Beyonce has let down the gay divorce movement: a queer WINTER 2014 thread

See what happens when you let the solstice pass?

it goes up your ass

then is eaten by Mama Cass

It's "Beyoncé" with an é

gay divorcée

it's Kelendria with a K

hey everyone

I love this title.

There was a period of my life where if I saw this movie I would flip the fuck out and it would instantly become the most meaningful and most favorite film but now it just makes me feel a kind of strange mild nervousness or discomfort

That pretty much describes my reaction to Weekend, too.

I really like the it but it agitated me in a weird way that I can't quite figure out -- or maybe I haven't had the stomach to try to figure out until now. I watched it in a couple sittings b/c it made me anxious even while I thought it was really good. Maybe it's scary b/c the kind of intimacy and untidy emotions that it puts on display are so mundane that they feel too close to home.

Basically, Weekend: awesome;dnw

"awesome; dnw" is so otm and so is "the kind of intimacy and untidy emotions that it puts on display are so mundane that they feel too close to home."

also HI JESSE I LOVE YOU LET'S GET GAY MARRIED!!

Dunno if there are any Canadians posting in here, but George Smitherman's husband was found dead. Absolutely heartbreaking.

Yeah, saw that. A sad, and I must say, bizarre (he had previously "went missing in September and was found by a police dog two days later in a wooded area near train tracks." huh?) story.

I'll admit I don't pay the most attention to the conversations in gay culture sometimes but I hope that this story sparks a wider dialogue about depression in our community if there already isn't one but I doubt it cause the story is barely gaining any traction here in Canada from what I'm seeing and hell, it's a Canadian story barely involving Rob Ford so it won't get any press outside of this country.

Wholeheartedly agreed, but, you know, it's a Canadian story that isn't about Rob Ford and a gay story that isn't about marriage equality (not really, anyway; they were already legally married, so who cares now, right?) or a hot young celebrity's coming out, so don't count on it.

My co-worker buddy suggested we go to a sex party together after work on Wednesday

But idk abt that for a couple reasons

Among them his insistence on referring to it as "humpday."

That'd kill my boner.

Okay so the more I'm thinking abt the movie "Weekend" and separating my own feelings from it the more I realize holy shit this is a really fucking good film

Really should watch that one of these days...

It made me a believer for a brief while.

I saw a gay porn short that reminded me a lot of Weekend. What the hell was the name of it? The dialog and the cinematography were similarly intimate in the way Weekend's were. Really fucking good.

"i want your love" iirc

Here we go http://www.iwantyourlovethemovie.com/. I guess it's not a short and I just saw a trailer. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1995329/

xp yep!

I guess it's not a short and I just saw a trailer I can't read and it is BOTH a short and a feature-length.

Last night I took a friend to another friend's book signing. The first friend is cute and the old acquaintances I hadn't seen in months or years assumed he was my boyfriend. I wanted to join everyone for dinner afterwards but because my companion didn't know this crew at all I acceded to his request to get a drink at another bar. We had a good time and drank a few beers. When I drove back to my place I moved to kiss him and he expertly blocked me with his left cheek. I threw him out of the car and called the cops.

Kind of want to see the whole of I Want Your Love. Worried I already saw the best bits tho.

The trailer looks pretty, minus that awful, croaky-voiced indie folk song that plays over some of it.

Also, I think Alfred's story would make a great short film.

scored by Nile Rodgers.

Scored to whatever the opposite of "Get Out Of My Dreams, Get Into My Car" is.

good story Alfred

i don't know if i can watch Weekend, or gay porn shorts. the celluloid observation of homosexual intimacy has always been a turn-off for me.

i'm sure i have a lot of my own very strange reasons for that but that's the way it is for now.

i never remotely understand Alfred's adventures

Weekend is entirely respectable, well acted, and dull.

Which means it has only one thing in common with sex.

i just took some drugs to help me sleep

i am feeling comfy like i want to have a sleepover with scary stories. i used to do that with my friend Lynn and sometimes we'd play dress up and i would dress up like a girl. one time her mom's boyfriend was over, and i was in my girl outfit, and i sat in his lap and flirted with him as a joke - her mom told me it would be funny. but you should have seen the look of horror on his face. it was sad. and then i heard her say something like "there's still some hope for Ramzi" later on

i should have known then and there that her mom would eventually Facebook friend me and reveal all sorts of Republican party beliefs online

There is a gay in my life who I need removed, how do you do that? Is there an extraction service? Can somebody please offer him a job overseas

I have, like, one too many gay friends in town.

i haven't managed the art of breaking up with friends (some ppl just sit down and do it)

Breaking up with friends is as slow a process as breaking up with lovers is fast.

Coming home for the holidays is a splendid time to break up with friends.

i'm still on my quest to make more guy friends

i met a bassist the other night and we might hang out

I think I must have a record number of partnered gay friends.

i might have a record # of partnered straight friends

or wait is that true for everyone

...

To be straight is to be partnered, I'm convinced.

i had a really tough new year's day. maybe it's like the wedding and the marriage folklore? - a sign of good luck?

in what world do you guys know all these partnered ppl who have time for anyone else?

