ILM'ers, have you ever decided against dating someone because they have bad taste in music?

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well?

― Michael Taylor, Thursday, 23 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Hm...as most of the people I've dated were folks I was interested in partially *because* they had good taste in music, even if it didn't always match with mine, I'd have to say no. ;-)

― Ned Raggett, Thursday, 23 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Nah...unless they liked country music, I guess.

― Ally, Thursday, 23 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I kinda like a girl. Who IS A GENESIS FREAK. The Pete Gab lover par excellence. I mean she just got herself a tatoo of some picture from their 70s record covers. That's just too much to handle, so I consciously decide against trying to handle it. Like the goth chick says in "The Craft": Punk rock, let's go!

― Simon, Thursday, 23 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Yeah, when I was young and uptight. Gay people generally have such terrible taste in music, you know. Now I really don't give a shit. Plus show tunes and hi energy rock, I have come to realize.

― Arthur, Thursday, 23 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

no way, total opposite, I most loved a person who played bass for the Exponents! No-one except a NZer will understand this, but NZers will groan or puke! And my best friend loves Possum Dixon.

― maryann, Thursday, 23 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I don't even KNOW any peopole who have bad taste in music.

― duane, Thursday, 23 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i decided not to go out with someone because he told me he learnt to play guitar to "appetite for destruction". i kinda like that record, but i couldn't abide someone who plays guitar like slash.

― lady die, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Not so much because they don't like the records I like - it depends on how they talk about things. If they only had three CDs but they were really into reading and could talk to you about books they love, or politics, or something like that. I just can't stand people whose whole life is based around some obsession with no redeeming virtues, like clothes or sports.

― Dave M., Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

No, becuase i am the one with bad taste in music

― gareth, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I've heard of the Exponents. MARYANN HOW COULD YOU

― dave q, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Yes.....god yes. That's why I'm single. I go off people based on their interests, since as I keep saying, at my age most people are defined by them anyway. I'm caught in a dilemma right now about whether I should date this girl. Reasons against, 1.She's my friends ex, 2.She has the Wheatus album. As for what Ally said, I wish I could find someone who liked country. Not a big red faced yokel or anything though.

― Ronan Fitzgerald, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

You can learn to love the Wheatus. Teenage Dirtbag roX0r!

― Richard Tunnicliffe, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

My boyfriend likes Westlife, but I with the help of therapy I learnt to deal with it.

― Tim, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Don't tempt me, my mobile is in and out of my hand all day, basically if I don't call today my chance is gone, I would think. If I do, I sort of have to take my chance.

― Ronan Fitzgerald, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I seem to remember agreeing to do "Teenage Dirtbag" at karaoke. But I won't.

I used to think I could change my girlfriend's music taste. I couldn't at all. I never thought oh, I'd better stop going out with her then, even when she bought a Capercaillie record. And it's a good thing I didn't change her tastes since I liked a right load of shite back when we met. And all has worked out well, awww, because now we like a lot of the same stuff anyway i.e. "Romeo" and "One More Time" and Britney, loved by everyone in the world except Grinchy old Pinefox.

― Tom, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I don't really trust women with good taste in music. They're too smart for me. Beside, where's the fun in playing something really abrasive if they like it too? See, I can listen to Texas and Shania Twain all day if necessary, so they don't even have a counter- weapon.

BTW - Ronan, call her TODAY! Be reckless in haste, tell hilarious tragicomic anecdotes at leisure.

― dave q, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

In my somewhat biased opinion, dating good friend's ex = monstrous fucking DUD. On a side note, I'd like to express my deep personal gratitude for the existence of the song "Prayer To God" by Shellac.

― Dave M., Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I agree, it seems like such a dud. But he broke up with her, and he doesn't care. But yeah to me it seems like a dud. But she is very nice, I still haven't called. Thing is I don't know how much I actually care, thats why I think I need to get drunk and snog her so as to find out. Its been a method of testing since medieval days

― Ronan Fitzgerald, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Good god, what does 'actually caring' have to do with anything?

