Parents forbidding music

Her picks for music:
"4 songs from the Barbie musical" single
"Rock and Roll High School" soundtrack
"Do they know it's Christmas" Band aid 20
"The Ramones" first album

No problems by me.

There were a few years in between these being turned off while playing...

i don't think anyone should try and influence kids listening that strongly. wait til they're adolescent innit.

Similarly, a friend of mine who was the All-American Jock type in high school was confronted by his father over his love of Duran Duran and Depeche Mode ... "you date girls, don't you?" He erased his fanhood out of appeasement, which is tantamount to parents forbidding them, I should think.

Major DUD.

Major DUD.

Major dud, indeed. My first girlfriend was a rabid Mode fan, so that calmed any fears my folks may have had about me being into them.

I hid risque stuff from my parents by wearing headphones most of the time and being very careful about what I put on the family stereo. For example, I remember getting the 12" of "Theme From S'Express" and being more than a little alarmed by the "Suck me off" break in the extended mix, so I made sure that never got aired around the house.

this was a reaction to a friend of mine who ran away because his parents raided his cassette collection. i do recall hiding my body count tape until they said, "oh, you listen to whatever you want."

i do remember some headshaking with "city baby attacked by rats" but they never even asked me to turn it down. i remember my dad actually being pleasantly surprised and somewhat confused by minor threat's lyrics as well. "oh, it's COOL to not like BEER?!?!" + holy shit i'm lucking out grin.
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i'm curious how his father knew that listening to duran duran or depeche mode presented a sexual identity issue.

Also when I used to tape the top 40, my dad wasn't overly fond of "The Male Stripper" by Man to Man meets Man Parish

But I got my revenge by buying the album with a WHSmiths gift voucher that christmas. I remember telling my mum, 'see i told you i'd get that song eventually'...

Not that I understood Relax's implications mind.

maybe they were pro-choice!!

If they were to ban anything, it would probably be crap like modern mainstream country on the account of it blowing donkey nuts!

In Wisconsin for my Grandfather's funeral when I was a freshman in college she wouldn't let me buy Lubricated Goat's "psychedelicatessen" when I was with her (I bought it later and she was ok with that even though, again, it was stupid)... she was ok with me buying Ministry's "Jesus Built My Hotrod" single which had just come out.

Otherwise.... well she's getting older. She once made me turn down a Blue Cheer record that had been hers. sokey though...they were good to me musically.

Um, EVERYTHING. Everything except country music and some oldies. My dad got special cable boxes that he could block out MTV with. Naturally, this is why I'm so into music today.

I remember my brother having to sneak a copy of Never Mind The Bollocks into the house inside the cover of No More Heroes cos our parents didn't like the idea of the song "Bodies".

That's some pretty in-depth knowledge of Sex Pistols album tracks they had there!

My dad did warn me off Chris de Burgh once, but I think that was a dad looking after his boy's taste more than anything else! He likes Dixieland jazz. so do I now.

I finally came around to enjoying some rock that was on the radio (Third Eye Blind, Smashing Pumpkins, Pearl Jam), having ignored it up to that point because it was associated in my mind with what I considered a stupid "rebellious" attitude or something.

And obviously I never had MTV (or indeed, any cable at all) until I was in college.

Silly parents.

Apart from that my parents never stopped me from playing anything, though they were never shy about telling me how crap it all was.

As for my own kids - I'll do my best to let them have as much freedom as possible to listen to whatever they like. I'll probably try to avoid letting them hear anything too explicit until they at least know what the words mean. My old son was mad on Psychocandy at the age of two ("play that boom boom song Daddy" was his way of requesting 'Just Like Honey'), I'm hoping this means we won't have too many records out of windows incidents in the coming years.

*oldest

she's never had Moral Objections to what I listen to--she just doesn't want me playing anything that isn't quiet/pleasant when she's in the room. It was fun when we were on JetBlue and she was watching Metallica/Megadeth videos on the little screen. Her usual exposure to such bands = whoever's interviewed by Terry Gross.

I had to constantly defend the record collection against surreptitious attempts to send it to the trash.

