. You know, you really shouldn't think about this door now and you really don't want to think about this door now."

Having anchored that sense of loss and pain to the door, you can trigger it whenever needed. Whatever negative behavior may come up that you want to stop, the first time you just get up and slam the door. Whether you walk out the door depends on the level of bullshit. On later occasions you can just indicate tbe door in some manner. The example Alex gives: If he's talking on the phone and getting any crap from her, and he knows the relation of where the door is to her desk, he says, "sweetheart, could you please turn right and take a look at what's over there.." and that was the end of the bullshit."

i'll that that as a no nobody does this.

I have chopped through a door with an axe and yelled, "Here's Johnny!" Does that count?

I once lived in a shared house where it looked like someone had tried to chop through the door with an axe. Does that count?

i think slamming a door and burying head in pillows was more common.

I have both slammed a door (when I was 16 like flamoyant goon tie) and slid down onto the floor (much more recent than that), but never as a combo move. That's so dramatic though. Bet it feels good to do. I don't slam doors though. Mostly because I'm aiming for "civilized", but moreso because I'm afraid the cat will try to sneak out at just the wrong moment and I'll accidentally decapitate him or something.

at one minute in this fan-made katy perry video you can see a variation on the slide, but she turns kinda weirdly and doesn't do a full slide.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q1Ej52vyfp4

they have done this a bunch on my new favorite show Army Wives, so I've been thinking about it. pretty common device to signal desperation in a t.v. drama.

I've never done the door thing but (warning this is sad but it's okay) I found one of our cats dead when I came home from work one night some years ago and I threw my bags down in the ground and yelled "Noooooooooo!" and fell to my knees next to the poor cat and while that reaction was 100% sincere and involuntary, there was a snarky little part of my brain that was like "Wow, could you be any more stereotypical?"

So if the circumstances were right, I would probably slam a door and then slide down it.

ha! I mean...sorry about your cat. but yeah the grief would be neck and neck with the thought that I had seen this done a million times on t.v. meta-grief.

there must be a youtube compilation of people doing the door thing, but I don't know how to search for it. I think ann romano used to do this all the time on one day at a time. she was always closing the apartment door dramatically.

How about having an entire conversation while facing away from the person you're talking to, and simultaneously staring out the window? It's a vintage move. Probably the way you might discuss the previous night's door-slam/slide.

I did a slam today after telling a couple of doorstep god-botherers to leave my building because the NO SOLICITORS OR HAWKERS sign applies to them as much as it does the 'sell your old gold' man.

yeah, at least the gold guy could offer you money. god hawkers only offer salvation.

the slam & slide! I like that.

How about having an entire conversation while facing away from the person you're talking to, and simultaneously staring out the window?

I've done this a lot. Not so much while living in a basement, though.

Pretty sure I've never done the slam/slide combo, but slamming/kicking/shouting at doors, yes. Also probably the melodramatic teen thing of throwing yourself on to the bed in tears.

it just really doesn't make much sense to close a door and then TURN AROUND and put your back up against it. its strictly a camera angle thing. so basically its a cliché made for a movie camera. but its persistent. and very dramatic, obviously. plus, most doors aren't good sliding surfaces. they have all kinds of crevices and indentations. not smooth sliding at all.

can anyone think of a specific cinematic example of this?

the rarer face first technique:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3qC3gU1anVw

basically its a cliché made for a movie camera.

Just like the talk-to-someone-who's-standing-behind-you move! It lets both faces be in the frame at the same time. emil.y does this though, at least. I wonder if those real-life examples were inspired by the movies..

lol scott the piano underscoring in that is just... ??

I don't know, it's possible. Though I think it's more about not having eye contact = less pressure, less emotion, more space for your brain to work through what you're saying.

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its REALLY hard to search for though. and remembering specific examples is hard. watching Army Wives - where they are so good at it - was my inspiration. Army Wives does the really desperate fetal ball sobbing/sliding thing. i'm sure there are lots of good daytime soap examples.

i'll search the soaps on youtube. already found a really good door slam.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NFkOvw5nuTM

this is right up there with the double-clutch as a lifetime movie trope

The double clutch! You showed me the magic of the double clutch when we watched FACE OF EVIL starring Tracey Gold.