― dave q, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

The answer to the question is "yes", but not so much because of taste but because of the assumptions underlying his choices, i.e., anything "soulful" - white *or* black, but curiously, mostly "soulful" white guys (Van Morrison, the Buckleys, Springsteen). Also, any black women singers but no white ones nor any contemporary black women singers (He was white). I'm sorry, but that's just way too "liberal" and sincere for me. I thought of passing him a Tiny Tim CD under the guise that it was really "soulful". Also for liking Tina Turner better than Ike Turner, and I think he was faking it because he wanted to seem more "sensitive".

― Kerry, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Oh, also a person who liked "everything", or at least anything remotely canonical. The only exception might be bad local bands or something. He had no interesting dislikes at all. Like the opposite of Tanya.

― Kerry, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

no, but i have dated otherwise undesireable people because they had good taste in music.

does that answer your question? ;)

sarah

― sarah, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I am pondering dating deaf guys. Heck, you can talk to them for hours withough being interrupted and listen to YOUR CDs and not have him moaning about it.

― nathalie, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

dated a girl whose favourite ever song was 'wonderful tonight' and HATED everything i listened to, but she was such a peach i never minded. we split up amicably after two perfect years, but not before she took me to see simply red at wembley.

― stevie, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

no but i've used it to console myself. "fuck, who needs her anyway? she likes tortoise and hates chuck eddy."

on another note, the tastes of someone you like can start to seem much more appealing than they would be otherwise. i almost liked sarah mclachlan and u2 at one point.

― sundar subramanian, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

There are many many pretty, intelligent, friendly and lovable people where I live, and quite a few love country. Or buttrock!

It is pretty ridiculous to shun someone because they have bad taste in music. I say this because I realize otherwise I would not get asked on many dates. :)

― 1 1 2 3 5, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Cockfarmer: you still listen to a right load of shite, as you demonstrate every time you post to ILM or DJ at your club.

― the pinefox, Sunday, 26 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

no, but i got chatted up by a girl on the subway (!!) and it turned out that she played the vibraphone. anachronistically beguiled i checked out her website, the address of which she shouted to me as the doors were closing, and it was shite so i never called her. brush up that HTML, subway hopefuls!

― Tracer Hand, Sunday, 26 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Dude hey, any broad who'll give you her web address on the subway and doesn't know HTML is the shit, you should get some of that.

― Otis Wheeler, Monday, 27 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

eight months pass...

Well if I did, i'd never get a date cos all my generation listens to rap and othere such crap.

― Anna Rose, Wednesday, 8 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Im marrying one. She used to have good taste (actually I think she pretended to like good music when we started dating 6 years ago)and now she has no interest in music of any kind. Its sad really. I'm going to start slipping headphones on her when she sleeps to get her to like music again.

― Chris, Wednesday, 8 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Aha. I started a thread along similar lines recently, and I just wrote on another thread that I have a date coming up with a classical/opera pianist - music that I hate. Why do I therefore have no problem with that musical preference when I wouldn't be at all keen to date a fan of the Stereophonics?

― Martin Skidmore, Wednesday, 8 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

two years pass...

Yeah i don't know whether to date someone who likes Westlife. Its a present dilemma!

― Cindy Jones, Friday, 14 January 2005 16:16 (twenty-one years ago)

My answer to the original question is: No, but I should have. If that helps, Cindy, take it.

― Rick Massimo (Rick Massimo), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:28 (twenty-one years ago)

i once dumped a girl based on the contents of her e section alone. enya AND everlast = seeya.

― mark p (Mark P), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:31 (twenty-one years ago)

About ten years ago I turned down a chance to date someone based on the fact that she liked "cheesy" Europop dance music and not the "cool" house and techno that I was into.
She was an absolute cutie, too. What the fuck was wrong with me?

