Music Taste Turn-Offs II

To make me flee: Phish

make me flee: depends. how good looking are they? ;) dave matthews band, probably.

If they said Ocean Colour Scene I'm out of there though. Or The Doors.

Actually free jazz is cool, whatever Thom Yorke says and however badly Bobby Gillespie rips it off. Acid jazz though, that's another matter.

My answers. Win me over: Gainsbourg. Bound to be dirty. Well OK no, that's not serious. Um.....any combination of experimental thing plus Britney. Or frankly just Britney.

Flee: I've not been put off by Bryan Adams in the past, so this is a hard one. It would have to be a bad band which at the same time implied a love of music, so The Cure or someone. Or crappy downtempo abstract beatz.

that said, i have a soft spot in my heart for people who tell me they are into alva or mr. bungle.

and then there was the mix tape my radio dj crush of high school made for me: side a was 'naked city,' and side b had 'lisa's father' by alice donut, 'no no no' by yoko ono, 'z.n.s.' by einsturzende neubauten, 'smelly tongues' by the residents, nirvana's cover of kiss' 'do you love me?' and a few other tracks. (i should add that i made him a tape of both green river cds that i own in return.)

bands that will absolutely make me flee: counting crows. dave matthews. indigo girls. BILLY JOEL. (oh god, billy joel, oh my lord.) basically any band that people listen to 'for the lyrics.' some people just can't be helped, you know?

Funnily enough, I'll put up with a lot when it comes to SO's musical tastes. After all, I married someone who owns an Amy Grant album. (*gasp*) Had it been Michael W. Smith or Stryper, though, I'd still be running.

What music attracts me? House music. That ended up being the musical common ground between my wife and me when we were dating.

"I hate music, let's arm-wrestle" "Metal" "The Ramones" "Sleater-Kinney" "Jay Z" "The Archies" The best answer would be something totally off the wall like Billy Joel, or Michael Jackson, or Hall & Oates, or David Hasselhoff, that would pique my interest just from a curiosity standpoint.

Answers that would have me running the other way:

"Have you heard of Ani Difranco?" or the Indigo Girls or Crass or REM, etc. "Sean Lennon" "Electronica" (though chances are her skin would be so bad I wouldn't want to talk to her in the first place)

Incidentally, I've NEVER met a girl who liked Britney Spears.

Kris.

Winning me over? Scott Walker, Dusty and maybe Serge. Three of my all- time favorites, and also because I have never actually met anyone irl who said they like any of them.

I would say Britney but the straight men who seem to like her always seem to be 2 minutes away from begging you to dress up like her from the "Baby One More Time video. And that's just a bit sad, really.

Daphne and Celeste, maybe?

As far as turn-offs, there are many. I really don't care about people's taste in music until I come across something I absolutely loathe. It's funny Tom mentioned Bryan Adams, because I once met someone who liked "Bryan Adams newer material" (this was back in the mid nineties) and it just made my flesh crawl! "Let's Make it a Night To Remember" is a thousand times more disgusting and offensive than anything GG Allin could have ever come up with. That was the one time I can ever remember being repulsed by somebody based on music alone.

Stereotypical Radiohead and Belle and Sebastian fans annoy me too, they're just both so smug and irritating in their insular little worlds.

This could go on for days, but that's probably a couple of the bigger turn-offs...

I have however met people who like those three. Serge in particular goes over great at parties and a couple of my friends actually own his records, gasp. I just flat out refuse to go out with anyone who doesn't like Dusty Springfield. As for Scott Walker though, my cousin (an inordinately cool Kusturica/Foster Wallace/Black Sabbath freak) and my aunt are the only two people I've ever met who like him, or even know who he is. Obviously wouldn't wanna get it on with them though.

Also Britney, Outkast, and just about any good trashy rock - Stooges, say. Obviously girls who like free-jazz make me swoon, sometimes stalk.

Turn-offs: the fucking Beatles. Argh. Macy bleeding Gray. Girls who don't like hip-hop, rock, OR pop. Blink 182. Radiohead.

flee: strong love + bad taste is the key here pink floyd/santana/cream/dylan/springsteen/... + nothing postpunk except maybe r.e.m./u2/cure/radiohead + no pop (a girl who says "early yes" earns points though)

turn offs: RadioFuckingHead. Truth! I turned down a cute guy who had on an OK Computer t-shirt, purely for the reasons he had that on. Not even considered it. Not even flirted with him! That was just the end of it. So dont bother with Radiohead, lads.

Oh, to Kris: meet me, I like Britney Spears.

Actually I did meet a girl into Britney shortly after I wrote that. I even got to borrow her "Britney in Concert" 3-D view-o-matic (or whatever those things are called, where you look into them and flip from one picture to another.) She really wasn't that interesting otherwise, though.

Turn me off: "I like the Shaggs."

If someone came to me talking about how they loved the music of Morton Feldman and Ligeti and how Varese was too ahead of his time and Ken Nordine and late period John Coltrane and Lambchop and musique concrete really stimulates her and she explains the (only understood by freaks) ins and outs of Brian Wilson (circa Beach Boys) and can even find the right moments for side two 'Berlin' (Lou Reed) without getting offended - and this and that. Then, how she couldn't stand much of the 90's (especially grunge and gangsta rap) and how she hates "pretty boys", etc.

