"Are you listening to that crap again ?"

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Is there music you love that (current or ex) significant other can't stand ? How about *their* listening habits ?

The mere mention of the Shangri-Las or "Ms. Jackson" when my girlfriend is around is liable to start a ruckus. We once had an absurdly long argument that started with her saying "are you gonna be listening to this kind of thing a lot ?" about the Giorgio Moroder record I was playing. Also, she's a classically-trained singer, and overly concerned with how anyone who sings in a non-operatical manner is allegedly ruining their throats :

-"...but Danielle, Tom Waits has been singing like this for 30 years !"

-"His throat is hurting like crazy, he just doesn't realize it. I feel pain in my own throat just listening to him !"

Lots of fun debates there. She rarely puts music on voluntarily, and for the most part, I can live with the opera, musical comedy and Jewel/Sheryl Crow stuff she enjoys. The big exception is that unspeakable über-wimp Michael Crawford from The Phantom Of The Opera. Plus that Goo Goo Dolls station she puts on when she's in her car.

― Patrick, Sunday, 18 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

An ex-girlfriend of mine couldnt understand why I listened to Sonic Youth non-stop. She thought I was some sort of a psychopath. Then again she liked The Corrs and The Cranberries, so what the fuck did she know?

― Michael Bourke, Sunday, 18 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I've never had a problem with girlfriends liking my music, but a girl I went out with when I was 16 loved the Cranberries, Delirious? and preferred the Placebo version of 'Bigmouth Strikes Again'. Many an amusing argument ensued, I can tell you.

― DG, Sunday, 18 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

"Love Spreads", the "Help" version. My fucking favourite song at that period, I played it all the time, LOUD, air-guitar-strumming and mostly air-drumming across the flat. Months went by.

Meanwhile, lurking in the kitchen, long Stanley knife tightly held in her hand, my girlfriend had finally decided to castrate my love spreading self. We split up, eventually. I still love the song...

― simon, Sunday, 18 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

My girlfriend (and her flatmate one Mr N Dastoor) gets very shirty when I try to play Lloyd Cole. I mean, have they got wax in their ears or something? Silly sausages.

― Ally C, Sunday, 18 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I would never want a girlfriend whose tastes in music were similar to mine.

That said, I'm convinced that every time I've been dumped it's been due to my hatred of the Beatles. No girl's broken up with me since I realized I love "Ob-la-di, Ob-la-da".

― Otis Wheeler, Sunday, 18 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Good question. My girlfriend is almost Tanya-like in her hatred for music (some exceptions, in the form of real good DJ's; Plastikman, Grooverider). Poor thing for all these years she endures stuff like Mingus, Aphex with nothing more than an occasional snide remark (which in general are spot on and very funny). Above all she hates Stereolab ("bloody schoolband", the ba-ba-ba's drive her up the wall).

― Omar, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

my Bf hate anything i lke muscially and makes fun of me constant ly for it, which is one of the reason i don't listen to much of my music and why i've grown to like Metal,... oh well i'm still a diehard Our Lady Peace fan, they're new one is just great too bad i have to hide it or face ridicule

― Mog, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

She doesn't like much indie - occasionally she'll like it but she doesn't like the miserable subject matter and nasal or ostentatiously quirky vocals much. I can't say she's exactly wrong most of the time, either.

My main problem with *her* taste is that she overrates some OK pop records and then overplays them if she buys them, cf Who Let The Bloody Dogs Out. But basically she's on the money with most of the stuff she likes, it's the stuff she disses that she's wrong on ;)

Current disagreements: "One More Time", "Ms Jackson" (she hates the former, thinks the latter is overrated) on her side. "Pure And Simple" on mine (I think it's second-rate, she likes it a lot).

― Tom, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Oi! I can't remember getting shirty over Lloyd Cole. I can remember telling Ally to TAKE IT OFF! when he played a Pines record for the tenth time in a row. Take the record off, that is. Not that it's a bad record, it's a very, very good record. I was just afraid he might wear out the vinyl, y'see. Did Patrick ask this question in order to see online fights break out?