It's babied people that have no time for anyone else, not partnered people.

At least "disappointing gay best friend" was funny.

sometimes humor + swishy posturing gets old too, tho.

I like to alternate.

though it's v possible I don't identify with the former though because hello i'm a white cis masculine presenting male who regularly passes for str8 and many people just don't expect me to perform sass or give them fashion advice

OK, i guess after ten or so refs in the last month I hafta google "cis"

xp I'm not bi-frivolous. I'm fully committed to achieving an utter lack of seriousness in all walks of life.

"Oh, serious serious!"

http://old.post-gazette.com/images3/20060106_ho_PlutoB_230.jpg

I've been out for a number of years and not once has anyone asked me for fashion advice. But they probably just took one look at my clothes.

(wait, was that performing sass?)

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lyd17rjD7H1qakh43o1_500.gif

many people just don't expect me to perform sass or give them fashion advice

lololol I feel like those are literally the two things I expect from you the most

It's a delightful confluence of both humorlessness and macho posturing and a few other things as well.

i agree, partly, but i think there is something at stake here: to not be defined by your fabulousness/accessory to fabulousness. personally - *i love that, but that's not me* is how i'd play it right now but my position of a few years ago *i hate that, and it's not me* deserves respect also and not only because (maybe) those people will grow into accepting or having fun with their mis-definition, if you know what i mean.

I was gonna say, I'd be curious to know the age of whoever this is. Seems like the kind of posturing i was intent on when i was 19 or 20.

it's posturing but i think there's something important behind it. i was late 30s a few years ago so, you know, late developer!

patron sailor = pl4x1c0?

oh wait nm i got it

An ex-lover tried and failed to have Facebook sex with me today. I kept switching over my chats to Stevie D at the tarot party, "what should I say? what should I say?"

Tarot party?

I'm at a downtown gay bar and idk...anybody-could-be-that-guy kinda feeling. Sort of bugs me to give up detachment. Esp since ACBTG is suspect by association w/ ABBA.

xp What do you wear to an event where "tarot attire is highly encouraged"?

Well I was going to talk to this one guy who seemed cool (40-ish, thick build, very guyish, strong-looking fingers) but wound up at the hotel room of a somewhat overly-instense mother of two from San Francisco.

I had been about to say hi to the guy but his friends showed up. Chatted with intense SF-hip mom (who was completely obsessed w/ the state of her lipstick and lipliner) and next thing I knew, the bar closed (time change nullified Saturday late closing times) and the guy had left. :(

The woman and I were going to go to another bar, but she didn't have her ID and bouncers turned her away. So we hung out on her super plush bed, ordered room service and enjoyed her mini bar until 5:30. She insisted on sending me home w/ a bottle of OTC Canadian Tylenol + codeine.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yaaTQLMEETw

omg.

i've been chillin with a designer a lot lately. it's fun, we talk shop.

I do the same with my garbageman.

he liked my new oversized white sweater vest for springtime :P (not the garbageman)

surm was it prabal gurung

was it kate mulleavy

hi, gays!

http://www.nextmovie.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/spring-breakers-spring-break-forever.gif

need a spring thread

and to nuke spring break

hey surm do you like my Mariah Carey ringtone I made?

https://www.mediafire.com/?7hmlm2sfo9xp6j9

since i'm going all out today (no pun intended)

i might belong here but idk. just gonna say that for now. it might be more complicated tho?

considered posting something for a bit now but everything's still not obvious for me where i stand. hope that's ok

\(^o^)/

insider pro-tip: making out w/ dudes is the best

of course that's ok - please post!

stevie love the ringtone. and i agree re- your last statement

xpost have not done that particular thing. thanks surm

xx

hi markers, you've always belonged here!

thank you. however i identify is kinda up in the air right now, but it possibly/probably won't end up being straight

i guess it was straight until 2008 when it became bi (i think), then in 2009 it started to turn into gay and that might be me but we'll see

the last time anything happened with anyone was in 2009. well, eh, stuff dragged into 2010 but not "stuff" eh. yeah.

idk how you identify to other people is not that important rly, just be truthful w/ yrself

i feel like i'm probably gay maybe but i've gone a lot of my life thinking otherwise before that so my head isn't exactly clear

maybe i'm still partially in denial

well I mean you rly like Taylor Swift so you've got that going for you

markers! hey man

idk how you identify to other people is not that important rly, just be truthful w/ yrself

― clouds, Thursday, March 27, 2014 4:14 PM (58 minutes ago) Bookmark

this seems like good advice. i think even how you identify yourself to yourself is not really even that important -- it's mostly just the norms of society imposing themselves on your brain. do what feels good.

fortunately, markers, you'll find us a critical, judgmental bunch

And yet none of us have corrected the winter/spring thread discrepancy.

should we take this to the spring thread? im gonna post in the spring thread to get it started

oh i didn't know there was a spring

mods lock thread!

ringtones for a broken GAY SPRING 2014