C or D/S&D: Songs that are supposed to make you feel sorry for people much richer and better looking than you

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Inspired by the description of the new Avril Lavigne song (which I haven't heard). Songs in which the singer complains about how shitty their life is because they are rich and famous and they have no privacy. Top example that I can think of is Britney Spears' "Lucky," and possibly that Pink song about pills (though I've never listened to it long enough to find out what it's really about). Does anyone like these songs? Does anyone actually feel sorry for the singers? What is their purpose? What is the earliest example of one that you can think of? Who has a good idea of a name for this specific genre of song?

Nick A. (Nick A.), Thursday, 5 December 2002 14:56 (twenty-three years ago)

Like the last two Eminem albums?

Emmet Matheson, Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:02 (twenty-three years ago)

Most Michael Jackson records after 'Off the wall'.

I veer between feeling extremely sorry for him and thinking he's a bad man. (Sorry, I know there's another thread on this.)

James Ball (James Ball), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:05 (twenty-three years ago)

It's not exactly the same thing, but I get totally ill whenever I hear the Bob Seger song "On the Road Again"...like, okay, you're complaining about being on tour, about being on stage? Meanwhile, I'm out hear busting my ass trying to GET out on tour, to GET up on the stage? What the shit?

nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:08 (twenty-three years ago)

For a 'search' you probably have to look beyond a simple "My life's shit" whine-core song, cos who wants to hear that? This may not fit exactly into the genre as described above, but it's certainly (if obliquely) about the pain of fame....

The comparisons have been drawn many times between the subject of 'Long Black Limousine' by Elvis Presley and Elvis himself. The yearning to be somebody special, to be acknowledged by the people around him and the tragic fall. And the intensity of Elvis's performance I think proves the fact that he felt the song deeply, realised it had resonances in his own life. Did he know his life was on a downward spiral at that stage, even when he was making his best music?

You can probably also search some of his later 70s stuff, like 'Hurt'.

James Ball (James Ball), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:22 (twenty-three years ago)

i hate all these films where you're supposed to think that these rich hollywood actors are actually cops or spies or secretaries or stuff, and they're pretending to be hurt in fights and explosions when actually they're perfectly ok and it's just make-up and that, and also the satories are like written by these screenwriter guys who are just writers, not cops or spies, that totally sucks

mark s (mark s), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:27 (twenty-three years ago)

also like comics abt space, i mean wtf, how many comic book artists even went to the moon let alone other galaxies?

mark s (mark s), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:31 (twenty-three years ago)

A good name for this genre is 'Kurtpop'.

Tom (Groke), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:31 (twenty-three years ago)

Mark, are you trying to say that these singers are just playing characters who also happen to be rich and beautiful and famous but secretly hurting on the inside? Because you realize that actors in movies are playing characters, right, not themselves?

Nick A. (Nick A.), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:33 (twenty-three years ago)

The winner here must be Ricky Martin's fantastic "I am a lonely man". I can just picture him in his hotel room surrounded by fifty nubile young lovelies saying "girls, girls, shooo! get outta here! Ricky needs to write his song about how he's a lonely man, shoo!".

Lynskey (Lynskey), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:33 (twenty-three years ago)

Argh Don't Let Me Get Me Argh... if only for that bit in the video where she's being tortured in the mirror of the showers, and the gym teacher starts yelling at her - "YOU CALL THAT KICKING?"

Mr Swygart (mrswygart), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:34 (twenty-three years ago)

I guess this category could include just about any sad song by a successful artist (at least they'd be richer than me - they wouldn't have to be a successful artist to be better looking than me, obviously). However, isn't it a little silly to assume that just because someone is rich and famous that they no longer have problems or get depressed?

o. nate (onate), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:35 (twenty-three years ago)

yeah, playing characters, that's so fake, how can we get with that, why should i care about characters? real art is like when animals attack, except when that's faked with acting and writing and imagination and all that bogus stuff

mark s (mark s), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:37 (twenty-three years ago)

why should i care about songwriters who are like good at singing and writing, i only care about songs from the heart by people completely without talent or charm

mark s (mark s), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:41 (twenty-three years ago)

Or to put it another way, is there a way to express a feeling of sadness in a song without inviting the listener to feel sorry for you?

o. nate (onate), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:43 (twenty-three years ago)

Well why can't you appreciate both?