Lynyrd Skynyrd.

parents otm

when I was 6, my parents confiscated my copies of weird al's "dare to be stupid" (over the frankie says hollywood line "when you wanna cum" in his polka medley). they also took my wang chung album. I didnt understand why, but I recently realized it was because they said "fuck" in one song, a word I hadn't heard up til that point, but would later hear on my dad's grateful dead and jefferson airplane albums.

a few years later, my motley crue "girls, girls, girls" cassingle mysteriously disappeared. I have my suspicions.

fond memories of my old man saying "this is pleasant" about the sax intro to Small Change, then screwing up his face in horror when Tom Waits began to sing.

my mom forbade me from wearing my kill rock stars t-shirt to school because it had the word "kill" on it

My parents didn't ban me from listening to any music - in fact, I was exposed to the more sweary end of '70s punk from a very young age.

my parents never forbade me to listen to anything.

boggles my mind that in this day and age, this still happens, tbh

Likewise!

My mum did actually call me into her room and ask me if I wanted to ask her about anything because she misheard "kiss this guy" when I was playing Purple Haze when I was about 14. This honestly happened. She never forbade me from listening to anything though.

i started listening to rap music at a young age and i think my parents might have forbade their 9 year old son listening to snoop dogg if they'd understood what was being said.

I guess at this time in my life I was only listening to Public Enemy, Derek B & Jazzy Jeff & the Fresh Prince, not exactly NWA, but she never said anything about rap music. She hated metal but I didn't listen to that then.

I was technically not allowed to buy music with a parental advisory stickers but they bought me The Downward Spiral for Christmas in 1994, when I was 11, and my first music purchases were Dookie and Smash. So that was obviously a regulation without any teeth.

The last time I remember hearing anything about the content of the music I listen to was alarm from my dad about "Smack My Bitch Up" and "Funky Shit" on that Prodigy CD. I told him they were instrumentals.

"they bought me" = my parents bought me

Me too, my mom said that artists had First Amendment rights and that if she was offended by something she would talk about it with us but she wanted her kids to learn they could make up their own minds.

That said, I don't disrespect people who grew up with more limits in their house, many of them were friends of mine.

In my early teenage years, my mom would scan the lyric sheets and tell me what she thought about them: "oh, ok. this one song has an f-word and I don't really like that, but this other song is about homelessness, so they must be trying to send a socially conscious message."

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my dad would shit on a lot of the music i was into but never so much as forbid me from buying it

mostly metallica/nirvana. the funny thing is tho is that he'd make these critiques of my favorite bands so venomous that i'm still godawfully afraid to play any music of my own around him... i used to make absolute sure i never left any of my cd's in his car stereo nor ever listen to music when he was in the same room.

what music did/does your dad like?

10cc, according to his record collection, was his last favorite band so that might give a clue. otherwise, he was (or, erm, is) into obligatory dad-rock cornerstones like the beach boys/rolling stones/etc.

I dig the large majority of what he's into as well so it's always kinda perplexed me what about the generational gap causes one to simply *stop* liking music at a certain point. i'm sure there's master thesis's of some sort on this kinda stuff...?

as an example, i played SY's "sonic nurse" in the car b/c it's clearly the most classic-rock influenced album of their repertoire and i only remember neal young citing SY as one of his favorites (neal young being, of course, another one of my dad's favorites)

DID NOT GO WELL

*in the car with him

I remember my mom having a pamphlet that was given to her at church w/ bands & artists who should be forbidden in the home (this was a midwestern Baptist church & during the mid-80s heyday of Edwin Meese moral-majority bullshit & also the PMRC witch hunt). My folks stuck by the list until such a time as I was able to purchase my own cassettes w/ my allowance & paper-route money, at which point I was starting to squirrel away so many records that they got tired of trying to police it.

Wish I had a copy of that list.

weird to think how such a list today is a fucking impossibility

you can't avoid it on the top40, and otherwise there's just far too much shit too keep track of. seriously, when was the last "controversial album" released?

My parents never forbade any music, they werent really *into* music, so I wasnt even exposed to much aside from radio til I hit about 12, and then I was all about Howard Jones and such crap, which no one could object to (well not on moral grounds anyway, har).

That said, any time I put Dead Can Dance on my mother would poke her head in with a concerned frown and say "I do wish you wouldnt listen to such funeral dirges all the time".

(amazingly, she never objected to me badly singing along to Throwing Muses songs, for some reason).

can only imagine what lyrics like this

I throw an egg at this wall
I watch it break and slide
See my name
See my name on the wall

would do to a mom's head in trying to detect subliminal messaging