Well, I'd likely freakin learn to despise her at some point. As would she me. For being too alike. I've just found that doesn't work (not for me).

So, my last galfriend virtually only listened to fem-folk (ani to joni to indigo, etc). And my current virtually only listens to male musicians (with a blues slant - which I can't stand, for music to be overly slanted towards the blues, other than straight "old school" blues by the originals such as Skip James). And she seems (or, at least, seemed) to have a sweet spot for "pretty boy" types, at that even. Not someone whom I would have imagined being with, but...what works works...what doesn't doesn't...who knows how these things work out (I sure don't - other than possibly being a case where two people want to grow, so they call for someone different enough from themselves, as opposed to being around someone too alike, thus maybe not growing from one another quite as much, etc).

I won't date a man who listens to the Beach Boys or Magnetic Fields now. Though I have no plans to change my date anyhow.

Make me flee: i really like the new so-solid crew single.

Flee: Badly Drawn Boy. I was gonna say Jimmy Buffett, but that would be so freaky I'd find it attractive.

I might have said in the past Aphex Twin would make me flee, but it didn't so I can't. I guess if they liked Wheatus say or something really really shite like that. Ahem.

Let's be friends: Psychedelic Furs, anything produced by Scientist, His Name Is Alive, Teen Movie Soundtracks, White Zombie, Britney Spears, Snoop Dog, Orb, any rando Ninja Tune stuff

Get way you swarthy cretin: Godspeed you black emperor!, Belle and Sebastian, and Radiohead because they breed pretention. House music because it is so often meaningless background hair salon-y shite.

Turn me off: Oh, any sort of wibbling indie twee shite. Or shouty angsty boyrock. Or owning Ruts records. Or making me LISTEN to songs from said Ruts records OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN FORTY TIMES IN A ROW. Though obviously this is immensely counteracted by part one up there. ;-)

Turn-offs: Unfortunately I am too rockist in my tastes. I haven't been looking for four years, granted, but god forbid I ever have to look again... I've been spoiled. The current flame has impeccable taste in music, and the last ex turned me onto Shriekback, Depeche Mode, and 80s synth-pop in general. Those are some big headphones to fill. (ha ha, did anyone like my clever inversion of a cliche? no? i figured not.)

Don't give me that. That's a great reason for liking him. And I have the albums too!

Offs: Phishy jambandy shit; a record collection that's indie rock and NOTHING ELSE, Guided By Voices, Billy Joel, Sting, emo, Massive Attack (not that I don't like Massive Attack -- it's just that they make music for people who don't really listen to music), a preponderance of nu-New York/Detroit nonsense (I like some of this stuff, but people who go on and on about these scene bands are excruciatingly boring).

offs: nu-metal, avril, britney, creed, three doors down...etc.

Offs: Phil Collins, et al., ironic love (I'm sorry, but.), Ben Folds Five, actually my gf's taste is pretty bad but I don't really depend much on music as guiding my relationships much anymore, though it is a big part of my life (music).

On the other hand, if you're all about Tupac and Creed and Wall of Voodoo, then you're gonna have to find some other burger to sink your teeth in.

might reconsider: only Indian music (not because of the music but because of other things this might suggest), hardcore Tori Amos or Sarah McLachlan fandom, sXe hardcore bands, East Coast indie rock, Celtic-tinged CanRock, 4AD/Projekt type stuff

Lose: Basment Jaxx, Nick Drake, overly austere about the authentic.

Now, let's get back to being essentialist, prejudiced, and making knee-jerk judgments of people wholly on the basis of their musical tastes alone. Yay!

win me over: casiotone for the painfully alone, pita, the locust, drive like jehu, terry riley/lamonte young/steve reich, blechtum, karp, cherubs, pitchblende </my XGF>

Maybe- Sonic Youth,Lush,NWA,The Cramps, Monster Magnet.Genre: Pre-war Country

No-Billy Joel,Meat Loaf,Greatful Dead, Modest Mouse, Bright Eyes, Hawkwind (non Lemmy era) Genre: Electroclash

It's turned out that the people I actually had relationships often shared little to no taste in music. It's better if they have a *passion* for music, so they understand what I get so worked up about. But the individual overlaps? They almost never happen.

Hahahahaha, that's Emma! Only she's so not guilty about it!

Sorry, but it had to be done.

what does it suggest sundar?

[Disclaimer: This entire thread is about stereotypes and irrational biases.]

Dude, how much more right could someone be than liking Bowie as "that dude from Labyrinth"?! Nice. I'd marry that girl.

do you also like candle in the wind?

BTW; people who like Mariah Carey are smelly.

(Other turn ons/turn offs– I like girls who disagree with me and aren't afraid to tell me to fuck off. I don't like girls who are afraid to tell me that I'm listening to crap or that they only want to hear Madonna. My opinion's not sacred! Stop acting like it is! This, in fact, goes for everyone I meet, not just girls.)

turn off: DIDO.

turn off: non-women.

Turn off = Skrewdriver, which I mention only out of personal experience.