I don't find it's possible to listen to all music in the same way. Sometimes, like mark (when you turn his irony around) I can enjoy the construction of a performance, admire the artifice etc.

But I can sometimes just listen to 'heartfelt' music without having to analyse the 'filters' of the whole performance thing.

James Ball (James Ball), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:46 (twenty-three years ago)

yeah, playing characters, that's so fake, how can we get with that, why should i care about characters? real art is like when animals attack, except when that's faked with acting and writing and imagination and all that bogus stuff

The only way to satisfy both parties, it seems, is The Crocodile Hunter: Collison Course. Thus, Steve Irwin saves the day yet again.

Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:47 (twenty-three years ago)

Mark,
I'm not sure what you're getting at, if you read the way I phrased my original question, I think it's pretty clear that I would much prefer a well-written song about an interesting character than for a "real" song about a "real" person who has nothing interesting to say. It just seems disingenuous to suggest that when Eminem writes a song about how everyone hates him and how reporters hassle him when he's trying to hang out with his daugher, he's not actually rapping about himself but a character who is also a rich rapper with a young daughter who is constantly hassled by reporters. I'm sure he and Britney Spears are both really glad that you're around to protect them from me, though.

Nick A. (Nick A.), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:50 (twenty-three years ago)

However, in terms of songs that specifically bemoan the side-effects of being rich, popular, famous, etc., I would nominate "Idiot Wind" by Bob Dylan and "Homeward Bound" by Simon & Garfunkel. However, I don't think that they are really inviting our pity, or at least they are only doing so indirectly.

o. nate (onate), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:51 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm sure famous people are sad sometimes too, I'm just not sure how smart it is to expect "normal" people to empathize. I mean, I guess some people do, since a lot of those songs are pretty successful. Maybe I'm just a cold, heartless bastard, but I have trouble giving a shit about Britney's relationship problems.

Nick A. (Nick A.), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:52 (twenty-three years ago)

Identifying with or enjoying a song needn't involve assuming the songwriter is sincere or that the performer is singing about themselves. I am in love, and I identify with "The Look Of Love" - Dusty Springfield, who sang that version, is dead, and was mostly unhappy in love when she lived. Should that make a difference to me?

Tom (Groke), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:55 (twenty-three years ago)

Only if you're in love with her dead corpse. I hear that's illegal.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:58 (twenty-three years ago)

No, it shouldn't make any difference at all, Tom. But that doesn't mean you can't also be affected when you feel a singer really does mean it (man).

James Ball (James Ball), Thursday, 5 December 2002 15:59 (twenty-three years ago)

Right, that's why the songs I'm talking about are the ones that specifically complain about fame and fortune-related miseries, not just general sadness.

Nick A. (Nick A.), Thursday, 5 December 2002 16:02 (twenty-three years ago)

What mark means to imply, I think, is that surely whether the author of the song is rich or not, is irrelevant - the song is about the feeling which can be set in either the context of riches or of poverty. Creative people have the ability to write songs about things that are not their own experiences so these songs can be written well even if they are not written by rich people. But in any case, talented people are quite likely to be super-rich, thus predisposing them to write these songs.

Jacob (Jacob), Thursday, 5 December 2002 16:08 (twenty-three years ago)

The question Mark is asking is - "Do actors mean it?". When any singer performs they are to some extent an actor, because even if they did write the song and 'meant' the song (in the romantic direct-channel-of-experience-to-art way you're meaning it) when it was written they clearly aren't going to be feeling that exact same thing on stage or on TV every time or even in the studio.

