favorite bands you cant listen to anymore

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so i grew up in complete worshop of the cure. from the age of 12, i felt like Robert and the gang represented me: my boredom, my romantic nature, my silliness, my uglier depressive side. then i fell in love with a girl in high school who loved them as well, and they were are band. we would make out to "kiss me" and cry to "disintegration". "Just like Heaven" was our totally cliche song, it was about us.

we broke up when i went to college, and tho i have listened to the cure since, i cant say i ever enjoy it. i bought the new one and had the same problem, Roberts very voice was ruined for me by the breakup and lonliness afterward.

long boring story short, The Cure are insanely important to my development, but i cant listen to them anymore. does anyone else have a story like this?

― JD from CDepot, Monday, 8 November 2004 04:21 (twenty-one years ago)

hmmm...for me, not really. i guess i'm sort of unusual in that i don't really get sick of bands taht i really love. well sometimes i do, but then i just take a break and come back to them.

― latebloomer (latebloomer), Monday, 8 November 2004 04:26 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm the same way with the Cure, another one was Jane's Addiction.... loved it back then but can't do it anymore.
Also there's been lees of it lately but Gang of Four & Pixies I have to watch out for, close to saturation point & I wouldn't want that to happen.

― autovac (autovac), Monday, 8 November 2004 04:26 (twenty-one years ago)

I used to do this with my very favoritest bands (e.g. Cocteaus, Mogwai, Labradford, Orbital) because I'd fetishized them to the point that if I listened to select tracks, my concurrent experience of them wouldn't live up to my valorized conception of them.

But now, a band's just a band!

― Leeeter van den Hoogenband (Leee), Monday, 8 November 2004 04:32 (twenty-one years ago)

Bone Thugs N Harmony (bumped em constantly with a 'best friend' that turned on me and actually jacked me)

Blur (exact same reason as JD's thread-starter)

Bon Jovi (used to love them but one night I tried singing Always at karaoke while on mushrooms and fucked up the high notes really really bad in front of a lot of people, and then I got all itchy, like even the tops of my feet were itchy, there was nothing I could do, that song is so hard)

― LeCoq (LeCoq), Monday, 8 November 2004 04:40 (twenty-one years ago)

Bone Thugs N Harmony (bumped em constantly with a 'best friend' that turned on me and actually jacked me)

See, that's wrong. You taught him wrong from right, I assume.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 8 November 2004 04:44 (twenty-one years ago)

The Beatles. I'll never stop liking them but I never feel the slightest urge to put on one of their records.

― Hurting (Hurting), Monday, 8 November 2004 04:50 (twenty-one years ago)

Discovery was our album, Digital Love was our song (how cool is that?). We both loved all the videos, and were very excited when we found out that Interstella 5555 - a full-length anime soundtracked by the album - was coming out. Our year-long relationship ended in December 2003, right before its release.. Knowing that I'd never be able to truly enjoy Interstella 5555 was the most frustrating part of our break-up. I still listen to Homework, but I have yet to listen to Discovery or watch said video. Someday I will.

― kinda embarrased to say (Cheek0), Monday, 8 November 2004 07:58 (twenty-one years ago)

I listen to my favorite songs no more than twice a year for the sake of preservation.

― Cheek0 (Cheek0), Monday, 8 November 2004 08:01 (twenty-one years ago)

It's not that I "can't" listen to 'em anymore, but I haven't had the urge to play Albert Ayler or Voivod or Ice Cube in a looong time

― Myonga Von Bontee (Myonga Von Bontee), Monday, 8 November 2004 09:53 (twenty-one years ago)

The Smiths.

Still like hearing them when someone else plays them. Can't face putting on an album of my own free choosing - there's always something I'd rather listen to.