― Tantrum The Cat (Tantrum The Cat), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:40 (twenty-one years ago)

I had a thing with a girl who boasted that one of Coldplay asked if she'd sleep with him (probably the dickhead bassist). She declined, cos she was with someone at the time. But she was a big fan of both them Travis and...and...Matchbox Twenty. Oh dear. She was a hottie though. I bumped into her a while back on her way back from...a Damien Rice gig. She looked better than ever. :(

Still, there are more important things than music - like books, films, art, politics and a sense of humour. As somebody said earlier, as long as it's not some worthless obsession like fashion or sport.

― stew, Friday, 14 January 2005 16:44 (twenty-one years ago)

i once knew a girl who slept with the lead singer of matchbox twenty. i didn't like her much before i found that out, but after i knew, i could barely look at her face without seeing the back of his head.

― mark p (Mark P), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:50 (twenty-one years ago)

NO!

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:51 (twenty-one years ago)

no no, it's true.

― mark p (Mark P), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:51 (twenty-one years ago)

That's horrible Mark. There was a girl who was into Neil Diamond, but after seeing the Last Waltz drunk on wine I think he might just rule. He blows a half-assed Dylan away, that's for sure.

― stew, Friday, 14 January 2005 17:00 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah, neil diamond i could totally handle.

― mark p (Mark P), Friday, 14 January 2005 17:01 (twenty-one years ago)

(my s.o. liking him, i mean, not him and i in a romantic relationship. not gonna make that mistake twice.)

― mark p (Mark P), Friday, 14 January 2005 17:02 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm with Ned way upthread. Being interested in music is one of the main reasons I've been attracted to many of the people I've been attracted to. I have dated women who liked music that I wasn't particularly fond of, but they were interested enough in said music to be passionate about it, and ultimately that's what I like (though it's always cooler to have at least some crossover in your musical passions of course).

Also, this is bunk:

i decided not to go out with someone because he told me he learnt to play guitar to "appetite for destruction". i kinda like that record, but i couldn't abide someone who plays guitar like slash.

Learning to play along with an album does not equal playing like the guitarist on the album. Lord knows I don't play like Peter Buck.

― martin m. (mushrush), Friday, 14 January 2005 17:34 (twenty-one years ago)

I was in a serious relationship with a girl who I found out couldn't bear Syd Barrett. My friend and I were getting high listening to The Madcap Laughs and she kept whining until we put something else on. Things got less serious after that. When one night she got up and turned off Harmonia's De Luxe, tssking my objection as though I should understand how irritating that album might potentially be, I'd had enough.

― Hubert Jarrod, Friday, 14 January 2005 17:43 (twenty-one years ago)

Yup. Though I have a lot of different stuff, there is no reason I would have a bunch of pop albums that have been all over the radio for the last decade, dozens of dance music singles and cds, and goth and hip hop are other interests that seem to be "at odds" with my general lifestyle choices.

But, if the chick looked totally normal, didn't cop an attitude or fashion in-line with her musical preferences and didn't go dancing every friday, the music wouldn't matter much as long as I didn't have to listen to it. What are the chances of any of that, though?

― Milton, Friday, 14 January 2005 17:44 (twenty-one years ago)

The conversation on the last date I went on with a girl led to concerts we'd attended, which led us to listing which bands we'd seen three or more times. "Violent Femmes, Korn and Dave Matthews Band," she said.
"I'll forgive you Korn but never...never Dave Matthews," I said.
She went on and on about what great musicians they were and such...the usual defense with this band. All the fun got sucked out of the evening right then and there, although her ordering a rum and coke with no ice "because it gets watered down and you get more" didn't help. You're lost, little girl.

― p.j. (Henry), Friday, 14 January 2005 18:00 (twenty-one years ago)

looks like there's another milton round these parts these days

― milton parker (Jon L), Friday, 14 January 2005 19:29 (twenty-one years ago)

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