I think aspects of being famous probably do suck, quite a lot. Should they not be written about? When famous and rich people like Jay-Z write about the great things about being famous and rich they get accused of being empty and materialistic. What should they write about?

Tom (Groke), Thursday, 5 December 2002 16:10 (twenty-three years ago)

If they're so creative, why can't they write a song that dowsn't mysteriously mirror their own circumstances and lifestyle?

Nick A. (Nick A.), Thursday, 5 December 2002 16:11 (twenty-three years ago)

Wow, a lot of people know what Mark is trying to say!

In response to Tom's 2nd paragraph, like I said above, rich people can write about their problems if they want, I just don't understand why people would care, outside of a morbid tabloid fascination, or maybe to make themselves feel better about their own shitty lives. But obviously, I'm alone in not caring, so I guess Pink should keep feeling sorry for herself.

Nick A. (Nick A.), Thursday, 5 December 2002 16:16 (twenty-three years ago)

I can easily see why what Pink sings about gets people empathising. She's singing about her lack of confidence at her own success, her self-destructive professional tendencies, her distrust of/dependence on the business she's in - all things a lot of workers could quite easily sympathise with. That said I think "Don't Let Me Get Me" is pretty bad but not because Pink should shut up and quit whining.

As for "Just Like A Pill" it's a relationship song, and rich people's relationships suck almost as often as less rich people's.

Nick do you like Nirvana btw?

Tom (Groke), Thursday, 5 December 2002 16:20 (twenty-three years ago)

Argh, yes. I will attempt to defend myself, but obviously, feel free to see me as a hypocrite:
-I see Nirvana more as self-hating then self-pitying, and I don't think Kurt Cobain expected people to empathize with these feelings. In fact, he probably would have hated for people to feel sorry for him.
-The lyrics are not so much what appeal to me about Nirvana, and I don't usually pay too much attention to them. A lot of the abstractness/poeticness seems strained. I actually kind of like the more self-directed stuff (like 'Serve the Servants'), because at least up until he killed himself, it seemed more (intentionally) funny to me than depressing. I remember listening to In Utero and laughing with (not at) a lot of the things he was saying.
-And there's the nostalgia factor as well.
I do think Nirvana is different, though I can't really justify it 100% and I don't expect others to agree.

Nick A. (Nick A.), Thursday, 5 December 2002 16:33 (twenty-three years ago)

i don't like material girl as a song for the ways it's abt madonna's world, if it even is, i like it for the ways it's abt my world

mark s (mark s), Thursday, 5 December 2002 16:56 (twenty-three years ago)

Wait, this thread has gone on this long with no mention of "Jenny from the Block"? --In which Jennifer Lopez enlists KRS-One (in a sample) and some hack MCs (in a breakdown) to convince us that she is, despite all the rocks that she got, the same homegirl from the Bronx that her publicists would have us believe she ever was. The video just confuses the issue, depicting her being hounded by paparazzi everywhere she goes, alternately flustered and excited by the attention. You'd think they would have aimed for something close to a political ad, with Lopez kissing little black babies from the Bronx and macking on homeboys in bandanas, or just hanging out with some authentic-looking barrio residents on the stoop. But I suppose the video and the song being at cross-purposes does get a nice dialectic going on.

The funniest thing about the video though is the "hard" facial expressions Lopez strains to make in the segments with the MCs.

The song reminds me of those TV spots that corporations produce when they change their name, which simultaneously try to convince you that the name change will usher in a new era of innovation and growth, and that the name change means nothing and you can still trust the same old people with the same old great services. So J-Lo's changed, but she hasn't. She's rich and glamorous, but she's still Jenny from the block. She's in control, but she's hounded by paparazzi.

In any case it's weird to hear a song that whatever its musical values, was so obviously the result of a marketing meeting.

I don't have much sympathy to expend on Lopez, but I wouldn't wish that level of success on anyone. That she obviously wanted it badly does not make it any less of a bind. Now Elvis, I feel sorry for. I'm not sure he knew what he was getting into.

