"Welfare Mothers Make Better Lovers"

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Huh? They do? Why?

Is Neil just stating the sexual facts as he sees 'em here, or is he trying to make some larger point? Surely he's not just having a mean-spirited laugh at the expense of all those DEE VORR CEEES?

Buffalo Mozzarella, Tuesday, 21 October 2003 13:39 (twenty-two years ago)

On this thread, it's claimed that "Welfare Mothers" is "much more offensive" than "A Man Needs A Maid." Would this song piss me off if I understood it better? As it stands, I'm just kind of baffled...

Buffalo Mozzarella, Tuesday, 21 October 2003 13:40 (twenty-two years ago)

"Hard to believe that love is free now."

Ah, maybe it's one of those dark-sixties-hangover-in-a-Joan-Didion-steelo kind of stories!

The barefoot hippie girl followed her spirit like she was chasing a butterfly, and that fluttering spirit led her right into the laundromat. (And if you've spent any time in a laundromat lately, you know what a grim fate that is.) Now Neil's watching her herd a mob of crying kids towards the quarter machine, and he's thinking A.) "free love my ass!" and B.) "damn, she's hot!" (Being a burnt sixties idealist himself, he's got a weakness for those faded party girls.) In his usual hamfisted style, he captures the moment by pointing a guitar towards the sky and shouting out "welfare mothers make better lovers!"

He may be an incisive social commentator, but suave he ain't. No wonder the poor guy is always so lonesome...

Buffalo Mozzarella, Tuesday, 21 October 2003 15:30 (twenty-two years ago)

"Hard to believe that love is free now."

yeah, that's the key, though it's the broader principle and the point may be more narrow. i.e., many welfare mothers are single, abandoned by the fathers of their kids if they were ever attached. would you, Neil Young fan, date a welfare mother? i'm guessing not, or you'd never think of it, etc. now see, Neil has a problem that.

gabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 02:52 (twenty-two years ago)

with that, that is.

(or is this some "Thrasher"-like parable that I'm totally missing?)

gabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 02:54 (twenty-two years ago)

well, mr. young did say not too long after "welfare mothers" that he liked ronald raygun?

Little Big Macher (llamasfur), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 02:57 (twenty-two years ago)

well, he's a big kook, no? i mean, i'm no expert on him, but I thought the idea was that Reagan appealed to his populism/cowboyism? and wasn't he anti-commie/hawkish? as Xgau noted, once a Yalie president took over, he (along with most of the "Reagan democrats") changed his tune quicklike.

gabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 03:00 (twenty-two years ago)

though Xgau says the rise of crack was what really inspired the attitude change on Freedom. always with the drugs that Neil Young.

gabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 03:09 (twenty-two years ago)

I never took the song to mean much more than it appeared. I thought it was just a bit of a joke .. I say that in light of other lyrics from the same record:

"She stopped to see herself in the mirror, fix her hair and hide her vein - THEN SHE LOST THE GAME"

Not meant to be meanspirited but just sardonically real...? i.e. the poor/meek/losers will always be poor/meek/losers as long as someone's taking advantage of them.

dave225 (Dave225), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 10:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, gebbneb, I was trying to make a point similar to yours, but sleep deprivation turned it into an odd little tale of Neil Young macking at Laundry Land.

Remember, kids: eight hours of sleep, every night!

Buffalo Mozzarella, Wednesday, 22 October 2003 14:22 (twenty-two years ago)

The added notion in my sleepy lil' story being: sixties idealism ("free love!") curdled into seventies family disasters ("I'm leaving you and the kids. After all, I've got to be free, love!"). So an old hippie like Neil can't help but feel a bit of guilt/ solidarity/ lust when he sees those welfare mothers loading the dryers.

Buffalo Mozzarella, Wednesday, 22 October 2003 15:06 (twenty-two years ago)

And of course one must consider the remote, distant, almost insignificant possibility that Young's songs are fictions with mixtures of characters and confessionals and not always simpleminded, autobiographical journal entries.

Dock Miles (Dock Miles), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 15:20 (twenty-two years ago)

"Thrasher" has just as much venom.

Rust Never Sleeps is an angry record.

To me, the strange imagery that Neil Young puts into his lyrics is one of the reasons that his music is interesting, like having conversations with Brando about the good things for sale in Hollywood while in the Astrodome at his teepee with Pocahontas.

earlnash, Wednesday, 22 October 2003 15:27 (twenty-two years ago)

I never took the song to mean much more than it appeared. I thought it was just a bit of a joke .. I say that in light of other lyrics from the same record:
"She stopped to see herself in the mirror, fix her hair and hide her vein - THEN SHE LOST THE GAME"

Not meant to be meanspirited but just sardonically real...? i.e. the poor/meek/losers will always be poor/meek/losers as long as someone's taking advantage of them.

yeah, I think the record is sardonic, as mozzarella explains better than I would, but not a "joke". in these lyrics, he's angry at the game-loser. who's taking advantage of her, exactly, other than herself?

To me, the strange imagery that Neil Young puts into his lyrics is one of the reasons that his music is interesting, like having conversations with Brando about the good things for sale in Hollywood while in the Astrodome at his teepee with Pocahontas.

uh, meaning it "makes you think"? (not that I have any good idea what Brando/Astrodome are about, really)

hgabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 16:01 (twenty-two years ago)

By "joke" I meant sarcastic I guess - or not to be taken literally.
in these lyrics, he's angry at the game-loser. who's taking advantage of her, exactly, other than herself?