― Bobby M, Monday, 8 November 2004 10:02 (twenty-one years ago)

I try never to attach a particular song or band or album to an emotional/romantic relationship, because I would fear a situation like JD's arising and I would hate to be unable to listen to my favourite songs again because of some unfortunate metonymic emotional baggage. Emma and I almost consciously never had "a song" or "an album" that was "ours"; sure there's loads of music we both like, but we like the music enough without trying to add some significance to it, and we love each other enough that we don't need external signifiers to represent that.

What Cheek0, Autovac and Leeeter say is kind of interesting, about not wanting to reach saturation point or wear-out a favourite record or artist, and I used to think that I did that, consciously not listening to certain records too often in case I (metaphorically) broke (my enjoyment of) them, but now I'm pretty sure that what I actually do is just listen to my favourite music as it is right now more, because it's more current. Like, I really love lasange and I know I'll pretty much always love lasagne but right now my favourite food is this mexicana cheese with chilis and potato and peppers in it, and I'm eating loads of that and I've not had lasange in months - it's not that I'm consciously avoiding eating lasagne at the moment, I just prefer the spicy cheese right now.

Is that an analogy too far?

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 8 November 2004 10:07 (twenty-one years ago)

Smashing Pumpkins. Hearing them on the radio or when someone else puts them on still makes my heart twinge with '90s nostalgia, but I'm never in the mood to listen to them myself anymore...if I try, I can never get through a whole song. I think I really just got over their sound once high school was over.

― eightpastfive, Monday, 8 November 2004 11:08 (twenty-one years ago)

Smashing Pumpkings [all], Ash [Girl From Mars], Reel Big Fish. God, the list goes on. No years have a soundtrack to them like the teenage ones do.

― SolitaryFish, Monday, 8 November 2004 13:54 (twenty-one years ago)

Sick OTM (if I understand you correctly) - I've been "preserving" songs less and less lately the more I listen to music - the solution to my problem is definitely to surround myself with so much music that I can afford to play a song out, because I'll forget about it faster. There will always be a handful of songs that won't enter my regular rotation, though.

― Cheek0 (Cheek0), Monday, 8 November 2004 14:29 (twenty-one years ago)

New Order-related memories are so excruciatingly horrible for me that I've been forcing myself to listen to them a lot in a sort of auto-purgatory therapy way after phobically avoiding the records for years. "The way out is through", etc. Sorry, that's the opposite of the question isn't it

― dave q, Monday, 8 November 2004 18:46 (twenty-one years ago)

Totally on-topic, though.

My current GF can't listen to New Order or Joy Division because they were more or less forced on her by first-ever boyfriend, a pro-life, born-again-Christian nutjob who also made her thumb through anti-abortion pamphlets (complete with photos of aborted late-term fetuses). Grim.

― Tantrum The Cat (Tantrum The Cat), Monday, 8 November 2004 21:38 (twenty-one years ago)

whoa. how did he feel about suicide, i wonder?

― peter smith (plsmith), Monday, 8 November 2004 21:39 (twenty-one years ago)

whoa. how did he feel about suicide, i wonder?

Said boyfriend later renounced his affinity for all secular music and burned his New Order, Joy Division, and Cure records. So I'm kinda guessing he was against suicide.

― Tantrum The Cat (Tantrum The Cat), Monday, 8 November 2004 21:50 (twenty-one years ago)

Whiskeytown, for a myriad of reasons

― Roger Fidelity (Roger Fidelity), Monday, 8 November 2004 21:53 (twenty-one years ago)

because they were more or less forced on her by first-ever boyfriend, a pro-life, born-again-Christian nutjob who also made her thumb through anti-abortion pamphlets (complete with photos of aborted late-term fetuses). Grim.

"I think you are a pig, you should be in a zoo."

― Scott Warner (thream), Monday, 8 November 2004 22:03 (twenty-one years ago)

For me that would be Yes (whom I worshipped back in the early 80s, but cannot tolerate any more for all the usual reasons).

― Anonymous Coward, Tuesday, 9 November 2004 20:24 (twenty-one years ago)

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