Amateurist (amateurist), Thursday, 5 December 2002 17:10 (twenty-three years ago)

J-Lo is on fairly safe ground though - none of the people who don't believe pop stars when they say "I'm just the same as I used to be, I'm really down to earth" knew them before they were famous, so it's all assumption one way or another.

Weirdly though I don't think it is a marketing strategy. Anyone in marketing would have told her that doing a track which goes "I'm really real I told you" after doing a track called "I'm Real" is courting ridicule, overstating the point (and lo, everyone is taking the piss). Marketing people only care about 'realness' if the demographic do, anyway. I think it's a genuinely paranoid J-Lo impulse that makes her write/commission these lyrics.

Tom (Groke), Thursday, 5 December 2002 17:29 (twenty-three years ago)

J-Lo should run for Congress (for a district in the Bronx, natch).

hstencil, Thursday, 5 December 2002 17:33 (twenty-three years ago)

"Money" by Pink Floyd. Man, I hate that song.

Regardless of whether a given performer is "acting" or literally singing about themselves - the subject of pitying the rich and powerful is not really all that interesting, and at worst it's downright offensive. For the same reason I can't read novels with characters I don't care about (either positively OR negatively), I don't really have any interest in songs that are about people/issues (in this case, the "trials" of the rich and powerful) that don't deserve my attention.

Shakey Mo Collier, Thursday, 5 December 2002 17:39 (twenty-three years ago)

"Well you walk into a restaurant, strung out from the road
And you feel the eyes upon you as you're shakin' off the cold
You pretend it doesn't bother you but you just want to explode
Most times you can't hear'em talk, other times you can
All the same old cliches, Is that a woman or a man?
And you always seem outnumbered, you don't dare make a stand"

Nickalicious, I have to disagree about "Turn the Page", if that's the Bob Seger song you mean. Ol' Bob was hardly a star when he wrote that one, and his self-pity sounds well-earned, evoking that now-forgotten world of the moustachio'd arena-rock gypsy. So, hurray or boo to that most rockist of devices, the "road" song? Hurray, IMO -- what else were these dudes supposed to write about?

briania, Thursday, 5 December 2002 17:51 (twenty-three years ago)

the verge

mark s (mark s), Thursday, 5 December 2002 17:56 (twenty-three years ago)

i dont like it when people who become rich & famous one day wake up and still write songs pretending they are the same as they were before and have the same feelings and are still like me when theyre not any more the bastards

artiestrauss, Thursday, 5 December 2002 18:36 (twenty-three years ago)

I'll second "Money" - patronising wankers.

chris sallis, Thursday, 5 December 2002 19:26 (twenty-three years ago)

Y'know, I never paid any attention to the verses in that song ("On the Road"). I can understand THAT verse for sure (as I've been there, with the stares and whispers and whatnot...YOU try walking into a Waffle House in rural West Virginia at 11 pm fresh from a gig all sweaty and red-faced from the heat of the "hamburger lamps" and wearing velvet pants and having shaggy hair and see if you don't get the same). Maybe I never gave that song a fair shot.

Eh, I still don't like it...now I have to come up with a whole new reason.

nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 5 December 2002 19:34 (twenty-three years ago)

Can't just about Thom "Wahh!" Yorke has written by applicable to this thread?

Oh wait, we can feel sorry about how ugly the MoFo is

Vic, Friday, 6 December 2002 01:37 (twenty-three years ago)

doesn't The Wall and goodly portions of the Eagles' songbook fit this description?

(though i happen to like the former and despise the latter with every fiber of my being)

Tad (llamasfur), Friday, 6 December 2002 01:49 (twenty-three years ago)

"It's starting to get cold out for people who live like me" - Jackson Browne (note - this was 1980, not 1969)

dave q, Friday, 6 December 2002 06:58 (twenty-three years ago)

i do not have such a reaction to any song because there is nobody richer or better looking than i, brendan o'henesey.

brendan o'henesey, Friday, 6 December 2002 07:29 (twenty-three years ago)


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