I didn't see it that way - I see it as a narrative about [the narrator] being a bit of an asshole. e.g. "I'm using too many covers - I'm warm now so I don't care." The pool shark is taking advantage of her in a way - taking her money .. but I didn't mean that to be the literal example - just in general, this pathetic woman loses at everthing and a hustler recognizes that she's a loser "she stopped to see herself in the mirror.." and has a bit of a conscience for a second, maybe - but then takes her money, easily.

So in reference to the Welfare Mothers - I saw it in the same vein (pun sort-of intended) that welfare mothers are maybe a little hard-up and will do anything for love/attention.. so go get yourself some welfare mother, because they're easy.. (Although I never really studied the lyrics - that was just the vibe I got..)

dave225 (Dave225), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 16:13 (twenty-two years ago)

what do you make of the multiple non-pool-hall verses of "Sedan Delivery"?

gabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 18:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think anyone here thinks of the song as an autobiographical journal entry, Dock.

I suppose my own posts on the subject would be more clear if I would stop imagining that the author and the narrator are both named "Neil."

However, Neil (heh heh) keeps the distinction nice and blurry, and in so doing he creates part of the "meaning" that I'm looking for, so I'm going to keep using that name for the both of 'em.

It's a safe bet, though, that the Neil I describe hanging out in a laundromat is not the one who's a successful recording artist. (Or the one who doesn't appear to have washed his flannels since 1966, for that matter.)

Buffalo Mozzarella, Wednesday, 22 October 2003 20:00 (twenty-two years ago)

>he creates part of the "meaning" that I'm looking for

Oh, fine -- long as it's clear this is about you and your attitude toward "Neil" or Neil, and has little to do Neil Young or the song "Welfare Mothers," which is clearly nothing more than a plea from a persona who says if you see some divorced Mom down on her luck you might consider her as girlfirend potential and not look down on her poverty. Don't see the least thing in the song about divorced Moms being desperate for love or dying for your dicks. Remember, this number appeared in the era of T-shirts and bumper stickers that read "Accountants Do It By the Book," "Fisherman Have the Best Lines" and so forth.

Dock Miles (Dock Miles), Wednesday, 22 October 2003 20:34 (twenty-two years ago)

The parallel drawn to those bumper stickers: very helpful.
The bile: much, much less so.

Buffalo Mozarella, Thursday, 23 October 2003 00:16 (twenty-two years ago)

I just figure he's pulling an Electric Six.

Anthony Miccio (Anthony Miccio), Thursday, 23 October 2003 00:31 (twenty-two years ago)

Well, I guess there's no point in discussing this song any further. Dock's got it all figured out.

It's a sophisticated fiction, using advanced literary techniques to convey an elemental truth: divorced moms are "dying for your dicks."

Buffalo Mozarella, Thursday, 23 October 2003 18:11 (twenty-two years ago)

If only that phrase would have inspired a bumper sticker fad:

"Accountants Are Dying For Your Dicks"

Buffalo Mozzarella, Thursday, 23 October 2003 18:14 (twenty-two years ago)

I like this song a lot. It has a stomping beat and is good to dance to, and I like the way the chorus is shouted out. I've never really bothered to analyse the lyrics. Isn't this essentially Neil Young's take on glam rock?

DV (dirtyvicar), Thursday, 23 October 2003 21:54 (twenty-two years ago)

You wouldn't think anyone could do the glam thang while simultaneously sporting suspenders, fake Adidas running shoes, and a Ken Burns haircut, but with a few handclaps and some shiny harmonies, Neil Young manages to pull it off.

The contrast between the glammed-out music and the gritty subject matter is interesting. Maybe Neil is trying to sprinkle some much-needed glitter around those drab laundromats...

Buffalo Mozzarella (bastarda), Friday, 24 October 2003 02:40 (twenty-two years ago)

Glam rock plus verbal grit also equals "the story of Johnny Rotten," no?

"Punk Rock is Dying For Your Dicks"

Buffalo Mozzarella (bastarda), Friday, 24 October 2003 03:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Maybe it's a very convoluted dick-size brag, as in 'despite the number of kids they've had, still feel 'tight' to me'

dave q, Friday, 24 October 2003 10:02 (twenty-two years ago)

Well...as most likely the ONLY former welfare mom to be on ILX...

the answer is of course YES :)

BurmaKitty (BurmaKitty), Saturday, 25 October 2003 14:10 (twenty-two years ago)

burmakitty you are not the only former welfare mama on ilx cos theres me too and i have to agree with you AND neil

hellbaby (hellbaby), Sunday, 26 October 2003 08:26 (twenty-two years ago)

Clueless as to circumstances around said song as I have not read a line of anything upthread, but I think the phrase is kind of cool and true, like the female-targeting counterpart to the notion that wiry poor guys are phenomenal pound-for-pound fighters (also cool and true). Poor chicks can milk ya, bwuooooooyeeeeeee.

DarrensCoq, Sunday, 26 October 2003 11:04 (twenty-two years ago)


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