― Ally C's Girlfriend, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Blimey. It really is all happening down here.

― the pinefox, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I happen to be very fond of a gold vinyl 12" of the Stone Roses' "Fools Gold", and I am prone to playing it *EXTREMELY* loud at just about any time of the day (or night). Not that any girlfriends/friends dislike the song, but I believe they get extremely irked at my repeated attempts to display its power over me.

― Tim Baier, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Anyway, who could get annoyed by Lloyd Cole? It's not really plausible.

― the pinefox, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

"Read Norman Mailer or get a new tailor"

On what planet is that not annoying?

And that's just for starters...I'll stop there to head off the dreaded "Lloyd Cole: Classic or Dud?" thread.

― Nicole, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

With all due respect: piffle.

― the pinefox, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Ally C's GF - Yes, I'd *love* to see fights break out over this thread, and I'm glad you defended yourself from those Lloyd Cole-bashing charges. Now if only Tom & Mog's significant others could come here and do the same, (and Michael and Simon's ex's !), I think we'd have one hell of a party.

― Patrick, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I don't like fighting women, this isn't fair. Plus I'm a wimp, so I'm not getting involved. I'm telling the truth about Lloyd though. And he's not annoying in my universe.

― Ally C, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Well, I used to date someone who refused to listen to anything but Pink Floyd. Hence my undying hatred of everything but the song Wish You Were Here. I mean, no other music existed in his CD collection, and he never wanted to hear any of my CDs. He'd say, "Oh, yeah, I like that band", and then I'd put it on, it'd be on for one song, and then bloody Pink Floyd would be back. ARRRGH.

And Fred liked the Magnetic Fields, which is even WORSE, and worse still the Beach Boys. Lethal combination, for me.

― Ally, Monday, 19 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Lloyd Cole played out here (NZ) a month or 2 ago, did anyone actually go? Anyway, yeah, the question , how about Zappa - whose girlfriend does not hate Frank Zappa?

― D. Zarakov, Tuesday, 20 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

If all women do really hate Frank Zappa, surely that's conclusive proof that women are inherently superior to men

― Mark Morris, Tuesday, 20 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

People who like Frank Zappa have girlfriends??

― Tanya, Tuesday, 20 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

::raises hand:: uh,.. i like frank zappa,... (is female)

― Mog, Tuesday, 20 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I did actually split up with a girl over musical differences once, as her favourite bands were whitesnake and def leppard, despite her bearing no outward signs of metallness...

Which leads me nicely to Mrs Carsmile who also showed no initial signs of being a metaller (dancing to suede, manics, smiths at local indie disco) and then from the depths of her record collection came marilyn manson, NIN and eek! Alice in Chains, but she'd got me hook line and sinker by the time i found all this out, so now she only listens to it when i'm out or on the internet :)

― carsmilesteve, Wednesday, 21 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

There's a reason I complain about Ms. Jackson-- it's a TERRIBLE song (stupid lyrics, bad melody, undiscernable verses, you name it)!! There's also Patrick's ability to denounce opera and some music theater because it's melodramatic and like the awful Shangri-Las for THAT VERY SAME REASON?! I mean, "And that's called... bad". Come on, gag me!

Just wanted to defend myself a little. And by the way, I don't listen to that station anymore, so :p@Patrick!

― Danielle (Patrick's girlfriend), Friday, 23 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

There's a reason I complain about Ms. Jackson-- it's a TERRIBLE song (stupid lyrics, bad melody, undiscernable verses, you name it)!! There's also Patrick's ability to denounce opera and some musical theater because it's melodramatic and like the awful Shangri-Las for THAT VERY SAME REASON?! I mean, "And that's called... bad". Come on, gag me!

Just wanted to defend myself a little. And by the way, I don't listen to that station anymore, so :p@Patrick!

― Danielle (Patrick's girlfriend), Friday, 23 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Oops.. sorry, didn't mean to post that same thing twice! *embarassed grin*

― Danielle, Friday, 23 March 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

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